Should i put my baby in a Daycare?

Question

I'm graduating in January and my daughter will be 8 months old for that time, and i have to start working to help up my husband with the bills (we have been strugling economically since i got pregnant.), but my mother in law bitches about the baby is to small and that she could take her to her country and take care of her for a year or two while we work (she is a lawyer for my bad luck), but when she says that it just piss me of!!! because for me kids have to be with their parents. I just want the best for my child, and im so afraid because i have hear of so many things about mistreated kids and bad nannies... What things i have to know before picking a Daycare? its pros and disadvantages? I really need help.
(At first with my husband we thought of: one work at day and the other work at night, but our carriers are day time careers...)
What can i do to get the nosessy mother in law out of this? (she lives with us she is a lawyer in her country)

She wont take care of the kid because she say she have to work >.>

Answer 1

You say your mother-in-law doesn’t take care of your child, but what does your husband say? What makes you think she is careless? I used to think in the same way when I wanted to join my office, I used to think where will I put my son, will it be safe to put him to day care. Then I talked to my husband, he told me when my mom is here why do you want him to put into day care. He forced and said that my child is only going to stay with his mother and he will talk to his parents only if they say NO, we are going to put our child into day care. He asked his parents and they said yes. Since then my child stays with my in-laws and they are handling him better than myself.
If your husband also thinks that his mother is not good and there is no way around, then you can always put him into day care. Some day cares are bad, but some are not. You just have to find the right one. My friends have put their children into day care and they are pretty good. If you are living in Bangalore, I can suggest some day cares, but if you are not then you can ask your friends or friend’s friends about a good day care and you can put your baby over there.
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Answer 2

I would definitely not allow my mother in law, or anyone else take my baby for a year or two while we worked. Your child won't know who you are and needs the chance to bond with you. I know doing a Daycare can be stressful, I have to do one too because we need a full 2 incomes. First check in to day cares that may be close to your work, so you can stop in if needed. Also check out their references and what other people are saying about them. I also looked at the security features...is there a card or code needed to get in the front door, or can anyone off the street walk in. Cleanliness is an issue, and what do they do with your child all day..do they have a learning schedule, play time, nap time...all of that stuff. I hope I helped a bit. Good Luck and just think positively about the situation...like I said, I know it is hard to put your child in the care of others. I will have to do it when he is only 3 months old because of maternity leave restrictions.

30 weeks with #1..it's a boy!

Answer 3

If the Mother in law lives with you, is she working? If she is not why can't she watch your child out of your home. If this is not possible, there are things to look for when choosing a daycare. Look at cleanliness, observe the workers when they handle the children, make sure they wash their hands or sanitize after each encounter with a child. Ask to see list of meals that will be offered for the week or month. Ask to see the schedule of activities that are conducted throughout the day at the daycare. Bring your child with you and see how she interacts with the other kids and staff. If you don't get a good vibe from the daycare chances are it is not right for you. As a parent you have the right to go to the daycare at anytime and observe. Any good daycare would encourage it.

Answer 4

You're mother in law lives with you.. Well, the answer is SO simple.. Then why not have HER watch your baby while you and your husband both work? I wouldn't let her take the baby to her country that's just too weird. As far as her being a lawyer, that's NOT that big of an issue UNLESS you argue with her... Also, if you are looking into daycares look at the benefits vs. staying home. Cost is big factor as well as programs, meals, and sceduling.. Will you be making enough money to support daycare costs? I would openly discuss the issue with your husband w/o the MIL. good luck

Answer 5

Why is your mother in law living with you? Let her go back to "her country" and contribute financially to your household if she chooses. Otherwise, she needs to let you run your family.

I worked in daycare for a lot of years. They have a lot of advantages. If you have a sitter at home and she needs time off for some reason, you are stuck. If you take your child out to a licensed daycare, they will have staff to cover in case of another worker's absence, and your schedule is not interrupted. Go visit daycare facilities. Take your child with you and pay attention to how the caretakers treat her and you. A good daycare will welcome visitors as they have nothing to hide. You can check with the department that is in charge of licensing to see if there have been any complaints filed.

in today's economy, most families need two incomes so you are no exception. Talk to parents you know and see what they have done to solve the problem.
Good luck.

Answer 6

When choosing a daycare make sure you feel comfortable with the caretaker. Personally I don't like the idea of in home daycares (because you don't know what is going on). But I suppose bad things can happen anywhere. I just assume that the more caretakers involved the less chance of someone being able to hide any type of abuse. I was so scared to put my daughter in daycare and literally checked out about 15 different places before I picked one.
Tell the in-law to mind her own business. She already raised her child now it is his turn to raise his own child.

Answer 7

So your mother in law lives with you, she works but she works as a lawyer in her country, but works every day outside the home???
I'm confused....and she says she can take your daughter to her country....but she lives with you?

First of all....she doesn't have a leg to stand on...second of all...she is a nosey mother in law.....third....it's none of her business and you don't want her having anything to do with your decision, she can't have that power.

Talk to other working mothers, talk to your friends....visit daycares or home sitting situations, look at nanny options. If you panic and freak...that's what you will draw. If you face this with determination, you will draw that situation into your life.
Good luck with the daycare.

Answer 8

i do home daycare and i will tell you there are pros and cons to daycare.... i love the children i have and would send my children to someone that treats them the way i treat my daycare children... BUT.. there are some out there you can not trust....

GET REFERENCES!!

I will give out as many references you want....i once gave out the names and numbers of ALL the people i have ever cared for.... I have never had someone give me a bad reference.

people talk and they are the best source of what thier children do at daycare and how the provider treats them all.

also..... do an interview.... the interview is checking out 4 or more things as soon as you walk in the door.... the daycare provider is checking you as a parent out, checking your child/children out and you as a parent should be doing the same thing..... what is he/she like, how do the children react to each other....

go with your gut!!!!

if you don't feel right... don't leave him there !!

good luck to you :)

not all daycares are bad :)

Answer 9

Interview daycare providers! I also got the daycare i put my son in to let me hang out for a while so I could see how they interacted with the kids and so I got a good idea of the daily routines. I think since you baby is so young I would try larger daycare facility's that separate kids by age so that your baby is with other baby's her age and that way the people in charge of watching that age group have more specialized care.

Answer 10

1. you let her move in with you
2. Let her know its nun of her business what you do she may be the grandma but you are that baby's momma
3. your husband should say something to her about the way she acts.
4 Yall both need to sit down and talk and find a better soulution to both of your jobs.
5 if you have to hire a baby sitter you can trust to watch the baby at YOUR HOUSE, all the things the baby needs is at your house.
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