help me out!?

Question

i am in high school and it seems like every day i cant think positive things about myself! its either me thinking im ugly or fat or stupid, ect. i dont know what to do! i pray every night that these feeling will go away but they dont! i want to think good things not bad!

Answer 1

Try this: If I ask you to close your eyes and think of a purple balloon, does it work? Can you? Ok, seriously try this. Can you think of a purple balloon?

Now, try this: If you just don't like purple or you prefer pink, can you close your eyes and change the color of the balloon you're thinking about to pink? Or you don't like balloons at all, can you change to thinking of a bouquet of flowers instead of balloons?

If you can change the things I suggested you think about to whatever YOU wanted to think about, congrats! YOU are in control of your own mind. You CAN choose your thoughts and CHANGE the negative into positive thinking. It WILL take practice and if you seriously want to, you will. Only YOU can do it.

Will you choose a life of negativity or happiness?

Answer 2

Very normal for a teen but adults do it too...so you are not alone. First of all I'd try to distract myself everytime these thoughts come up and stop praying that they will go away. The more you focus on them the more they stay 'in your face'. Instead think of how you'd rather be feeling: "I know I'm a pretty cool person and I know lots of people enjoy me" "I'm glad I can shrug off any crappy feelings about myself easier these days" "I'm glad I can just be myself and not worry about how I seem to others"

Simple stuff...but as soon as you start feeling 'bad' about how you see yourself it's distraction time! What does feel good in your life? Gotta be something! Your pet? Your friends or family members? You live in a decent home? You are healthy? You are free to make your own choices? You love to cook? You love to read? What makes YOU feel good..?

Then there's always something I recommend to folks feeling bad about ANYTHING - volunteer somewhere! At a pet shelter, old folks home, tutor some young kids, adopt a family in need at Christmas (through any church) - it really helps to temporarily take the focus off you and while you're at it...you start to feel better about you as you and others you are helping appreciate you in a whole new way! Not to mention volunteering is great to put down on your transcripts if going to college!!

Hope this helps! Get started!

Answer 3

Ask yourself where these thoughts are coming from in the first place. Your parents? Your friends at school? Where? Then say to yourself when you start thinking negative thoughts; "shut up! I am a great person!" Make a list of all the positive things about yourself, put it on your mirror if you have to so you see it first thing every morning to remind you that you have value.

Keep praying, but also learn to control your own thoughts, that is how Satan attacks us sometimes, with all the negative.

Answer 4

Do you have a best friend who you can share anything with?

Start with that friend and ask them to list 3 good things about you. It may sound silly, I know, but if they're really your best friend, they're going to easily come up with 3 things that you might not have thought of yourself.

You can do the same with your parents. You might feel like they are "required" to love you, but as a parent myself, I have found some amazing things about my daughters - things that blow me away to be their traits. Sometimes I wonder where she picked up the ability to do this or that or how she got such a positive attitude, how she got so smart or when she decided that pressing on was better than giving up.

You said you pray, so look in God's word at what He thinks of you. He made you, and knows every intimate detail of you.

Start with Psalm 139; verse 13 & 14 say:

13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother's womb.

14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.

His works are WONDERFUL!! That means that YOU are wonderful! Read the entire Psalm and commit it to your heart - memorize it.

I hope that helps - God bless you!!

Answer 5

Try to be around really positive people.

You have to change for yourself. You have to love yourself and you will see that you will not feel the way you do. Praying is good though.

Get involved with yourself, do your hair, find healthy friends and lets see what happens. Try to speak to an adult about this, this could harm you and you are too young....you need to be happy...life is great...enjoy every minute of it.

I am sure you are a beautiful girl......

Answer 6

I think u have very low self esstem. I know how u feel I feel the same way. The only one who is hurting u is urself. I'm 16 and I know this feeling if u want 2 talk 2 can find me here

Answer 7

think like when you look at someone else do you think they are ugly or fat. u shouldnt and even if you do they wont say it. if you get compliments from people thats is more than enought to stop careing. you shouldnt care so much about what other people think. your you not a person on display!