My parents and I have been arguing because I don't want to go home for 2 weeks during winter break. They are threatening me that if I don't come home, they will pull me out of school so I would have to eventually come home. They were reluctant on sending me back for another year at college because of how much money I spend every month. I promised them that I'd spend less money, get a 4.0 GPA and contact them every week...well I haven't been doing any of the above. Now I'm scared to go home because I don't think they'll send me back out anyways. I told my boyfriend the situation and at first, he wanted me to stay here at a hotel during winter break. Now, he changed his mind and he is telling me that I need to go home and talk to my parents. He said that if they don't send me back out here, we will pay for a ticket for me to fly back out here or he will transfer to a college near me. What should I do? I just want to stay here with my boyfriend....How do I convince him that I should?
2007-11-16 09:38:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hmmm...you're spending a lot of your parents' money, not getting good grades, and you hardly ever call mom and dad...I dont' think your parents are the bad guys here. It's possible that your behavior is causing them to worry about you, and that is why they want you to come home so badly. Do you honestly think your parents are going to keep taking care of you if you disregard them and just hang out with your boyfriend? He's right - you should go home and talk things over with them.
2007-11-16 09:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by HermioneW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hermione is RIGHT! The fact is that you can't outrun your difficulties stemming from your not taking responsibilities!! Either you face them now, or they will just accumulate and REALLY BE BAD!! Your bf cannot support you indefinately!! Go home; face the music; admit that you've been irresponsible and present some plan that you will make restitution--by working for a year near home; supporting yourself; problem-solving by yourself and don't keep looking for people to rescue you! I think that your parents are partly responsible for this--it sounds like they didn't train you to be a responsible person. The trouble is, now that you're grown, YOU will reap the negative consequences! Not your parents. GOOD LUCK! You are young enough to do it NOW and salvage your entire LIFE!!!
2007-11-16 10:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your parents are flipping the bill for your higher education, I think they have a right to decide whether or not it's financially worth sending you to college.
I'm pretty sure your parents would rather put that money into their retirement fund, or go on a nice vacation.
If you can't live up to your end of the bargain, then maybe you should pay your own way through school.
2007-11-16 09:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go home and spend holidays with your family while you have one. they'll not always be around! don't you take them for granted- theyve paid for college and your not seeming to hold up the end of the bargain. Your boyfriend will wait - and you better take a good look at him too - when things get tough and they certainly will sooner than later - your family will come near being there than anyone else. BEEN THERE DONE THAT. Just do the right thing - you'll not regret it later. "Honor thy mother and father." You can do it and be blessed for it. let me know regina
2007-11-16 09:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by regina f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I will be honest with you you are not doing the right thing. I know its hard for you to understand but why would you send your child to a college that cost losts of money just to see them not doing well and refusing to come visit for the holidays. Try and put yourself in their shoes. I know its difficult because you cant see past your own wants and desires but you are young and are you sure your bf is worth it? Perhaps he will move to a college closer to you but perhaps he wont. You should talk to your parents I mean how bad are your grades? Are you sure you want to live with this boy?
2007-11-16 09:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in school? Why don't you want to go see your parents for a little while? Do they not approve of the boyfriend?
2007-11-16 09:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by I love my baby boy! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you and your parents need to talk too, but maybe your bf could come along with you for moral support..?
*i don't know if your parents or bf would be open to that but it was the first thing i thought of.good luck and i hope i helped
2007-11-16 09:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by jelly bean 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend is trying to help you. Go visit your parents.
2007-11-16 09:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would listen to who is paying my bills
2007-11-16 10:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋