Well im 19 and my girlfriend is 18, we have been dating for 3 years now and I truly love her with every last breath in my body. I think about her daily and dream about her while I lay in my bed asleep. I cant bare to live without her, however, she seems to be drifting from me and I do not know how to stop it and make her love me once more. My heart would literally shatter if I lost her I cry now as I type this hoping and praying that one of you will provide the answer to save me from the pain of losing the one I love most. I would give my soul just to hear her say "I love you" once more.
2007-11-15 20:49:38 · 10 answers · asked by DarknessFalls 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wanted to apologize for adding the Unnecessary question mark after trouble I am devastated right now and cant not do things correctly.
2007-11-15 20:54:43 · update #1
Its my fault for not explaining this. She is the one who told me she feels she is drifting from the relationship. I began to notice and spoke to her but she does not know why. I do depend on her but we barly see each other its like she doesnt want to spend time with me anymore.
I mean I hope this doesnt get me in trouble but I do truly factor in the thought of just killing my self and being done with it. I hurt so bad and if I told her all this I would probably scare her I am just so confused.
2007-11-15 21:07:31 · update #2
Evvonet I apologize if I spelt your name wrong however my girlfriend is the PK I am a Christian but I can not deny my heart and claim that I put the Lord our God above her because it is impossible for me to do so. When I see her I still get the tipsy feeling she makes me get the butterflies still after 3 years. I believe that jesus died on the cross for our sins but I can not sit here and lie saying I want to put him first. She is more important than my very soul.
I hope you read this and respond/edit again with more help.
2007-11-15 21:20:28 · update #3
Darkness...
I am sorry that you are having to go through such heartache. I wish I could tell you that everything will get better, but I can't. All I can say is to pray and leave it in God's hands. If it is meant to be, things will work out.
You just have to keep in mind that God wants you to put HIM first before anyone or anything. God wants you to submit to Him whole-heartedly. HE will sometimes test you to see whether you will falter or rise in faith. No matter what the outcome of your situation(s), God will not give you no more than you can handle. God loves you more than you could ever know. HE wants you to love Him with all your heart, mind and soul.
In the Bible, it says;
Matthew 22:37
Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'
Mean while, try talking with your girlfriend and tell her how you feel. Leave nothing unsaid. Ask her how she feels about you. Whatever you do, don't let pride get in the way.
Know that you deserve to be loved and respected. If she is not willing to try to make things work, then you might have to move on as hard as it may be. You don't want to waste several more years with someone who does not love you.
Save yourself from further heartache.
I will also say a prayer for you and your girlfriend in hopes that things work out for the both of you.
Remember...
Keep your head up and keep the FAITH.
-God Bless.
2007-11-15 21:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself and her a favour, and stop being so dependant on her love. If she feels that she is the only thing that matters to you she might feel suffocated and under pressure. Relax, focus on your relationship but dont put too much pressure on it that she feels obliged to act as emotionally as you. People show love in different ways; why do you feel she is drifting away?
By the way, from experience the worst thing you can do is "make someone" love you. It defeats the purpose of love as it purely selfish. (please don't get offended by this)
Good luck with everything, dont push too hard or try to hold on if it's not what she wants (it'll just hurt more and make you feel desperate and alone ); if you're close after 3 years its possible that the relationship is just changing normally and you will drift apart a bit before becoming even closer.
Good luck with everything :-)
2007-11-15 21:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first lemme say, thats awesome you have been together for so long.
I understand your stress from this, but I honestly think you just need to confront her about this, just simply tell her you feel like shes drifting away.
You obviously love her, but maybe shes bored with how things are.
Maybe she wants to change things up a bit... just ask her questions, ask her how she feels.
Dont get all upset hun, everythings going to be fine.
Everything happens for a reason, if its ment to be, it will be, if not, there is someone else out there for you.
I hope you feel better.
And I hope I helped.
2007-11-15 21:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First n foremost thing...
just be calm... no need to panic...
N now coming to ur problem...
first of all... just stop ur brain from thinking all these stuff...
u've been in relationship from last three years... i dont think that she'll ever leave u...
u haven't mentioned the factors that are making u think these stuffs... so... first clear ur mind... listen to what ur heart says...
n love isn't just around those three words... many a times what the other person does speaks how much she loves u more than saying these three words...
i've gonna thru what u r saying... n thats y telling u... just stop thinking the things like she'll leave u or anything like that... dont let that feeling of insecurity occupy ur mind...
n just talk this with her once... might it will help u...
Best of Luck!!!
2007-11-15 20:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Demolisher 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very evident by what you have written that you have very strong feelings for your girlfriend. This first love is a very powerful thing but if you love her as much as you say you do you need to be aware of her feelings and allow your relationship to continue it's evolution. That growth may mean that one or both of you may move in another direction but if you are meant to be with this woman for the rest of your life it will happen. If you hold he back it will drive a wedge between you, if you set her free and she stays then it was meant to be.
2007-11-15 21:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u feel she is drifting away from u, ask her, be honest about what u feel. She is still with you, why wont she love you anymore. Maybe you should treat her to a very romantic night...and make her feel real special. Good luck
2007-11-15 21:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Cheyanne A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know dude, reading your letter just tells about everything that you really wanted to hear from me. I just hope she'll read it too 'coz that's really how you feel towards her. She is your everything and in fact your life. Tell her these things instead.
2007-11-15 21:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by Ken-Eros 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be appropriate if you speak to hear. Perhaps your fears are unfounded. Good luck and God bless.
2007-11-15 20:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by Good Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there bro and see what happens.
2007-11-15 20:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by BigBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coooool
2007-11-15 20:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by amit s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋