wife confesses pregnancy from affair?

Question

i have been married for 15 months, and we have a daughter. my daughter is my love, but my sister told me that the child has no resemblence to me, and i should get a paternity test. i did which showed that she is not mine. I approached my wife and she confessed she had an affair with a doctor from work (my wife is a nurse). this doctor is 41 years old (we are 22). i asked her why she kept it from me, and she says she didnt want to break my heart-she knew all the time. i think i am going to leave to start a new life-----what do you all think? i am going to ask in a lot of categories because i really need opinions

Answer 1

you should leave her man, shes a cheater and she keeps big stuff like that a secret

Answer 2

This is terrible. I was going to go to bed when I saw this. I am 27 years old and I have been married for 6 years, (we have been together for 9 years). My wife is currently pregnant with our first and only child. It is going to be a girl.

Now you know a little about me.

My heart would be broken in two. I would be angry, but that is not my advice to you. I think your situation demands a clear mind and heart. You say you might leave. I would not think any less of you if this is the path you choose. I don't think anyone would judge you for that.

My thoughts are racing and my mind is failing to come up with solid answers here. This is something that might need to be answered by only you. I will give only my opinion, and I mean not to over step my boundaries on this one.

You are young, correct? (22) What reasons would you have to stay? In my opinion this is the ultimate betrayal. Do you have somewhere you can go? Family? Friends? I would take some time off from life... ( when I say life I mean work, school, whatever.) Take some time to yourself, by yourself. If there is ever a time to do some soul searching it is now. Go somewhere to think. (Somewhere quite where you will be uninterrupted.) What are your dreams? What are your goals? Does she fit into that picture now? When you were younger, what was it you pictured your life to be like? Ask yourself these questions and more. No matter what you choose, be proud of who you are. I feel I have failed you in someway. I wish I was wiser with more answers, but I fear I am not.

I am not religious, not for some time now. I have been a self declared agnostic for sometime. Tonight as I lay down to sleep, I will stop and talk to God for the first time in awhile, I will ask of him only one thing... that he may guide you on whatever path you choose. I will ask nothing for myself.

Good Luck my friend, and my the rest of your day be filled will smiles, laughter, and peace.

- Jordan

Answer 3

Tim you sound like a great man which has been taken for a ride. The only 2 people hurt is yourself and this poor girl. That is a huge secret to keep just imagine all the little ones that you will never know about. You deserve to be happy and a new start is the way to that because if you stay you will never have any trust for this woman. The other major concern is that this woman has put you at risk of STD's and never told you that is so selfish. All the best Tim you deserve it :-)

Answer 4

first of all, she did not marry you cos she loves u,it would have been better for her to break ur heart when u guys were not yet married rather than now.

secondly, i wouldn't want you to feel too bad, though it hurt to know u are not the father of a baby from ur wife , but u have get yourself together and move on with your life. you are still very young and you can still get a loving wife, who will always love you and be with u and even give u your own baby. try to get it over you, and find someone else. thats the best advise , cos she might even hurt you more in the future if you continue with her. she is not faithful to you, and it is dangerous to live with an unfaithful woman or man than with a lion.

Answer 5

im not sure this is the right place to get what you are looking for but heres my opinion. leave her and find someone else. you have no loyalities towards her or her kid..dont let her take you for a fool and brin the kid up with her. shs not your..the doctor can pay for her keep. get a divorce on the grounds of her affair. if you live together get tht house up for sale..dont leave it for her and the kid to live in. your 22..you can easily find someone who respects you and loves you and you can remarry again and have kids with them. stay with her and you will resent her and break up anyway but it will be harder for the id cos you will have bonded. good luck.

Answer 6

Thats is a horrible thing to happen to someone. But talk it through. Does that Dr bloke want anything to do with the little girl? If not then you can still be there for her but not with the mother.

But dont make yourself un happy to suit others!!!

Answer 7

She is not worth calling a human. Moreover, she has no morality and is a murderer of ethics.

Divorce her, sue her, demand monetary compensation for felony and fraud and get a new wife! Ask her to leave your house with her brood right at this moment.

Remy - your response sucks.
screech8 - your response sucks too. The question of forgiveness does not arise. She should be driven out of that house right at this moment.

Answer 8

You need to get out of there bro, but you need a lawyer, fast!!! Some times the courts make you pay child support in cases like this because you assumed and acted as the father of the child.

Answer 9

lol, h8 to be you!

thats really deep. you should talk with your wife about it.
try to solve it together.
you might not have the same relationship, but if you just leave then you will ruin your daughters life.
yes, she is YOUR AND YOUR WIFES DAUGHTER, NOT THE DOCTOR AND YOUR WIFES DAUGHTER.
just coz she's not of your flesh and blood doesn't mean your not her father.
If you just leave then you will probably ruin your daughters life.
look at me, im 15, parents neva loved eachother anyway. i was 100% accident (no contraception coz hospital told mum she was infertile) i have reason to belive mum was a prostitue hired by dad to do it together.
out popped me.
i have had nothing but trouble. court casses, councillors, court casses. "the child live with the father, the child see the mother every wednesday, every 2nd weekend and every 1st and 3rd friday" new ones" THe child reside with the mother and father, every 1st and 3rd week the child be with the father, every 2nd week the child be with the mother" WOULD YOU BELIVE THAT I HAD TO GO BACK TO COURT AND SEE 3 COUNCILLOR PEOPLE JUST TO CHANGE THE ABOVE ONE TO "THe child reside with the mother and father, every 2nd week the child be with the father, every 1st and 3rd week the child be with the mother"!!!
now look at me.
15.
its 9:31 pm on a friday over here.
im having fun going and answering random questions (some not so random, bust most are stupid and random) and i'm enjoying it. i should be asleep, or out, but nooooo. im too wacked in the hed and now im having fun answering questions like "where should i get married?" or "how loud do you sneeze?"
just because you cant have a healthy relationship with your wife (or probably ex-wife, i dunno) doesn't mean you can't have a healthy relationship with YOUR daughter. don't move away, stay within a short drive so if wife needs your help u r there for her. and if you need wifes help, she is there for you. and daughter is happy and grows up with two loving parents who want and love her, and want and love eachother. they don't have to love love eachother, they just need to respect love eachother.
of course, you and wife may stay together, or you may decide to move country because of this. just please, whatever you do, do it for your daughter.

Answer 10

Only 15 months married. No biological child with her. You should leave immediately.

Answer 11

Tough call here my friend. Before you act in haste, I would definetly find a minister to talk to about this.

You should report this doctor to the medical board in your state for violation of his hypocratic oath!!!