Why do people believe they have the right to judge a person who chooses to get an abortion?

Question

It happens. There are cases where people DO use birth control and take the necessary precautions and still wind up pregnant. There are always other alternatives to getting an abortion but not one of them is ideal. The way I see it, you A.Get the abortion and you are committing a mortal sin. You kill life. I was adopted (I was spared) and I can't imagine feeling good about killing what is rightfully mine... it could have been me. B.Put the baby up for adoption. That isn't a great solution either because you don't know what kind of a family it will end up in. I had a GREAT life and I absolutely would not accept anything less for my child. So that's risky. Oh and the fact that you will wake up everyday for the rest of your life wondering. C.Keep it. But by doing so, you are essentially forfeiting your own life. Yes, you screwed up and yes, it isn't the poor little babies fault. But in all honesty, whose life is more valuable? Making the choice to get one is suffering in itself, enough.

But is it selfish, though? I don't think it's selfish to recognize that no matter what you decide, this child isn't going to grow up to the standard of life it deserves. Furthermore, this younger generation is an absolute and utter product of that "child first" mentality. Poor parenting and improper rearing conditions has turned this up and coming adult generation into a classless, selfish, and shallow group of individuals (generalizing of course... not everyone). I agree with not having sex if you are not prepared to deal with the consequences, though. Unfortunately, it's a new era and it seems like sex has become the popular trend of adolescent singles. Ppsch, it's really sad. Some people don't learn until they feel the wrath of their mistakes. Like it or not, I feel it is ignorant to believe you know what is best for someone other than yourself.

But what if YOU were going to go on to find the cure for cancer. Ya know? I don't know... that is irrelevant. Any way you cut it, abortions are a really really difficult thing for everyone. I just wish there weren't so many judgmental people out there to make keeping it/aborting it even harder than it already is. :(

Answer 1

i think people find it easier to voice their opinion about abortion on here because they can say pretty much whatever they want.
i dont think that it is fair to pass judgement onto these poor girls that have already realised they have made a mistake,i mean most of them openly admit it. they are looking for support and advice not to get told they are going to burn in hell.
i have no really strong feelings on abortion i do think that it is good that there is this option there for these people that know that their baby is never going to have a good quality of life,although not an ideal option. i was raised by my mum to know that abortion was not an option for me but i dont have a problem with people that have

Answer 2

Well, babies are innocent
A. i don't feel they should be punished with a death sentence b/c their mother made a "mistake"
&& if she got raped, i know it's traumatic & painful to deal with, but don't take it out on the baby, just give it up fir adoption
i know 2 girls one now 18 her child is 3 and a girl who is pregnant from a rape and they have kept & are keeping the children
i give them the utmost respect b/c that takes ALOT to do that
if they can't live with it, like the girls i know, they can always give it up for adoption.
B. Getting in your car & driving down the highway is risky, sleeping with a stranger is risky (people do that all the time don't they?), going to school is risky you never know someone might decide to shoot the place up
point being, life is full of risks doesn't always mean that bad will always outweigh the good does it? killing a child is awful that's depriving that child of well everything
i would rather take the risk then live my life regretting & hating myself & agonizing over what could have been if i gave the child a chance at life
C.Noone said it would be easy
life isn't easy
& people need to understand that
it's just not
& growing up
getting married
having children
these are just things in life that are hard & get harder
but we all HAVE to grow up...we don't have a choice
most of us choose to get married
& then children are thrown in the mix
life's tough
whoever said it was easy is full of $.h.!.t
it only gets harder the older you get
but the CHILD'S life is DEFINETLY more valuable than a mothers
if i had a child & i knew that one day i'd have to lay my life on the line, just to guarantee their's could be fulfilled
NO DOUBT IN MY MIND i would let my child live ( whatever the circumstances may be)

a child's life is precious reguardless if it was planned or not
&& noone has the right to take that precious life(noone has the right to take another life period)
that's like for ex your mom stole a car so they throw YOU in jail for it
or your father raped a girl & they kill your brother for it
it's just not fair

stop to think
they could be killing the one person who was going to find the cure for cancer
the one who was going to make an enormous break through in medicine & science

they could be killing a genius

you never know what a child may be capable of in the future

so in a way it's not just the baby suffering what about the people with cancer?

but honestly there are so many different view & opinions on this matter & i try to be open-minded & try to understand other people but i don't see how condoning a death of an innocent child will help them in the long run
think about all of the effects an abortion has on a woman years down the road
an unplanned pregnancy will be long && hard no matter which decision you make
but that's why people should justy be more careful & inform themselves on issues like this

but i do like all of the points you made here
they are intelligent



Say I was, && my mom aborted me
Then we wouldn't have a cure
Really I do understand
I've seen my friend go through it (the rape & then getting pregnant) && she made it through
Anyone can do it
I understand all 3 would be a tough decision && I understand all are painful but no matter what you choose you'll hurt
But I can tell you this keeping it will be less painful
I'm not saying anyone should judge or tell someone else to do
But w.e you choose make sure you have a good support system & the right people to talk to
that WON'T judge

Answer 3

I am not sure why they judge. Although, it is clearly wrong to abort a baby. I have never ever met someone who was convinced that killing their baby is the right thing to do. Some have been forced into it by their parents, but their parents do not have that right. They are not the one remembering the horror of killing their child, no matter how they justify it.
The one person I know wakes up and remembers her child's due date, and now she is in her late thirties, and as rare as it is, she is sterile from the abortion. It haunts her life because she cannot have one. I have a cousin who had a kid at 17, she got uterine cancer and had a full hysterectomy by the time she was 22, it is her only child, she is sooo grateful she didn't kill him. Whether the child is planned by a human is irrevelent, it is planned by God, life is a gift.

Answer 4

You are right. Having an abortion is killing a person. There have been 48,589,993 total Abortions since 1973 in the U.S.A. Do you realize how many babies that is? None of them had a voice in the matter at all. So many people take "freedom of speech" from the Constitution and use it wrongly. What about the young child's freedom of speech? None of them deserve to die.
Are you saying that your life is more valuable than your child's? That is selfish. I say that in all politeness.

And I agree with the above comment whole heartedly.

Answer 5

Because people aren't happy controlling their own lives, they want to control everyone else's too.

People are frightened by things they can't control and don't understand so they desperately want to make everyone else live/believe/act they way they do.

Every kind of hatred and judgment is born from fear and ignorance. This is why homophobia exists, and racism, and religious persecution and sexism and every other form of hatred. People are afraid and you have to forgive them for it. They can't help it. They're too weak and frightened to look around and realize that you can only control your own life, not everyone else's.

There's a quote by Robert Heinlein that I use as my guiding belief and I think it applies to most "moral" situations.

"I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do." - Robert Anson Heinlein

Choosing to have an abortion is the person's moral decision and no one else's. And in the end THEY are responsible for it and no one else.

Answer 6

Let me put like this.I felt this way before bi=ut something happened on the 19th of September that broke my heart and ticks me off even more that abortion even exist except for serve birth defects.I woke up just like any other day I was 6 weeks pregnant.I took my other child to school and went out for lunch with my hubby and our son.Well,I went to the restroom and I was bleeding.My baby had died the life that I was so happy for and wanted so badly was gone.No expiation no pain(till later) nothing just gone.I didn't get the chance to hold my baby to love her to kiss her and make her feel warm and safe.So the fact that someone does and chooses to kill the baby p'''ses me off.My husband as well as his bother and sister(all 3 from different families adopted in the years apart)had the greatest childhood awesome private schools nice houses nice cars etc.I guess what I am trying to say is these days it is to easy to say I didn't have a choice my parents made me.I am sorry but that is bull.

Answer 7

there is no reason that someone should get one unless there is a medical reason to do so. If it is a case that they did not want to get pregnant (whether on birth control or not) then they should not even be having sex. It is shown to ALL ppl on birth control the chances of getting pregnant. That right there should make these "girls" think about what they are doing before doing it. Then on top of that, just because you are on birth control, use a damn condom!!! These babies do not deserve to be parrished from anywhere just because they are not wanted- there are sooo many ppl out there that cant have children and want one so bad. What is wrong with thinking of the child before self????

Answer 8

I don't have the right to judge that person, but I do have the right to question why they did it. Every one has a choice in how they behave, and unless you are raped, you know you are possibly going to create a life, so if you know this, then you are making the decision to bring a life into the world. If you are not willing to do that , then don't have sex. Sex is for two people that are married to bring forth children. That came from God.

Answer 9

i don't think that it is passing judgement per say. it is maybe the way they were raised to believe that abortion is wrong. religion also plays a big part when it comes to such a sensitive topic. people are expressing there own opinions and personal beliefs.

Answer 10

omg. this really helps me. i was thinking of getting and abortion.i was on birth control and i got preggie too. im 16 and having this baby and going to take care of it. adoptions not an answer for because i want my baby. i want to be proud of it and raise it right. this has helped me. thank you.