my bf is 24 n me 21 i m pursuing my PG n my bf is doing business .he is a muslim n i m hindu his family n my family doesn't know abt ur affair his parents is planning for his marraige n i m just 21 n stdying , first i want to finish my stdying n then can decide abt my marraige and other things but i love him so much right now he is going to see a girl for marraige (he already reject 3 girls earlier ) he loves me more than i love him but said i donn't wanna to force u do as wht u want ,do wht makes u happy . when i tell him that if we get married n my parents doesn't convience then the whole life i cann't face them ,he said if my parents didn't convience then we will live seprately ..................i really donn't know wht to do plz help me
he also loveme n wanted to marry wd me ,even me too but its too early i m just 21 i want to study ,he said if we get married then after certain all get relaxed but i really donn't know wht to do????????????
2007-11-15 19:58:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Two things jump out, from what I can understand.
1. He's pressuring you into marrying him, basically threatening you ("if you don't say yes right now I'm leaving you").
2. He doesn't care if it cuts you off from your parents.
I don't know who this guy is, but those are classic signs of a potential abuser. It's very typical to rush their partners into marriage, and separate them from family or people that can help them. At the very least, it's very very controlling behaviour.
If you marry this guy out of fear, you may never be able to get your own life back again. Anybody who really loves you will wait until you're comfortable. If he won't wait, then you've probably had a narrow escape.
2007-11-15 20:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by Bellavita 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
21 is a little too yung to b thinking and worryin bot things like marriage it wud b wise to concentrate on yur pg and complete it. love and right man will come by yu at the correct age.
concentrate on buildin yur CAREER first then all will fall in place by itself after marriage all hell will break loose yu know hw it is in yur place wen it is an inter-community marriage possiblity is also this that this guy can b asked to leave the family and the bussiness wat will yu then eat? do yu think yur parnz will support yu? if they will then it is not an issue if they don't?
leave all this for the time-being and for atleast 2 more years concentrate on studies and CAREER building if he loves yu so much ask him to wait till then else there ar lots of handsome guys whom yur parnz will find find for yu
in today's world if yu ar not CAREER oriented, yu will hav no value wat-so-eva this is the ripe time to focus on studies, do it
i wasted my college life after gal and love while my other frnz studied and made a CAREER for themselves Now it is juz me and my envious heart that ar together
so yu know hw important it is to study NOW don't become another me.
Good Luck.
2007-11-15 22:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by 13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure you Research what a Moslem man is allowed to do with his wife. My Christian friends who married beautiful, l brilliant Moslem men have All been Battered on a regular basis. Maybe that wouldn't happen to a Hindu girl. Maybe it would. I can promise you that after being beaten unconscious in front of your children a few times, even the sexiest, most family-oriented girl's love and respect for even the most wonderful man begins to fade.
2007-11-16 00:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
dont let him pressure you....
Take your time you are still young, tell him you love him, and you will marry him, but not yet.
Im not sure about the religious thing though but it sounds pretty serious.
2007-11-15 20:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jay B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why cant you get married and still study?
if you want to marry him you have to face your family.
and if he does love you he will wait forever
2007-11-16 02:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with jay b
2007-11-15 20:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by applestory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋