if you have any, how do you get on with your stepchildren?

Question

which is the best being a mother or like friends ?

Answer 1

If a stepchild stıll has a real mother around your best optıon is to be a bestfrıend. Don't ever try to take hıs/her mother place. But be a such a best frıend that stepchıld wıll see you closer than real mother to them. If chılds mother ıs stıll alıve and has acces to the chıld you are better off wıth beıng a very good frıend and assure the chıld that you are there for the chıld need. You be hıs/her best frıend when ever needed but you are ready to act just lıke the mother ıf the chıld wants you to. Wıth thıs ın mınd chıld wıll feel safe knowıng that she stıll has a real mother but also has a real frıend who ıs wıllıng to be chılds mother when ever the chıld ıs ready.
Beleıve me I know how ıt feels beıng step parents. You can do everythıng for a chıld and chıld can be as gretfull as ever but ıf you have a ınterferıng mother wıth jeolusy towards you no matter what you do you wıll always have a heart ache. If you want to have a happy lıfe be a best frıend to the chıld but make sure you are also best frıend to the real mother too. You wıll have better happines.

Cocuğun öz annesi senin mutluluğunu kıskanıyorsa, sen ağzınla kuş tutsan, o çocuğa değil en iyi arkadaş, gökten zembille inen bir melek olsan o çocuğa bir türlü yaranamazsın. Unutma ki bazı üvey anne/babalar uvey çocuğa öz anne/baba dan daha yakın, daha samimi davranıyor kendi öz çocuğundan farksız tutuyor ama senin mutluluğunda gözü olan gerçek bir öz anne o çoçuğu sana karşı çok kolay zehirleyebilir. 10 Yıl o çoçuğu büyütürsün ama bir gün ( on yıl piyasada olmayan) öz annesi çıkar senin tüm hayatını karartır.

Answer 2

I think a lot depends on how old the children are....I began my stepmothering when they were young....5 and 7.....and I always tried to be like an 'aunt' or loving adult, parent like figure. I never wanted to be mommy because they had one, and when you try to be a friend there is a measure of respect that is lacking....now that my stepchildren are older, I try to be someone they can come to and discuss things that perhaps they are too shy or awkward to discuss with their parents.

Be loving and respectful....it pays off.

Answer 3

Hi well I would like to let you know that know matter what being a mom is the one thing a child still need in her life but being her friend may help when it comes to advice but you have to remember that if you are her step mom she will say it at times that she is not yours so you have to realy watch how you speek to her and how you act .

Answer 4

a mother figure. if you start acting as a friend, she or he loses respect for you. then they think that they can get away with anything. (this is for step & real parents) i get along very well with my step daughter. she no longer lives with us, (she's 19) and when she calls, she'll talk to her dad, but sometimes she wants to talk to me about women issues, because for some reason she is unable to talk to her real mom.

Answer 5

at times be a mother....but be a friend too! Because if all you do is be a mother...it can really get on their nerves...take them out and do fun stuff like you were friends! it will reinforce your bond....but remember be a mom when its neccessary!!

Answer 6

I'm a step child and I get along great with my step dad. I think he is a great guy and treats everyone well.

Answer 7

great and both it depends on the situation-I wouldn't kiss him goodbye going out the door but I will take him driving so that he can pass his drivers test and help him with his homework and make him pick up his shoes etc

Answer 8

im a step child and my step mom is very bossy and talks about me behind my back but other wise shes fine o and she calls my dad stupid!

Answer 9

your a mother figure - dont ever forget that

Answer 10

carefull you sound like your asking a hidden question,and its a no no.