My boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half but he is so mentally abusive. we broke up last night and i know it was the right thing to do but it still hurts like hell....when does it stop hurting?
2007-11-16 07:27:54 · 12 answers · asked by Fighter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you love so bad.
2007-11-16 07:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by Bethuel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it hurts. You really cared for this guy. I commend you on breaking up with him. You're a woman who knows how important it is to get out of an abusive relationship before things get from bad to worse and you weren't going to stick around for worse. Time. Time is the only thing that will heal your broken heart. Its going to take some time. Hang in there!
2007-11-16 15:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by 2good4U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal the pain. I think that the best thing you can do for yourself right now is to give you and your ex boyfriend some space. Its definitely not healthy to be in an abusive relationship whether its verbal or physical. He needs to seek treatment for his anger before he hurts someone. For now it would be to your benefit to avoid his phone calls or even visit him, know matter what his excuses are. Stay strong!!!
2007-11-16 15:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by xoangeleyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will stop once you realize you don't have to feel bad anymore because you don't have that person there to break you down mentally. I went through the same and believe me life is so much better without them and it may not feel like it right now but it will. Give yourself time. Good luck hun!
2007-11-16 15:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry you are going through this. I know how it feels. I have been through it. I broke things off after being with someone for 9 years. I am with a new guy, but things with him arent working either and I know things arent gonna last with him either. Its hurts really bad for a while, but they always say the best things to do is get out right away. Keep yourself occupied, go out with friends, browse online dating sites to see what else is out there. Im going to have to go through it again myself. Im not looking forward to it. I get so sad and upset that I actually gte sick over it.. I cant have that happen to me anymore. I have to be as strong as i can. We will both get through it!
2007-11-19 10:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its stops hurting when you come to realize that your better then that. You needed to do whats right for you. There is no shame in that. Always remember, you come first. Your #1. Why waste time with someone who treats you less then that? The pain will go when YOU want it to.
2007-11-16 15:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by Fire. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if you crave his company or just the fact that you are now lonely. The key to moving on is to fill the time that you once spent with him with positive things, new friends, new hobby, taking classes at community college, etc. Please don't try to self-medicate with drugs or alcohol, that would only extend the effects of your abuse.
No one should be abused, ever. Good job on leaving.
2007-11-16 15:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anna Simon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it didn't hurt you could ignore it and not learn the lessons. Relationships are our greatest learning tools, we either learn or we suffer. Only with great understanding and true love will we be able to minimize pain in our relationships, The more self-focused we are, the greater the pain.
Also our greatest pleasure is experienced in relationships.
2007-11-19 02:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by stedyedy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time. But you don't want to be with some one like that. I'm sorry but men who are like that get worst and move on to pushing and hitting. You don't need that tin your life. You will find someone who will respect you and your feelings. Good luck.
2007-11-16 15:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by ♥LS♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You loved him, BUT you do not need to go back to him, it will escalate to worse in the future, stay out, move on and fall in love again with the right one!
2007-11-16 15:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. When you realize he wasn't the one for you.
2. When you concentrate on loving yourself more.
3. When someone like me tells you how beautiful you are.
:-)
2007-11-16 15:31:35 · answer #11 · answered by U Have Nothing Better 2 Do 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋