what should a girl do?

Question

I'm a senior in high school (17 going on 18)and my friend i work with is 22. (he didnt go to college he jumped into the work field) well, we got to hang out a couple times and we made out. He called me and told me he likes me a lot and wants to go on a date with me. I agreed, its in 2 weeks (bc im busy this weekend) we talk and its great, yesterday i went up to work and we talked for a bit but i had to go, i called him after he was done with work and he didnt answer his phone, usually he goes to sleep after work. i felt that he should have called me when he had the chance..am i wrong? everyone says hes into me and really likes me. he even told me himself...but im cynical sometimes and question the motives of people bc ive been hurt b4. is he really into me? some people said maybe he wants sex, but since we were friends already i talked to him about that part of my life and i dont rush into sex right away he he doesnt either.Help! is he sincere or is he a player?

Answer 1

He does want sex. I'm sorry but I do think that his motivations are skewed...I mean no offense, but you are in high school sweetheart. No matter how mature you are, the both of you are at different points in your life. Becareful, and try not to get too attached until you really feel like you know him. That comes with time...

Answer 2

Do you want to drive a man away really really fast? Just get upset over trivial matters like failure to answer every phone call, or get jealous every time he looks at a gal, or bug the guy 24/7.

The wisdom of the poet John Donne would work here: "If you love something let it go. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it does not, it never was." So give the guy some space, for God's sake. You two are not married or engaged or even going steady. You don't own him. He doesn't own you. Yes, some guys are only in it for the sexual conquest (but then so are some women). How could anyone here who has never met the guy know whether he's sincere or a player? Do you think that the Yahoo!answers crowd consists of psychics? Use your gut instincts, and if all he was after was a one night stand, you'll be all the wiser in the future.

Answer 3

Getting hurt will always be a chance you take. Also, I think it's way to soon to start the why didn't he call me back stuff, because you haven't even been on a date yet. Now as far as whether he's a player or not you'll just have to wait and see how the first date goes,he'll obviously try and jump you if he is. Mainly, just relax and stop worrying you're too young to be obsessing about relationships. Hope I've helped you a little.

Answer 4

Huny, I think you are over-thinking the situation. If he goes to sleep everyday when he gets home from work, he probably was just really tired and passed out. He's a guy. If there's one thing i know about them, if it comes to talking on the phone or sleeping, they will choose sleep 99% of the time. Don't worry hun! If he says he likes you as much as he does, and yall already talked about the not rushing into sex issue and he's okay with it, then take a chance, take your time, get to know each other, have fun on your date, and see what he's like and where things are going to go.
I've been hurt too many times to mention, and trust me, I've been where you are. They don't call when you think they should, you get worried, start to think.....but you need to not allow yourself to do that.....From the looks of things right now, especially with him and you starting out friends, it looks that he may actually be sincere.... just take your time, express your feelings and thoughts, and by no means, dont let him push you into something you dont want!!!
Good Luck hun!

Answer 5

He's dirty. He is 22 (if that is even true... probably more like 24) and hooking up with a high school girl. I have no problems w/age differences but there is something wrong with ONLY HOOKING UP WITH A GIRL THAT IS IN HIGH SCHOOL AT 22. Most people (not all) that "jump into the work field" are just lazy and/or are not smart enough to go to college. And of course he said he doesn't want sex, what else was he going to say to you? He's playing you.

There are exceptions to everything but I'd say 99% of the time, that kind of guy is trouble, will fool you into sleeping with him (no matter how much you tell yourself that you won't do it), and then stop talking to you.

Answer 6

I'm an old(er) guy. The way i see it is that you are correct in thinking that he should have called when he had a chance. Just cuz he's into you or likes you doesn't mean squat. Hey,i like my car but i don't have feelings for it. If he wants sex he's playing it correctly. Hang out,talk,date and score. Take you time and have no expectations. Keep going as it is and DON"T put out. As time passes you may see a pattern with him, if he has a routine walk away. If he shows that you are important to him then go to the next level. We are DOGS/PIGS we'll do and say whatever it takes to get laid. Its your call and only you know what you want. Go for the gold, don't settle for bronze. Best of luck.

Answer 7

It sounds like you have several different issues.

1) Just because he did not answer his phone doesn't mean he doesn't like you maybe he was sleeping, sick ,etc. (especially if he has to get up early or works long hours).

2) 22 to 18 can be a big age difference, only because he can go to bars legally and you are not yet able.

3)Try going out on a date with him and NOT making out, just to see what happens and how he treats you. I know it might be really hard! (Actually try doing this a couple of times). If he still wants to hang out with you, he likes you, if not that means he just wants sex. Also, for your dates, try doing something where you won't have the chance to make out,i.e. bowling, pool, not the movies ;)

Answer 8

You have to get to know him first. You cant tell right off the bat. And if he is, you're 17 - you'll definitely have another chance at finding someone. Don't limit yourself to just one person at such a young age; explore your options. He probably was sleep and hasn't had a chance to return your call. Don't sweat it. Being hurt is a part of dating - everyone fears it, but it cant be avoided. Another thing - he may be a bit to old for you and guys his age prey on girls your age. I'd still give a chance though; he may be a good person after all, but still watch out.

Answer 9

He's ready to be a player if he isn't allready. When a fisherman catches a fish that is to small, what does he do? He throws it back in the water to grow a little so it will make a whole meal instead of a snack. So little fishy, (jk) let him do whatever he wants. Give him a break and just be friends with him. That means not keeping tabs on him, (but I don't think it hurts to flirt a little). When you graduate, see how ya'll feel.

Answer 10

don't worrier about all of that.. you need to just hang out and see what happens. I'm 22 and i have been married for 2 yrs.. it great but what I'm trying to tell you is i went through alot of crap before i found my husband. i don't know if you pray or what your about but prayer is the only way i found happiness. just trust that everything is going to work out the way God wants it to and know that that's the way you will be the happiest. i know that's alot to take in but just relax and see what happens in you relationship and DON'T rush things with him.. he is a grown man and he should know what he wants or not and if its you then that all well and good but don't let him lead you on, one more think if he does like you alot and still being distant it might be the age thing ( you being 17 and him 22 he could gt in trouble if ya know what i mean) the thing i would do is just strait up talk to him... good luck and lots of prayers coming your way...