I met this guy 2 months ago in my new college. He was in my class for the first month but got moved (due to re-grouping). In that first month we got close ReaLLy quickly. We sat together in most lessons, worked together and went lunch a few times. People in the class started assuming things but he either smiled or ignored them. The few times we didn't sit next to together in lesson I noticed him staring at me but looked away as soon as I looked. We talked about EVERYTHING in college but never got to the level of phoning each other (surprising I know). One night just after he moved classes he sent me a text saying that he was thinking of me and asked if I wanted to do something that night. I was confused because he had never spoken to me in that way. I text'd him back asking him what he wanted to do and he never replied. Since then he has become a bit distant and when he sees me in college he seems a bit uncomfortable. He hasn't text'd or phoned me since. What is up with him?
2007-11-16 09:35:09 · 18 answers · asked by Heartfelt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like he's got the hots for somebody, and he thinks you could cool his jets a little
love? no
lust? probably
however, if he couldn't come up with *something* as a response to your "what did you have in mind?" text -- and *especially* since he didn't follow-up with a next-day message or text, either:
1) somebody else was pranking you with his phone, or
2) he is horny, but doesn't have the emotional maturity to deal with it (and certainly doesn't have the emotional maturity to handle sex or activities related to sex), or
3) he is both horny and a religious (or other) nut suffering from alternating (sort-of like multiple personality disorder) periods of humanity and self-hate, and is likely prone to outbursts of violence against the object(s) of his lust. This sort of person is a control freak, but is usually extremely good at masking his or her aggression in public settings and is often a master of the art of seduction, so that his or her prey is lured into a relationship trap. The prey (in this case, you) is then kept in the relationship through forces manipulated skillfully -- even artfully -- by the predator (in this case, the guy): everything is in his toolbox -- from basic logic to religion and theology, and he will almost always successfully enlist the support of your friends, family, co-workers and others in pressuring you to stay in the relationship.
4) he was toying with the idea of hooking up with you, but either (a) got cold feet, or (b) found another outlet for his frustrations.
anyway you decide to go, do it with your eyes open: know what you're getting into beforehand -- and then make whatever move you believe will make you happy.
2007-11-16 09:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by wireflight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok he definently likes you ,if he starres at you and sits by you and most importantly talks to you about all kinds of stuff,usualy means he's a little atached to you ,but doesn't know how to tell you better than over a text message.boys are usualy that way.i think he was scared when you asked him what he wanted to do that night,cause he didn't know all he wanted was to see you .i think you should aproach him even though girls aproaching guys first is kind of lame,but you know 4 shore that he likes you,so what do you have to lose.tell him in person not over a text message
2007-11-16 17:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by jovana j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text him again and ask him to lunch or for coffee. Act like nothing happen and start all over again. Maybe there was a misunderstanding in there somewhere in between the lines.
2007-11-16 17:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that at first he was just interested. Now however he likes you much more and is nervous when he sees you or is around you. I definently think he likes you. Try texting him back about the other night when he asked you to go do something. Good luck girl.
2007-11-16 17:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you didn't give him the answer he was looking for, so I would say the ball is in your court if he isn't too hurt by your questioning him. men are more sensitive than they act. He was thrown off by your reply. Men don't like to be questioned, at all. Simple creatures, poor things, just yes or no suffices. Hope things work out.
2007-11-16 17:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by ~ Pussycat Doll In Training ~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE might just be busy or something. Dont worry 2 much about it. If ur really upset, try texting him or getting his # from a friend. If all of this fails, give-up on him. U deserve more than that
2007-11-16 17:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems like he may be sensitive...just by you just saying what do you want to do might have hurt his feelings. He definetly likes you if he was thinking about you. Try sending him a message... tell him you miss him or ask him if he wants to come over or hang out.
2007-11-16 17:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by klove1717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in love with you.
It's your turn to txt him back.
Tell him how you feel and how much you miss him.
If he feels the same he'll txt you back.
Boy's asking the girl is SO oldfashion.
Grab it girl. It just might be love.
2007-11-16 17:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea he does like you must he must feel embarasses since he asked you out.
2007-11-16 17:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by thelongestday41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you he probably feels intimidated by you and you probably scared him by asking what he wanted to do i would say text him and tell him you want to hang out
2007-11-16 17:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋