My wife's aunt and uncle asked us to care for their kids if something were to happen to them. We were 25 at the time and recently married. We felt like we were too young to watch their two kids (now three kids) and not financially stable. I always felt badly about saying no because chances are nothing would happen to them.
2007-11-16 09:38:05 · 8 answers · asked by Bing Bong Bao 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Only you know what you are capable of doing. Me personally, if some kids in my family needed rescuing and there was nobody to do it, I would do it because I would hope that someone would care about my kids enough to take the chance, risk, work.....ultimately I would want my kids to be LOVED and that's how I chose the people in my will.
2007-11-16 09:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only that, but it's also likely that they've made financial provisions for their children in the event of their demise. This is just something parents do for their own peace of mind...chances are good that nothing untoward will befall them. But there's nothing more gratifying than being prepared for every eventuality, and it's especially comforting when a trusted family member is in a position to step up. That being said, it's important to be honest about where you are in your development at any given point in time. Sometimes "no" is the right answer...they will be glad that you at least gave it serious, thoughtful consideration before declining. Besides, you can always change your mind as your situation stabilizes. Good luck to you.
2007-11-16 17:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's okay to say no. if you and your wife don't feel stable enough to care for their children if something happened to the aunt and uncle, then they should be reassured that you were honest with them - they probably wouldn't want to leave their kids with people who couldn't take care of them. not to say that you couldn't, but if you're not confident, then you made the right decision.
2007-11-16 17:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by HermioneW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is okay to say no. if you and your wife felt that way, there's no point of disagreeing.
however, I do feel that you were wrong in your deciscion and selfish. you'd rather them end up in a foster home where they don't even do background checks on the workers? abused, molested, destructed, for life all because you decided you didn't want to. what if they were your children?? I guess it doesn't matter now. one thing I know for sure is karma ALWAYS has it's way of treating you the way you've treated others.
2007-11-16 18:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it feels great to have someone trust u that much but do not worry urself about saying no...of course it's okay. Explain to them why u couldnt care for their kids, i'm sure they'll understand...if u r really financially unstable & have no confident bout caring for 3kids,i dont think they will force you,right?...All the best!!!
2007-11-16 17:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by ladylike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking on someone elses children is a big responsibility,one you obviously weren't ready for, don't beat yourself up over it, it was the mature thing to do.
2007-11-16 17:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Moe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel badly. If you didn't want the responsibility, it's best they find someone who is willing to.
2007-11-16 17:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by I love my baby boy! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is okay to say no. But it is difficult. Explain to them why you don't feel up to the job - but that you are honoured that they would ask you.
2007-11-16 17:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Bookworm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋