robbery while asleep. Help. Now scared.?

Question

Hey. : ( We had people break into our house monday night/tuesday morning. We woke up to our tv missing amongst other things. Our car doors were open when we checked the cars. It's a long story. There's more... So now we're terrified in our own home. Sleeping with the light on etc. We have two kids too, age 6 and 4, so we're freaking out over that also. Does anyone know someone that this also happened to, or maybe yourself? I don't know what to do mentally. They were VERY ballsy about the entire thing. And yes, we thank god no one got hurt but the fact is people broke into my house and ripped us off while we were asleep and they were creepy about it. What can I do about all these feelings in the aftermath?? Any advice? I can't fix the situation but how do I get back to functioning better in my own home???

Answer 1

Oh god this sounds like me. A year ago someone broke into my house after I had locked it up tighter than Fort Knox for the night (like I do every night) and one of the thieves walked right into my bedroom while I was sleeping and woke me up. I ended up having to move because I was so scared about being in my apartment alone, so I moved to a place monitored by a security company and better locks and other property security devices.

Anyways I'm also an insomniac and always had bad sleep before then but it got to the point I couldn't sleep at all and my doc had to prescribe sleeping meds and anti-anxiety meds for a month and a half to get me back into a 'regular' sleeping pattern and normalish mental state, but I still sleep with a night light on and get jumpy about night sounds...

I made a mistake by moving because I let the thieves make my home an uncomfortable space for me filled with fear, in a way I let them invade my home and life for a second time and they stole my comfort and peace of mind as well as the play station...

The best thing you can do in your situation is get some individual and family counseling to discuss your lingering fears and get some coping mechanisms into place, maybe see a doc if you feel that you also may need some medication to deal with them (but only as a crutch, drugs do not solve issues but may help you get some sleep while you work through them).

Also get a security specialist in to come in and access your property and then upgrade your home security to whatever level makes you feel is adequate and makes you feel comfortable (remembering practicality affordability is a huge factor). Perhaps some property insurance too if you can afford.

But my biggest suggestion is do things that make home feel like a safe and comfortable space to you again and give it time to reacquire comfort zone status. Give it a really good clean and maybe re-decorate it in order to reclaim your space and if you need to sleep with the lights on for now, just do it and don't beat yourself up about being scared OK?

Answer 2

All above answers are great suggestions. In addition, I would talk to a counselor about your fears and insecurities. They can help you work through this. Also your young children are picking up on your feelings whether you voice your insecurities or not. This leaves them frightened and insecure. A similar circumstance happened to us when mt son was 10 and my daughter 7. After making our home safe with a security system, security lights etc, the children were still afraid. It took alot of love, reassurance, constantly checking on them, even when they were asleep and giving lots of kisses and hugs while whispering that they were safe. It took awhile, but the fears diminished. However, we were ever more diligent in keeping our home and family safe.

Answer 3

lock your doors, and leave the radio and tv on when you leave the house,

As far as when your in the home,
I would suggest a security system,
its about 60 bucks a month

Be glad that your kids weren't harmed, and thank the burglars that they are only theives, and NOT rapists or killers,

I can't understand that you didn't hear them tho,
as i will hear my kids roll over in their beds,

and i would have put a baby monitor in thier rooms to hear them

you could add one to the living room and kitchen as a precaution

AND yes i know 6-4 is older but still , i would worry if i couldn't hear them,

This could be a solution,

Meg

FYI
www.freecycle.com

great site, you could get some second hand things, in the mean time, and some baby monitors

Meg

Answer 4

Im very sorry for how that must make you feel. They have taken away your feeling of security. I would try and get it back by working out how they were able to get in. Did you leave a door unlocked? Walk through your house and ask yourself what you can do to fix the vulnerable areas. What about movement actuated lights outside. Without turning your place into a prison try and get it so you feel confident no one can get in, or at the very least cant get in without taking a lot of risk by walking through well lit areas, and making lots of noise with dogs and so on.

Answer 5

We own 3 dogs -- 2 of them are Rotties. And we own about 20 guns, loaded at all times (we live in the country, on a farm, no children). Any idiot who breaks into our home will regret it in about 3 seconds. Funny, we've NEVER been robbed.

I suggest you get a dog and a shotgun. A burglar who enters a house and hears "GRRRRRR" at the same time he hears the pump-action shell being loaded into the chamber will RUNNNNNNN.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

what a terrible thing to have happen.....have you ever seen 'It takes a thief'? I believe its a discovery show-anyway, they usually amp up the security-better deadbolts, bars on windows, cameras, sensor lights, but most importantly, they install a home security system pad....try some of the local security companies in your area, and then perhaps you could try some type of martial arts for confidence or physio-therapy....hope this helps

Answer 8

put a sign in the window, a small one "Beware of dog" or a sign that say's "this premises has security " like ADT or Brinks, sometimes that works but then again when people see that , they have a perception that there are "valuables" in the house. so you have to make a choice .........the third one is to get a gun.

Answer 9

Install a security system. if that is too expensive just think of all the stuff you lost and the lives that could have been lost if you had one. In other words. Install a security system. -=)

Answer 10

Get a security system.. they work if someone breaks in and theres stickers to show the robbers not to break in