i really need someone to answer this so please?

Question

my g/f broke up with me for another guy about 3 months ago. we were together for about a year and after the break up we founf it really hard to keep any kind of relationship but we managed to be friends and about 2 weeks ago we got together and she ended up cheating on her b/f with me. now im in high school so cheating here is not sex but we made out and had some for-play. after that i made her feel guilty enough to tell her b/f and they broke up which is really what i wanted cause i do want to get back together with her. now she is comming over here today and we will be alone and she wants to have sex. she said it would be meaningless to her and that it doesnt mean we will get back together or anything. i dont want to do it if its not going to mean anything but i will if she really wants to. im the only one she has ever had sex with but i dont want her to be a whore and have sex just for fun. what might i be able to say to her to wake her up to the fact that sex should be specail?

i really want her to relize that she shouldnt be having sex for no reason and the way i believe is that sex is alright as long as it is for the right reasons. i will do it cause well im a guy and if that means that she will be happy and make it a better chance for us to get back together then i would do nething it took. i dont want her to just ditch me afterward and figure sex is fine and she will end up being a whore like all the other girls at my school. really what can i do about this before or after we have sex to make her relize she shouldnt be doing this?

Answer 1

If her intention is to have sex without being in a relationship with you, you don't want to have sex with her. She is being selfish. If she wants casual sex, and it sounds like she does, she needs to find it elsewhere. You use to date her, and she dumped you. She has no claim on you. And if you tell her you want a relationship before you will have sex with her, she might say ok, then when someone else comes along, she will dump you again in a heartbeat. You need to let this one go. She does not sound like the girlfriend you deserve.

Answer 2

Maybe she is testing you...she may figure if you want her back so badly then you will do whatever SHE wants you to do. I admire the fact that you don't want to just jump in bed with her. Maybe when she comes over have something else planned and take her away from the house out to a movie or to the mall; something that will distract her and then talk. Let her know what she means to you and that sex isn't going to change that. Sex is not a good measure of someone's value. Maybe the last boyfriend used sex as a condition, and she's just seeing if you are the same. Good luck and keep the mindset that sex can wait until it's right!!!

Answer 3

Tell her that you need to talk to her first. Tell her that you feel that having sex should be something special. Tell her that you would feel used and like you were using her if there were no feelings involved. Tell her that you would rather wait until it is the right time for both of you. Tell her that having sex should only be shared by two people that truly care about each other, and she should reconsider what she said.

Answer 4

sounds like you are perpetuating the stereotype that its ok for guys to have lots of sex but not girls, if I were in you shoes I would tell her that you care so much for her that you will not allow her to just have sex because, and explain that sex in a committed relationship is atleast understandable but outside of that she is to good and special. Just talk to her from your heart, everything will work out for the best.

Answer 5

just tell her no and for her to wait for marriage..........