My boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago because of arguing and me taking him for granted. He really wanted to stay friends and keep me in his life and maybe sort things out. He talked to me every day and when there was a party with our mutual friends we'd hang out there. Things were good. Then I find out one of his coworkers who likes him who he is not attracted to knew about our break up before us, so I said to him you care about her more. This sent him off the edge and we havent spoken since. I keep beating myself up about it and tell my friends im horrible. They keep saying im not because if I was I wouldnt still feel guilty about after a month. I dont know what to do at all and every day gets harder, not easiar, please help me out?
2007-11-16 01:10:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
people keep telling me to not worry too much because being friends after a break up is hard but im just so mad at myself.
2007-11-16 01:11:18 · update #1
your worth more then this guy.. move on yes it will hurt for awhile but atl east you can move on.. you must remember you are avery special person and you deserve better and you will get better.. take each hour as it comes and you will survive./It wasnt meant to last... you will learn from this for next time Good luck.
2007-11-16 01:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by phantom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go of the friendship if that's how you feel about it....but chances are that you still want to get back with him and this feels like a separation rather than actual breakup to you, but to him it's over and he obviously keeps you as a friend...at the same time he is moving on with other people and by you pointing out that you still haven't moved on, you are only making your actual friendship with him worse.
So the best advice in this situation wether or not you still want to continue being his friend is to move on...start dating again....it's not that hard even if you have still have feelings for him they will go away in due time.
2007-11-16 09:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by 7th_engineer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it - what's done is done. Contact him & ask to talk. If you're sorry you came down so hard on him, say so to him. He has to compromise too & not lose his cool so easily. If he refuses to talk to you & continues in this childish behaviour (sorry, not just him, the both of you), then leave it. You should both be adult enough to be able to talk & work things out. Else, go your own ways & find someone you'll click with better. Good luck.
2007-11-16 09:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends know how to forget n forgive ... the two F's
if ur bf reli luves u he's gonna understand y u mentioned other gurl .... n dun blame urself ...but jus try to find out secretly wht's going on his side ...if he's into any relationship or still missing u... n if he is missing u then u can try callin him n askin for apologize (u dun hav to actually but one have to make this over) ... but if he's into another gurl ..then try makin him jealous (if u reli want him badly) n if u can get into another relationship then ...gud luck in finding a nice guy
2007-11-16 09:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by cool h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So swallow your pride and apologize to him. Tell him you were out of line with your comment and you want to try to be friends again. Don't mention having a romantic relationship; that may not happen. But if you want to salvage your friendship, you need to talk to him now.
2007-11-16 09:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, it sounds like it's your fault. That coworker of his he might just think of as a friend, but it seems like you overreacted and accused him of liking her more.
2007-11-16 09:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by theshadow0425 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were right.
he told this girl before he tried to ork it out with you. Eww.
you dont need him. Move on.
2007-11-16 09:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you have been saying the wrong things.. so kiss and make up..
2007-11-16 09:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋