How does a person keep from feeling so lonely.?

Question

I try to make friends and I try to keep muself busy but no matter, I feel so empty and lonely inside.

Answer 1

So the cure must come from within. Talk more to your inner self.

Answer 2

I spend plenty of time alone but I am never lonely. Some people are always lonely, even it a crowd. The difference is, that you need to learn to like yourself. You need to like your own company.

Finding acquaintances or friends or even a lover is not that difficult. Instead of looking for people, find areas of interest. We all like to joke about Start Trek fans who attend conventions but that is a common interest that brings them together.

If you have any interests, look for other people who share those interests. It could be anything, really. There are book reading groups, museum visiting groups, travel groups, amateur astronomer groups, model building groups, volunteer organizations, you name it.

What are you into? If you have no hobbies or interests that is part of the problem. Having a hobby or an area of interest gives you plenty to do besides feeling lonely and sharing that hobby or interest with others who have the same hobby or interest provides lots of common ground.

If you simply sit around lamenting, being bored or getting depressed, you will probably not find anyone else to talk to. On the other hand, if you find a hobby or interest you will like being with yourself. Soon, other people with the same hobby or interest will like you, too.

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Answer 3

There is only one person in the world you will never ever ever be able to get rid of: one that knows you best, sleeps with you, never lies to you, and will never let you down: yourself! So there is only one way you can feel empty inside: by failing to validate yourself, your best friend. Take good care of your ethics so you don't rub her the wrong way, please her so she feels comfortable most of the time, refuse to include within the circle of your friends or even close relatives those who invalidate you, depress you, impinge on you, try to control or manipulate you. Keep counsel with those who really appreciate you and respect your right to chose your own way to succeed and/or fail. .

Next thing you know, from the moment you like yourself, you will have to fend off the tsunami of positive communication you get!

Answer 4

Three things:

One:

Without knowing all the particulars, I'm guessing that you are ridiculed by your peers.
If so, stand up to them. If they put you down tell them that If you want their opion - you'll give it to them. Put yourself in situations where others can see where you excell.

TWO:

Count this as a blessing in disguise. Its the struggle, not the success that makes you a stonger person. Don't worry about what others think.

LAST:

Continue to be busy, but focus that on things that are useful, constructive and can move you ahead.

Best of Luck! :-)

Answer 5

I was the same way for years when someone suggested I attend a church. I did and now have more friends that I would have ever imagined. The best part is they are for the most part good and sincere friends.
You might try it. Find a church any denomination that shows a welcoming spirit.
Good luck and God bless

Answer 6

I've been there before, it sounds like you are falling into a depression mode. The only thing to do at this point is to stay strong. If you are religious, talk to a pastor or a theropist. Try volunteering at non- profit organizations. That will definately keep you busy.... Or stay online and talk to us......

Answer 7

I had the same exact problem, i didn't know there was someone who i always could talk to, someone who was always there wanting and willing to fulfill every one of my needs. Then i found him, Jesus. He's amazing, but as the Bible says, you have to search with all your heart for him, and when u do, you'll be sooooo content, so full and never again empty, when you talk to him,you'll feel tingly and sooo high. If you need my help e-mail me I'll be happy to be friends with ya. 1*Luv peace

Answer 8

find your own path, you can't sit around and mope because you have no friends. I have no friends, but I enjoy my life to the hilt anyway.
And that got a lot of people respecting me and now they want to hang out with me. Of course, I don't have time for them anymore. Too busy playing, sorry.

Answer 9

there's no substitute for human connection, human contact. get out of the house and talk to people. smile at a stranger and make conversation. join groups and clubs and be the best person you can.

Answer 10

You need God. Really, finding a great church and praying to the God of the universe who gave you value, is a very satisfying thing. Also, ask God to send you friends, and then believe that He will and expect them to come.