do you thing living together without getting married is a problem ..because...
2007-11-15 23:04:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
guys are not wed yet and then u get so content and happy with the way things are then u wont do anything about a wedding.......u will just say that its too much money and work and so u will never end up getting married......and then the government will step in blah blah blah, and you will end up in a bunch of junk.......thats what heppened to my anut and uncle and they ended up splitting because of this............i advise u get married before u live together.............................
2007-11-15 23:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by brookiee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other men were always trying to go out with me when I did that. It was kind of unfair to everybody (not to mention maybe dishonest). Some people actually got their hearts broken, and that certainly was not the intention! And when I finally did marry my beloved, neither of us really trusted the other like I think we would have if we had just stated our truly feelings openly and gotten married. Oh -- and our parents never did get over, just under the surface, hating the "in-law" child. So that ultimately became a major problem. Living together is just postponing decisions that ultimately have to be made. What are we saying when we do that? "Uh, I'll be able to think clearer once my booty feels better?" You know it's just the opposite!
2007-11-16 07:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it all depends on your intentions. My boyfriend and I live together and we have been for six months now. We did as a trial before deciding to get married kind of thing. Lots of couples split up because they find all of the bad habits etc. AFTER they marry and live together. Living together has put us both in a "we and our" mind frame instead of "my or I". It has helped me truly close the I as in by myself or single setting that I was in when I lived alone. Do what you would like.
2007-11-16 10:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by andie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if neither party never wants to get married, but that is rarely the case, and eventually someone does want the security of being married, and they end up resenting the other person because they won't marry them.
2007-11-16 09:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see it as a problem, but I think its all in how you were raised and what your familys morals are. My cousin moved in with her boyfriend (of a week) and didn't tell my grandmother, because she was ashamed, and my grandmother was very very dissappointed in her when she found out. So if you can live with someone without feeling like your letting somebody down or being frowned upon I say go for it!
2007-11-17 13:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by *His Wifey* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or people get discontent anyways and break up since there's no binding of marriage, which typically causes problems. There's the option of divorce for discontent couples, but that's often hard on families as well. I have way too many friends whose families were ruined on account of divorce. So, people should be careful in their relationships. Don't get deep in something if you're not going to accept the instrinsic responsibilities.
2007-11-16 07:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by Iriath Zhul 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not a problem; best to know you can co-habitate and work through those issues before getting married.
2007-11-16 09:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jacob F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get too content to not take that next step.
2007-11-16 07:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋