JW,when 2 active jw's are dating, exactly how far can you go with eachother until a "sin" is commited.

Question

like, i know they are supposed to have a chaparon each waking moment they are together so they wont be alone. does that mean they techincally cannot even kiss eachother before marriage or hold hands perhaps? when would the chaparon say ENOUGH. because i couldnt imagine never even kissing someone before marrying them. what if the sexual chemisty isnt there and you end up in a terrible marriage when you could of found out before hand. JW answers would be prefered but this is for the general public as well.

im sorry, but the clippings of "young people ask" did not help. its sort of giving permission to kiss and hug and stuff when marriage is imminate but just before thier permission is said, they go off in another direction. that is why i cant stand reading watchterror and awake mags because they hardly give you a straight answer.

Answer 1

If you don't have the dedication to God and the self control in the first place, It doesn't matter if you have watchdogs. Intent is what is at issue. so You do not need Chaperons, you need self control....

Witnesses have a very hard time answering mattes of conscience. It is my personal favorite type of question.

Answer 2

Cute. As I recall you at one point said you were a Witness at one point, correct me if I'm wrong, if so you would know that clearly it would be almost impossible and rather impracticle to "have a chaparon each waking moment they are together". Clearly if the couple wished to kiss they would do so. Decorum, and social climates would of course effect how they proceded.

I think it is so sad so many on here seem to see the idea of a chaparone as punishment. It is simply a helpful way to keep from making a mistake. Ultimately what the couple does is between them and God.

Answer 3

No one is committing a sin unless they are lusting, coveting, or fornicating. As long as people are dating don't do any of the above they arn't sinning. We have to remember that we are human and CAN"T READ OTHER PEOPLES MINDS only God can do that. It's not ANY ORGANIZATIONS responsibility to monitor young people. That is the job of the Mother and Father. As far as kissing goes that can and cannot fall into one of the sins I mentioned above. It's the job of the parents to train their child in the ways of the Lord so they can understand certain situations so the child can handle them responsibly and bring honor to the Lord and to his/her parents.

Some are quoting the awake! BTW, the awake mag is toilet paper. It's an addition to the Bible.

You shall not add to the word which I command you, nor take from it, that you may keep the commandments of the LORD your God which I command you. Deut. 4:2

Answer 4

properly the individuals who were antagonistic to the Nazi moves declared them unruly atheists even regardless of the reality that they never observed the prepare of Atheism. It changed into noticeably because of ways they dealt with the Jews like putting them in incinerators and the gasoline chambers even making the Jewish human beings dig their own graves in basic terms to be shot after doing so.

Answer 5

Vot Ana & Mr. Cal got close same answers. Vot Ana with the longer version. Some paragraphs are very interesting, and makes the imagination to stray. While at the very last end, there comes the solid ground advice.

Answer 6

some ppl would say before even touching because bad thoughts i guess some say is a sin

Answer 7

It's all the way Baby! Or you are a PT

Answer 8

kissing bad
needing a chaperon, that's messed up

Answer 9

Exactly what you said.

Answer 10

How Far Is “Too Far”?

If you are a Christian, you take seriously the words at 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6: “This is what God wills, the sanctifying of you, that you abstain from fornication; . . . that no one go to the point of harming and encroach upon the rights of his brother in this matter, because Jehovah is one who exacts punishment for all these things.”

So although you may realize that sexual intercourse by unmarried Christians is wrong, you may still wonder how God views kissing, hugging, or caressing someone of the opposite sex.

A Part of Growing Up?

First of all, it is good to keep in mind that the Bible does not condemn legitimate, clean expressions of affection free from sexual overtones. Ancient Christians were quite demonstrative of their love for one another. They would commonly “greet one another with a holy kiss.” (Romans 16:16; 1 Corinthians 16:20)

In a number of cultures, kissing and embracing are still considered appropriate ways to show affection for someone. However, many youths today show affection in ways that go beyond a reasonable definition of what is appropriate. One U.S. survey found that over two thirds of teenagers polled said that they had engaged in some form of petting involving the caressing of intimate body parts. Many started doing so as early as age 14. As found in another survey, 49 percent had engaged in petting to the point of sexual climax.

Some justify such sexual experimentation as simply a part of growing up.

The question is, though, How does God view such behavior?

When you are in “the bloom of youth,” sexual desire runs strong. (1 Corinthians 7:36.) Therefore, it is only natural to be curious about what it feels like to kiss or touch someone of the opposite sex. But 'The Family Handbook of Adolescence' points out: “Sexual ability precedes, sometimes by many years, emotional maturity.” Indeed, many youths do not fully appreciate that a kiss or a caress has the power to arouse strong romantic feelings or sexual urges.

Wisely, therefore, you must consider the consequences of engaging in conduct that arouses sexual feelings. What if you are too young to marry? Then why kiss or do anything in a way that would arouse you sexually? All that this would accomplish is to cause you frustration. This is because there is no way for you as a true Christian to take those romantic feelings to their logical conclusion—sexual intercourse. The Bible makes clear that such relations are proper only within marriage.—1 Corinthians 6:18.

Consider, too, the other person, who might be aroused sexually by your romantic activity. Is it not deceitful, and even cruel, to kiss or caress someone you are not in a position to marry or may not even seriously consider as a potential marriage mate? (Compare Proverbs 26:18, 19.) The Bible warns: “The cruel person is bringing ostracism upon his own organism.”—Proverbs 11:17.

It shouldn’t be any secret to a Bible student that a romantic touch or a kiss can arouse strong sexual desire. The Bible tells of the seduction of a young man by a prostitute. It says: “She has grabbed hold of him and given him a kiss.” (Proverbs 7:13.) Such a kiss or touch can trigger a profound physical response. As intimacies progress a boy or a girl becomes increasingly aroused. Frankly, the body is getting ready for sexual intercourse.

If a couple are married, they can satisfy their passions in a delightful and honorable way. But when an unmarried couple indulge in passion-arousing sexual play, problems are sure to result. In one survey, writer Nancy Van Pelt found that many youths who got involved in petting openly admitted they had simply got, as they put it, “carried away.” Typical is a young girl who was pressured into going further than she ever had before. Although she did not engage in sexual intercourse, she did allow the boy to touch her intimately. She says: “Now I feel terrible.”

What Is “Too Far”?

Some youths believe that as long as they don’t engage in sexual intercourse, they haven’t gone too far, that what they do isn’t really wrong. The Bible shows otherwise. At Galatians 5:19-21, the apostle Paul said: “The works of the flesh are manifest, and they are fornication, uncleanness, loose conduct . . . those who practice such things will not inherit God’s kingdom.”

What is fornication? The original Greek word for fornication is por·nei′a. It refers to sexual activity involving the use of the genital organs carried on outside the bonds of marriage. One girl quoted in "Seventeen" allowed her boyfriend to pressure her into performing oral sex. “I feel really stupid,” she said, “because all my friends say they do it with their boyfriends and I’m going to lose him if I don’t.” Research shows that alarming numbers of youths have engaged in that form of immorality. Nevertheless, such acts constitute por·nei′a and bring God’s disapproval.

The apostle Paul also linked fornication with “uncleanness.” The original Greek word, a·ka·thar·si′a, covers impurity of any kind, in speech or action. Surely it would be unclean to allow one’s hands to stray under someone’s clothing, to remove someone’s clothing, or to caress another’s intimate areas, such as the breasts. Why, in the Bible the caressing of the breasts is associated with the pleasures reserved for married couples.—Proverbs 5:18, 19; compare Hosea 2:2.

Some youths nevertheless brazenly defy these godly standards. They deliberately go too far, or they greedily seek out numerous partners with whom they can practice sexual uncleanness. They are thus guilty of what the apostle Paul called “loose conduct.”

Various authorities show that the original Greek word for “loose conduct” (a·sel′gei·a) means ‘outrageous acts, excess, insolence, unbridled lust, and outrageousness.’ Youths who practice loose conduct are like the pagans Paul referred to. Because of “the insensibility of their hearts,” those pagans came to be “past all moral sense, [giving] themselves over to loose conduct to work uncleanness of every sort with greediness.” (Ephesians 4:17-19) Surely you would want to avoid coming under such condemnation.

Realize, then, that one does not have to engage in sexual intercourse to go “too far” from Jehovah’s standpoint. But God says at Isaiah 48:17: “I, Jehovah, am your God, the One teaching you to benefit yourself, the One causing you to tread in the way in which you should walk.”—See also Galatians 5:16.

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