1. I'm pregnant with this guy I've been with for 10 months.
2. On November 3rd, he left me for this stupid *** ugly chick that he cheated on me with, i had no idea he cheated on me with her.
3. I did know that he cheated on me with this girl A LONG time ago, wayyy back in like March.
4. I'm 1 monthpregnant with him.
5. In the past 2 weeks, he's cheated on her with me 3 times involving SEX, and then hes pretty much cheated on her every day just kissing me and stuff like that.
I know you guys will probably just say abortion and leave him.
But I dont want ot have an abortion neither do I want to leave him.
I want to have this baby and I want to be with him because I am in love with him.
He tells me he loves me and gives me all these compliments about my body and stuff and about me sexually and all that kind of stuff.
But he still is with her and I don't know why??
What do you think hes thinking and what do you think I should do???
2007-11-16 10:03:23 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you can raise a baby by yourself, then keep it.
It sounds to me however that he doesnt respect you, hes only telling you these lovely things so you'll keep him and he thinks he can walk all over you.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
You should be with someone that loves you as much as you are loving, and that respects you, you should be all that he needs and all that he wants.
I hope you gain the courage and strength to go out and find someone you deserve, because if you stay with this guy, you are seriously lowering your standards.
Good luck xx
2007-11-16 10:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man.. where is doctor Phil now? You mentioned that this MAN cheated on you with this same girl before, back in March. That was not along time ago! I feel sorry for your child that will be brought into this world! This guy you are talking about here has some MAJOR commitment problems to say the least! Did you not consider birth control easrlier? You can still have this child and give him a life! But this man who is going to be the babies father needs to grow up and be a man for you and your child, today and tomorrow!
2007-11-16 10:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to have to say this but you are sounding a bit loony to me. This guy is acting like a 5 year old. You have hooked your wagon to a dead horse and he can't decide what he wants. As long as he can have it all he will never grow up. I don't favor abortion either. So have the baby, put it up for adoption and keep your legs closed until you can find an adult. Spend at least 5 years looking. You need that much time yourself.
Sorry about your experience, now all that can be done is learn from it. Good luck.
2007-11-16 10:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this is happening. I know it will be hard but you need to leave him. Im not saying get an abortion! Hell NO! I dont believe in that, but I do believe that he is just using you. He wants to have his fun and you are letting him. I wouldnt give him any type of kisses or even sex! I know you say your in love with him, but what if he is having sex with the other girl and isnt using a condom. What if the other girl has some type of HIV and then he has sex with you! you are putting yourself and most of all your baby in danger! come on girl, use your brain. I know everything is hard but dont be a fool. dont let him use you. what you need to do is think of your baby. Keep yourself healthy. If you say you are in love with him...then open up your eyes. if he cheated on you with her, and now hes cheating on her with you. Dont you see something here? hes always going to be a cheater. Im not saying he cant change but until then you need to cut everything off. Let him be in the babys life when its born, but other than that. No more sex. No more kisses! NOTHIN
If all that fails....all i can say is have a 3 some with you him and the other girl. That is ALWAYS fun!!!!
2007-11-16 10:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SCREW HIM. What a Bustard. You are pregnant and he is going to treat you like that. Have the baby Leave the guy. He is not worth your time He's a cheating ***. You can find a way better Daddy for your baby. Don't forget if you don't think you are fit to care for a baby on your own you can always thinking about putting him or her up for adoption. I would be hard but it could be the best thing for you both.
2007-11-16 10:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by snowflake311 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get an abortion. Keep your baby and love it. As for the boyfriend, i think you should dump him. I know you will need help with the baby and i know you love this guy but apparently he doesn't love you back if he cheated on you. Sounds like he is just with you so he can "get some." Take my advice and leave the guy. You will find someone to love you and your baby. They will love you for you and not your sexua; abilities. Have some respect for youself and your baby.
2007-11-16 10:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE BEING USED AND NOW ABUSED .... he is playing with you and he thinks he is just completely cool and you will be on the string forever and he can come and go when he likes without concern for you or baby------------- and he will not support your baby or you .... yes you are right abortion is not always the best solution but in this case it would be better to end both the pg and the bummm ----- you deserve a guy the will be faithful to you and a caring father AND you do not have either and you won't with this bummm --- care about yourself (first) and a better future .....
2007-11-16 10:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by XTX 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you and this baby deserve a partner/father who is going to be around. Not someone who has no respect for you. He sounds like a first class w*!#"R.
Why do you want to be with someone who treats you so badly?What kind of future do you have? Every time he goes out the door you will be wondering who he is with and what he is doing? He gives you compliments so he can get some!He doesnt deserve you. Hes a playa! Leave him.
2007-11-16 10:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely keep the baby. The baby still is a blessing despite the circumstances under which he was conceived.
If you love yourself and your future baby, you need to dump the guy. There's absolutely no point in staying with a guy who takes advantage of women. Keep your dignity intact.
Think of it this way: If your baby grew up, would you want him/her to stay in a relationship with someone who does not respect him/her?
Would you want your baby to grow up with an influence like that?
Leave him now while you can, and never bother with anyone who treats you that way.
You deserve better. ☺
2007-11-16 10:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just a booty call. He is saying what you want to hear. He means none of it. As long as you give him what he wants he will keep coming back for more. Dump him. He is no good. Try saying you don't want to have sex anymore. I bet he will make the decision for you real quick. Do you want a guy that two times you over and over. You need to boost your self esteem and look for a better guy. Right now you need to focus on the baby. This guy won't stick around so you better make your future plans accordingly. Good Luck
2007-11-16 10:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋