what if I cant get over my ex?

Question

goes without say... I should move on. 4 years... people have been together longer and have lost.

but what if I CANT. I mean Ive always taken pride in being this person with an amazing detailed memory. Nights are the worse... especially when not able to sleep.
So its hard to just forget.... I mean... I know we're not supposed to but I WANT TO! I really dislike hearing- Dont be sad that its over... but happy it happened. I get this... short of breath feeling, like its harder to breathe.... from time to time. I think its my own way of knowing I wont ever feel the same about a girl again as I did for her, OR EVEN someone will feel the same about me as she did.

Answer 1

Sounds as if you have not allowed yourself to grieve. Your relationship died. You have to treat it as it is - you lost someone important to you. You can find the steps of the grieving process on line. Once you've grieved, you can begin to heal, and then you can begin to feel comfortable with the "moving on" process.

Answer 2

I'm miserable myself. It is sooo hard not to think about them and all the memories. But what is kind of helping me is my friends and family. They are there for me and help me understand that it just wasn't meant to be. I believe there is someone out there for everyone and my time will come. Just try to keep yourself busy, as I am trying as well. And that other person will come when we least expect it. :)

Answer 3

You'll get over her, eventually. Sounds like she was your first love, and don't worry....no one ever forgets their first love. It just may take you a bit longer to heal than others. But you will, and you'll move on and it will just be a fond memory.

Answer 4

each person takes their own time to get over a relationship. be patient it will happen

Answer 5

cry a river, build a bridge and get over it!sooner or later u'll understand that she's not urs anymore and you'll get over her.