Part of this is just me letting off some steam but I do actually have a question. OK this is the deal. My just got back from a deployment. The first day he got back to work after 5days of crew rest he got told to pack a bag and that he was leaving in 16hrs for a TDY. When he asked how long he was going to be gone they said to plan for a week and pack for a month. Now it is not so much the long deployment that bother me, because we can plan for them. However lately it has been these TDY that have really been pissing me off. Three days always turns into 2wks, and 1wk always turns into three. We constinantly hear phrases like "Yeah, this just got handed down to us" or "we don't have anybody else that can do it.". My husband and i have rolled with the punches so far, but we were hearing these type of excuses so often that last time my husband looked into. The last time he got sent on a no notice TDY he found out that his command knew for over a week that it was probably going to get..
2007-11-16 07:04:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
handed this assingment. Also many other times there have be at least two or three people that were also eleigable to go when he was told that there was no one available. I do not understand why they are giving us these lame @ss excuses, I feel like we are being lied too. And not a very good lie at that. Plus, is there now one in the chain of command that has a concept of prior planning. All of these "last minute" TDY's have given me no faith in the leadership and my husband is begining to feel the same way. Is it like is everywhere else in the Air Force? Is everything last minute and grab-@ss all the time? I feel like no one in command actually cares about the solider or there families. My husband is on the inside and is starting to think that everything that is going on is stupid and he is loosing confidence in his command. He wants to address it but he is afraid of geting labled as "that guy" that complains about the way things are run. Any advise on how to address this....
2007-11-16 07:12:35 · update #1
problem with his command, or should he not? Any ideas on how we can deal with it? It would not be so bad if it was every once in a while but it is becomming routine. Right now, it looks like he will not be back for thanksgiving, even though when he left we were told that the command were "going to do everything that they could". It just seems like one line of B.S. after the other. I think I would be happier if they just said "yeah we need some one to go on this trip, and since you are the easyest one to fill in this slot. We really don't care about you, your wife, or the plans that you thought you had." I am currently in the process of tring to refund our airline tickets and cancell our reservations.
2007-11-16 07:18:34 · update #2
It is hard pill to swallow, but their jobs come first and we get the left over time. It would be nice if they considered the families first, but the military is there to provide a service and unfortunately, the service members have to do what they are told to do.
My husband is a Marine, never really had the unexpected deployment other than when we moved here form overseas, he checked in and two weeks later he left for Iraq. We got our shipment on a Wednesday, the next day, I was dropping him off to leave for 7 months. What we deal with more is extensions...send them to Iraq and once they are over there...oh yeah, you're staying for an extra 90 days.
We as family members, our hands are tied. We can complain and ultimately, it's a part of our life. If you complain to the service member, it only adds stress to their life. As we have been told...grab a huge straw and suck it up.
Sorry
2007-11-16 08:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Texan_by_birth_69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better learn to deal. This has pretty much been the story of my life as an army wife. Remeber you're really just the mistress. The Army is the wife, and sometimes that B-tch get's all the attention. I suggest you make the most of the time you do have together.
2007-11-16 15:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
from now on make sure you have insurance on your plane tickets and reservations so you can have them refunded without penalty. i lost out on some money becuz my tickets were unrefundable and my husband was called at the last minute to work. it's extremely hard to plan when ur dealing with the military, i've pretty much given up on planning we just try to spend as much time as we can together and take advantage of the weekends off.
2007-11-16 16:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by MrsHec4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the military. I once got a phone call saying: Honey, I'll be late for dinner..by about three weeks. he literally got ten minutes notice.
sometimes the newbies and the qualified ones get the shaft..especially the qual'd ones.
2007-11-16 15:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's the military for ya.
2007-11-16 15:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Gunny Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt expect anything
Military is very spontaneous!
2007-11-16 15:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Semper Gumby ♡ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋