We have known each other for 2 years now, we spend practically every spare moment with one another, he knows my parents I know his...we hang out with them. I went to his family weddings, we are going to three of my families next year...when do I push on committment with him?
2007-11-16 07:56:27 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you say "committment" do you mean marriage? If so, I wouldn't ever really put pressure on him. That usually solves nothing. There are more subtle ways of letting him know what you want. First off, start some dialogue on the subject. Find out if he wants to get married and if he's thought about marrying you. If that goes well, ask if it's something he wants to do in the near future. Tell him how you feel and see what he says. If you put the idea in his head that you want to get married, he won't forget. My now husband and I got very close very fast after we started dating. After a year had passed, I started bringing up the idea about marriage and got the green light. I had an idea in my head that I would be okay waiting one more year for a ring. When the second year was halfway through, I casually mentioned that I hoped we still had the same goals and intentions in our relationship and indirectly said that I wouldn't wait around forever. One month later he proposed :) Good luck!
2007-11-16 08:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best idea I can come up with is very simple. Ask hem!
He may think you wouldn't want a commitment due to the age
deference. Bare in mind that with a 16 year difference in your
ages, the day will most likely come when one of you will have
to care for the other when sickness comes knocking as it
almost always dose. Ask hem what he thinks about growing
old all alone. Don't push and good luck.
2007-11-16 16:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by wayne g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want such a big age gap? Maybe he feels you are not mature enough? as he is 16 years older. Who knows?
Pushing anyone into a corner, or a commitment is never a good idea.Just wait your time and see if YOU may not find someone more your age range. Good Luck.
2007-11-16 16:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by biggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it ain't broke don't fix it.
Eleven months is not a very long time in the grand scheme of things.
If you get along well and want to be with him, I would not put any type of pressure on him. Men and ultimatums are like oil and water.
2007-11-16 16:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already have the important part of commitment. I would not push for anything more than what you have. When hes ready it will occur to him he cant live without you. If you have to give ultimatums, it was never there to start with.
2007-11-16 16:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by timssterling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't propose soon (18 months) he's probably using you. Don't waste your youth on a man who is 1. old and 2. not willing to make a commitment to you.
But remember: Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free!
2007-11-16 16:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't push commitment on a guy. You discuss things with him, like what do you both want out of life, in a relationship, the future. Let him know what you would like, but if he doesn't want the same you can't force him
2007-11-16 16:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by mommacat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When he wants to you are not going to push him somewhere he is nolt ready for. You need to talk to him and ask he were the relationship is going maybe he does not want to have more then just a girlfriend start talking about marriage see what his thoughts our maybe he does not want to marry you.
2007-11-16 16:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never push for that sort of thing. When he is ready, he will ask. If you put the pressure on, he might just run. You can simply ask where is this relationship going....
2007-11-16 15:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by vixxen 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Eleven months as a couple is not, I think, enough time to be asking somebody to marry you. Give him another year. I think you're just in a rush because you feel like "everybody else is getting married, why won't he marry me."
2007-11-16 15:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋