It seems like girls (myself included) always seem to wait on guys to commit to the relationship (if they decide to commit at all) when we have already commited to them...what's up with that? Is there like a certain age or something that guys start looking for long term relationships?? I'm talking about committing as in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships (not getting married).
2007-11-16 06:26:09 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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i don't think it's really about commitment - guys can commit to all sorts of things, but women? omg.
depends on the guy though, but most of us have had bad relationships with women(from our mothers on!)...i can't tell you how many men i know who are either afraid of, or hate women....how can u commit if that's what you feel as a base?
on the other side - i have met soo many women who want to commit to some fairy-tale they have believed in since they were lil girls - like a dream of romance was more real than our relationship. thing u have to understandf about guys is that although we don't, perhaps, talk much about our feelings, we have them and experience them more intensely than most women!! i realise that's not a common view but it comes from years of experience of running therapy groups for single-sex and mixed groups(my partner, a woman btw!, agrees that this is what she has found...she's also a psychotherapist like me)...u get a guy to commit and he REALLy will!
gl - men suk almost as much as women huh?
2007-11-16 06:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by mlsgeorge 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to answer ur question, yes most guys well commit if the female take care of him right. to do this, u will have to treat him like u want to be treated.Also meeting there parent can influence him to keep u.that's if hes closer to his parents.Most guys like female that funny , cool, and always have there back when there down, be honest and ask question plays a big role too. The first important thing is study the person ur with. look for sign, if hes happy with u n he don't change , then u pick the right one. age don't matter. like I said before, everybody need love. God made two couple (Adam and Eve) not Tom or Tay. i know looks play a big role in society today so people take advantage of that, but remember looks do die out.lol so choose correctly
2007-11-16 07:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by fireant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, I think most people (both men and women) don't really know or understand what they really want in a life-long mate until they're about 25-ish (give or take a couple years depending on maturity level, personal life experiences, and other various factors - family, religion, beliefs, etc).
I'm 27 and have been dealing with an inability-to-commit off-and-on girlfriend for the past 2 years (granted she's gonna be 23 in February, so it merely comes down to being in 2 different points in our lives), but that's neither here nor there. I understand your frustrations. At some point, you need to force the issue: $hit or get off the toilet.
Take care and be well...
2007-11-16 06:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
then your not the one or him..I have had one guy in my life that did not want to commit and I dropped it. I have had stable long term relationships from the start. First 2 years and this ione going on three years...you have to find the right guy and he has to find the right girl...and a little advice..if you push him to comit you are only pushing him away from you, the less you want from him themore he is going to give you..guys don't like needy girls...they are commited, but hate talking about it..and why should they have too. He's with you and you are with him...what else do you have to worrie about if you don't want to marry the guy..GUY HATE TALKING ABOUT THINGS!!!! Woman don't understand this and that is why they push guys away, be paitnet and as long as he is not straying, things will come along. Once you opo the word comitment you are going to be shut out in some way..big or small.
2007-11-16 06:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by erikagoodpasture 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys want to stay as free as possible cause we want to keep you around while we look for something better. Even just being boyfriend and girlfriend is a step towards marriage and we want to avoid that as long as possible. We (guys) all hope that we can land a chick out of our league....and usually at some point in our late 20s early 30s we either knock up a knock out or we settle.....
2007-11-16 06:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by joeinchino2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of guys will commit right away maybe your just going after the wrong kinds of guys? If you go for players they are just keeping their options open the few of us good guys that are left have no problem committing.
2007-11-16 06:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by tonice248 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some guys even in their thirtys and fourtys still have a hard time commiting. if you're guy is being reserve maybe he's been hurt before or has been engaged before but the girl dumped him and he's afraid it'll happen again. ask him and let him know you're not like that. but just 'cuz you say that doesn't neccisarly mean he'll believe you right away. when he's stressed, be there for him. and show him you care
2007-11-16 06:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by mnd_hunt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a guy and I actually have not a clue. I don't want to start a long-term relationship until I know that the girl actually really loves me. I need proof that they love me so I will go further. When guys are young, they are probably looking for sex first. If not, then you got lucky. :)
2007-11-16 06:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by Josh W 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because guys connect on an emothional level much later in a relationship then girls. They tend to connect on a more phyical level. The only way to really fix this is ether find a guy who is different (yes they do exist) or be willing to wait.
2007-11-16 06:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by xanthostaos 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no age limit most males just want to make sure that they are making the right choice before they totally commit them selves first.
2007-11-16 06:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by Charles P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋