And what did you have to give up after having your children? Do you ever regret it? Trying to make the decision of wether or not I want to have any kids yet and wonder what I'll give up to have them.
2007-11-16 07:50:15 · 17 answers · asked by Laura 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The hardest part, so far...my little ones are under 3...is lack of sleep. I had to give up being so egocentric/self-centered. I never regret it, and giving up being so egocentric has been a great thing. My children have made me grow in ways that I could never have imagined I would grow....all positively. My husband and I were together for 10 years before we had children and were the best of friends. We also never thought we could be closer, but being parents together has made our relationship even deeper. I thought I would never have children, because I loved my life before kids, but I am so glad that I did. My life with kids rocks.
2007-11-16 08:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by kathryndrew 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes I guess I just wish being able to have freedom to do what I want when I want. If I have one selfish thought about it then that would be it. I am young though, 23 with two kids. But I am really happy to have the life I have. The positives outweigh the negatives by a long shot. Being a parent is the most rewarding, yet thankless job there is. But you can thank yourself and give yourself a pat on the back when you see your kids grow into really great people.
2007-11-16 08:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Right now, the hardest thing for me is the sleep issue. My baby (3.5 months) REFUSES to sleep in her bed. She will only sleep with me, and only in the recliner in the living room. I have tried everything, and nothing is working!!
Other then that, I don't get to sleep when I want, for as long as I want. I don't get to pee when I want, or shower when I want. There is no more eating what ever I feel when I feel like it. Long baths in the evenings and weekends are pretty much out, and the first time I went to a movie theater was Wed, and that the first time in over 3 years. I don't get to stay out all night anymore, or go to things that I want to. My hubby and I hardly get any time to even just cuddle. Everything is about the kids, and I have to work my life around their schedules.
That being said, let me tell you some good things about having kids. Yes, my boobs might not really be mine anymore, but just looking down and seeing my baby smile while she is eating is the best thing in the world!! And the noises she makes when she eats is so cute!
As my kids get older (all girls- 3, 2 and 3.5 months), you get to witness all the neat things they learn. You see things in a whole new light. Those first babbles, laughs, smiles, hugs, kisses, screams of delight and look of pure wonder in their little eyes is enough to make you melt!! The first time they roll over, sit up, crawl, walk, run, skip and jump are so fun to watch!!
Yes, there are times it's really hard with three so close (not planned that way!! But I'll take it the way it comes!!), but it's sooo worth it! I may complain about things when I don't get to do what I want, but then one of them will come up and give me a hug, or tell me they love me, and it makes it all worth it!
Do I regret having kids? Sometimes, but it's mainly when I'm feeling selfish. I think any mom will tell you there were times that not having kids would be easier. Does that mean that I regret having them? A big fat NO!!!!!!!!!! They are my life, my soul, my heart. Without them, my life wouldn't be complete. So even though I complain, and am rude about things sometimes, I wouldn't trade it for anything!!
2007-11-16 08:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by odd duck 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to give up alot. #1 forget about free time, there is none. #2 Finding a trust worthy babysitter is almost impossible #3 YOu will worry about them for the rest of your life #4 they are expensive #5 having a baby either makes or breaks a relationship. With those few things said, at the samt time having a child is an amazing experience. If you willing to give up all that, i would just settle for 1.
2007-11-17 15:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by JOHNNA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The hardest part of having a baby is knowing that they will have to experience disappointment at some time in their life. That is the worst feeling! I'm very lucky, I haven't had to give up anything. I have a very supportive husband and family, so I have someone to help me with the baby anytime I need it. If you don't have a strong support system though, it will be a lot of work.
2007-11-16 08:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by Liz H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had to give up sleep, showering, sanity...
Just kidding!
In reality, we have had to forgo a lot of dinners out and dancing til dawn. My husband and I have been to exactly one movie since our daughter was born in 2005. If we eat out, it's either McDonalds or Subway (mommy prefers Subway...) not Red Lobster anymore. Potty training was difficult. Bedtimes are typically a screaming match. Church on Sunday...oh my gosh! My son is getting very good at sitting and behaving, but my daughter sure isn't. I have actually been thinking about leasing her out to the Canadian Armed Forces as a weapon of mass destruction. Our guys will be out of Afghanistan by Easter! haha! The house is hardly ever clean. The laundry, dishes, cooking never ends.
And I wouldn't change a thing. I have the ability to stay home and raise the two greatest children ever born. My son is brilliant. And my daughter is beautiful and smart and funny. It's been the greatest thing I have ever done in my life.
Before you have kids, be sure. You can't put them back when they're here! I have also found life goes a lot easier with two little kids if I am able to stay at home with them than if I'm working and trying to raise them and do the housework and everything. I don't wear a red "s" so I know where my limitations are.
2007-11-16 08:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Making sure you made the right decisions in raising your child. Values, morals etc. Very expensive, make sure you can afford it. I would not ever give up my life to not have kids I would be bored!!! I still get to do fun things because I include my children in many fun activities. I am so proud of how much they have developed in the years!!!
2007-11-16 08:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by airforcemom79 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your life stops for the most part,lol and now it's about your children and what they wants, their needs, their happiness, worrying about if they're safe especially when your not there, if your doing everything right, do you have money for all their wants and needs, the older they get the more worries, but eventually it will level out as they mature and you'll get a little relief, and then you'll say I'd do it all over again no regrets, look what get adults they have become..........
2007-11-16 08:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Greeneyes 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The hardest part for me is feeling trapped in the house. Getting a babysitter that I trust to watch 4 children is impossible. I could certainly go out after my husband comes home, but I'm usually too tired. I don't regret it at all. I love all my children more than anything in the world!
Why in the world am I getting thumbs down? No one else even got them? Are you people serious? Whatever!
2007-11-16 07:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
From all the other answes, I would agree. We all gave up our single lives to become mothers/fathers but no one has any regrets!
Children are a blessing from God. My pregnancies weren't planned and I am single (never married). Even in that, I wouldn't change it. I wouldn't know what to do without them because everything I do, is always about them in some way.
2007-11-16 08:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋