How does a mum feel when her child dies?

Question

I want to die cause i have deppression. i know my mum would hurt if i died but what does a mum go through?

I do love my mum alot

I do love my mum alot

I do love my mum alot

I will not kill myself but i want to kill myself. I have tried to kill myself before

Answer 1

Please, please, don't hurt yourself.
The pain of losing someone close to you is horrendous. I live not from day to day but minute to minute to minute thinking my heart will physically break from the pain.
I am sitting crying as I type this as your question brings it all back.
Your mum will never recover from the loss of you and her inability to help you in your obvious pain and hour of need.
Talk to her, talk to a doctor but please don't hurt yourself.

Answer 2

You would devastate your mother. Truthfully, she would never recover from such a loss. She will have lost a part of herself that can never be replaced or "fixed." She will have unbearable guilt for "letting you down" and feeling as if she didn't do enough to help you. She may lose herself up to addictions of some sort just to kill the pain; she will never, ever be the same person again. In many ways, she will feel worse about life than you feel now about yourself and your life. Imagine what you are feeling now and how depressed you are and how much pain you feel and then multiply that by about 1,000 and you will have a mere glimpse at how the rest of her life will be. You wouldn't want to do that to her.

Please, please, talk to your Mum -- give her the chance to help you through this. OR talk to a counselor or other family member about how you feel. Don't do something like this to yourself or to your mother. However bad it is now, it can be that much better if you open up to someone instead of ending it all. You can FIX what's wrong now in your life, it might be hard, but it can be done and your life can get better....what your thinking of doing can't be fixed -- you can't come back from suicide. Please talk to your Mum today -- now.

Answer 3

My grandmother lost her first born child last year due to cancer. My aunt had battled it for about three years and was doing very good up until the last three months of her life. My grandmother at the funeral home was so pitiful. It breaks my heart to this day thinking about how upset she was. I can remember that the undertakers and the funeral home employees crying because of how upset she was. My grandmother was 77 years old and she was such a feisty lady to be her age. My aunt was only 58 years old. That goes to show that no matter how old you are, you are still your mother's baby.

There is absolutely no way I can describe how much my grandmother hurts to this day because she lost my Aunt Linda. She is constantly on Grandmother's mind and I can tell how much Aunt Linda's passing has aged her. She cries alot, she has a really hard time on her birthday because they shared birthdays.

I cannot express in words how heartbreaking it was during my Aunt's funeral to hear my Grandmother scream out "Oh, God, please take me too! I cannot live without Linda!" It felt like my heart was being ripped out of my chest watching her be in so much pain and knowing there wasn't a thing I could do to make her feel better. Please, please go find help for your depression. Life is too wonderful to go through being depressed and you do not want to hurt your mother. You can find help. Call your regular medical doctor and they will be able to find someone that will help you.

You will be in my prayer and God Bless you. Rachel

Answer 4

I agree with the others loosing a child is the most painful thing a family can go through. My friend's baby died of cancer and years later they are still working through the pain.

What I can say is that the pain is even worse if it is suicide...my ex's family were devestated by this and his Mum will always blame herself.

Personally I think you should contact the samaritans instead of being on here. 08457 90 90 90

Answer 5

Istead of focusing on all the bad things in your life, try focusing on all the wonderful things that you have had the fortune to get. No parent ever wants to bury their children. My great grandmother died of a broken heart 3 months after her son died in WWII. Talk to your doctor and see if you can get some anti depressents, or go to a phychiatrist and talk. They can make you feel better. i was depressed for a while, and I just kept thinking about all the good in my life, and eventually, I started to see that I have a purpose, and i hold a special place in a lot of poeple's hearts. Just hold on, and you'll come out of it.

Answer 6

Losing a child is the worse feeling in the world. I know you're depressed but just think how your mum would feel if you killed yourself, and if you do kill yourself then that's just kinda selfish ain't it. Being depressed isn't the end of the world, you just need help, Trust me I should know coz Ive been there before.

Answer 7

I feels like someone too your heart right of your chest and stomped on it. If you love your mum and yourself, you will not think about dying. You might take the depression away from you, but think about everyone you will hurt when you do die. Death is never a good thing

Answer 8

When my brother died (he was 21) in 1975, my mum wanted to die, too. The grief was indescribable, and the entire family was affected (I had 2 other brothers, and I was 16 at the time). Please, don't ever do anything to cause that terrible heartache to your mum. She loves you.

Answer 9

Ask my 17 yr old daughter???She lost her baby girl at 15 hours old due to no kidneys and no bladder.She was a full term baby but all her organs were on the wrong side of her body. That was 6 months ago.Ive been there and tried to take my own life 5 times.But thankfully im still here and through heartache i am still suffering im glad im still alive.
Dont do it..Get doctors help honey.Pleasee???
XXXXXX

Answer 10

There is no worse feeling in the world, and you never get over it.
I know how bad depression feels, but please think about the people in your life that love you and care about you.
Seek help from a mental health professional. If the first one doesn't work for you, keep trying. Same for medication.
Once you find a combo that works for you, stay with it.
Your family needs you, and would never be OK without you.
Good Luck

Answer 11

There is no greater tragedy in the world than losing your child, for whatever reason. Call 1-800-273-TALK before you take any drastic actions. Depression is a treatable condition.