"Honor thy Father and Mother" If they beat you, is it God's will that you still must honor them?

Answer 1

You are taking the verse out of context. Common mistake but usually committed by bible fundamentalists. Is that what you are?

The chapter read in its entirety (and in context with all of the bible) admonishes parents NOT to provoke their children to anger and to discipline them with firmness...but with love.

It's a two way street.

Also, understand that "honor" is an open-ended word. It does not mean obey every command especially since a parent could conceivably command a child to sin and the child should never obey that command.

In an abusive situation, honor can involve positive acts to help them, improve their lives, to the degree we are able. It also means being willing to forgive.

We do not honor our parents because they deserve it by their actions. We show honor because of who they are, i.e. our parents that gave us life and have a position of authority.

Sort of like, I can honor the president of the United States because of his office, but that doesn't mean I have to agree with and obey his every whim.

Answer 2

There is a difference between discipline and abuse .You should never strike a child out of anger in the formative years you have to set clear guide lines utilizing punishments like taking things away or limiting privileges .Spanking should only be a last resort you have to remember to be a teacher not a task master because these are the 1st lessons your children will learn before they
set foot into a school. Some children learn from punishments. Others are harder to reach that way so you need to spank them. As parents you have to
maintain control of your children.That means certain behaviour and actions will not be tolerated. The bible says beat them and they will not die .That means if you beat them now you won't have to kill them later.I wish would allow my child to be violent toward me or to disobey me.If I am handling my responsibilities as a parent taking care of you feeding you clothing you being there emotionally then I may discuss some things because I have a open mind but somethings are not up for discussion. There is also a difference between honor and worship.There are some parents who have a god complex . My father was like that he would ask us to do things for him .It didn't matter what our schedules entailed he wanted what he wanted when he wanted it and had the nerve to be offended if it wasn't done when he wanted it done even though I took time out of my schedule to do this out of my love and appreciation for him. My mother who I was very close to beat the hell out of me and most of the time it wasn't even necessary . I still loved her and did for her .So yes show your appreciation by helping them and doing things for them but don't allow them to rule you because that is not their place and god will deal with them on that end.

Answer 3

As a child, i was spanked. That's not the same thing as being beaten. It was not done in anger (parent cooled off first) and i was not bruised, bloodied, or broken.

Sadly, abused children don't have the discernment to seek help. They have no way of knowing that the parent is wrong and they DO continue to "honor." Then, as adults, they have the psychological mess of hating and hurting and feeling guilty, and wanting to forgive and love again.

The one time Jesus quoted that commandment, he was referring to grown children who are prosperous but refuse to help needy parents in their old age. I don't believe that actual small children can be expected to follow commandments. They just don't know enough.

Answer 4

To honor simply means to respect them as your parent. If you hate them or disrespect them, you just stoop to their level. Respecting and honoring also does not mean you have to stay in an abusive relationship either. However, you must forgive because if you do not, it will only hurt you in the end.

Answer 5

Commanding a young person to “honor” a father that has sexually abused them or a mother who abandoned them is insane. The young person KNOWS that the parent is not worthy of honor or respect. Why would an “all-knowing” god leave instructions that are so obviously faulty and so confusing to abused young people?

So no, we do not honor those that abuse us. God does not expect it; God does not want us to.

Answer 6

No, honoring your mum and dad is does not mean that you have to stay around and get beat.

I have very few nice things to say about my mother, and I will not spend any more time with her than I need to.

I honor her by not hating her anymore and spewing that hatred to the world.

Answer 7

Any parent who beats his or her child is transgressing the law (God's and men's) and faces punishment. There is NO pronouncement from God that a person, no matter what age, must endure physical abuse to prove they "honor" someone.

Answer 8

In no way does the word "honor" mean subjecting yourself to abuse.

There are plenty of ways to honor parents without agreeing to be abused by them. One way is to get them the help they need to stop being abusive by reporting the abuse to the authorities.

Answer 9

Yes, honoring means respect them for who they are....if they beat you........leave them, but do not stop respecting them for WHO THEY ARE....the ones who brought you on the earth. You don't have to like them, but love them.

Answer 10

...one can honor their parents by living a respectable life...even if its away from anyone abusive