How can I find out how he truely feels?
My ex boyfriend broke up with me over three years ago when I moved away for college...He is seven years older and was starting his career and said the long distance was hard etc. We stayed friends (w/benefits but only saw him every 4 months or so) for about 2 yearss until I found out he had another girl and told him I could just be friends. Last week I was visitng and we got together and he told me he was single. It had been about 4 months since I told him we could just be friends. He tried to get me to stay over..but I just kissed him and left. This weekend he was in my town (not visiting me but a friend) and we got together for an hour in the day and it was kinda awkard. I still like him a lot and cant figure out how he feels..why does he still contact me? do you think he still has feelings for me? guys..is it hard for you to open up? he knows now that i wont sleep with him but is still keepin in touch..?!?
2007-11-15 19:44:10 · 5 answers · asked by Janie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's waiting for you to give in. If you're will be be 'Handy Candy' he'll devote 4 days a year to you forever.
2007-11-15 19:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by bill b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took my ex about 6 yrs to stop calling {his calls went from daily to weekly ,monthly etc..}. And that was only because I had a child . I guess he figured 'it's really over'. He was my first love I was 16 he was 19. I'm now 25 and it was only 3 yrs ago he stopped calling. I think part of him won't let go it will take time and maybe you're get to a point where you can be friends but in my expedience once you've been intimate it's really hard to be just friends. My ex and I tried to be friends but once he knew I was in love it got weird and when he found out I had a baby it was really hard on him. Give him time he'll get the point and leave you along I guess your a hard woman to get over. Oh and he lives in Puerto Rico and I moved to the States that's why we broke up so it was that much harder to get over, we never got to end things. ^_^ DJ
2007-11-16 03:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely he thinks that one of these days you will give in. He broke up with you. Why bother? I would forget the meetings and tell him that you can exchange conversation online. Bet he wouldn't want to be such a good friend then. Move on.
2007-11-16 03:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he still cares for you, If he was truly in love with you at one time you will always have a spot in his heart.
As far as sex goes that's your personal choice. But I think as long as he's not seeing anyone and your not either there is nothing wrong with friends with benefits.
All I can say is just be his friend...
2007-11-16 03:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU will never know how a man feels truly---
just like us girls,if we can be complicated and most men find it hard to understand our ways then I know girls just cant fathom the idea of guys being so uncertain and naive.
(i'm not against men but if you guys feel it deep within yourselves then show it,say it and express it so we girls wont keep on guessing and sound desperate)
2007-11-16 03:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Leila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋