Not all the time but throws out those comments. Like my leather couch came with the apt. Everyone thinks it's nice but him b/c it was used. He jokes there could be brown spiders in it or heroine needles from previous tenant. I understand it is a concern but I am trying to make it alone with a child on one income. I'm not in the ghetto or in a trailor but it isn't my ideal place to have my daughter. In the future when money is better we will move to somewhere nicer.
2007-11-16 02:54:22 · 23 answers · asked by :o) 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The boyfriend needs to shut up. If he wants cable or a new couch, he can darn well buy it himself. Good for you for not trying to live beyond your means.
2007-11-16 03:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'd ditch the boyfriend and tell him it's because he complains too much about things that shouldn't matter.
So what's going to happen when it comes to things that SHOULD matter? You'll never hear the end of it.
And don't be taking "help" from him - as in a new couch or money etc., because believe me, once he stops complaining about your stuff - he'll start complaining about you - and your daughter - not being good enough.
Yeah. I'd find a better boyfriend who is smart enough to appreciate what a wonderful woman you are and how hard you're working to be successful.
This guy is a jerk. You deserve better.
2007-11-16 11:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, I'd be saying something like, "well, then why don't you take it with you on your way out the door?" Oh noes! A used piece of furniture! It's the end of the world!
Sounds to me like even if he DOES pay for a new couch and cable he'll hold it over your head cuz he's a jerk. I might sound a bit harsh, but come on. If you tell him it bugs you and he stops, then it's all good. If he still does it after you ask him to stop, toss him.
You're trying to make a good life for your family on one income. If he doesn't respect that, you don't need him. If he's just making comments about a crappy couch, he'll stop it when you tell him it bugs you. Make sure to be clear on WHY it bothers you too.
2007-11-16 12:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is so concerned then maybe he should buy you a new one, so the spiders don’t come out and eat you. Ok, seriously, if it bothers you that he throws these uncalled for comments around, then talk to him about it. Tell him he is hurting your feelings and you are trying to survive on a one person income and in the future you want better things for you and your child, but right now you cant afford them. People can be so insensitive sometimes. I say talk to him, if he persists and continues to make you feel bad about something you are trying to make better but cant at the moment, then he either buys you a new couch, or goes and sits in his.
2007-11-16 11:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Oli 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a critical jerk. If he was helpful, he would just say, "babe, I love you, Im concerned you will be bitten by spiders, here is my AMEX card, go buy a new couch". I agree with the person who said it would be better to get rid of him and keep the couch.
2007-11-16 12:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your bf is a reall a88! If he's otherwise considerate towards you and your daughter, have a sit down with him and tell him you don't appreciate his comments as you are doing the best you can and hope to do better in the near future. If he's this rude about other things or treats you badly, dump him!
2007-11-16 11:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to go buy you a knew one if he don't like or fix it. Tell him if he was a real man he'd be getting you a better home with better furniture and cable and he would at least try to fix the malfunctions. Sounds to me like he's a complainer not a doer.
2007-11-16 11:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mariah 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Eeesh! He doesn't sound very nice. Was he spoiled as a child? You, on the other hand, sound very reasonable.
You're better off with the beautiful, previously loved couch and without him!
2007-11-16 11:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Itsa Secret 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What?! He should be concerned about making sure his stuff is together so that he can be prepared to marry his queen! Be leary of a man who criticizes too much. That sounds like a using tendency. Why would he care about what he didn't have to use? - is the question of the day.
2007-11-16 11:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
it will bwe hard for you making it alone, but do you need this person in your life, if he is moaning about things in your home ask him to contribute to buying some new items for you, he is using your home, sitting on your sofa, eating your food, using electrical things he should give you some sort of payment towards the luxury he is getting, because right now its free, and it should not be, you want to make it alone, tell him to go, you are having enough worry and hardship, without him adding to things. ungrateful person, he should be lucky to have someone, and a roof over his head.
2007-11-16 11:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋