Ah help my heart is broken! I dont want to hurt anymore! I broke up with my boyfriend about2weeks ago because he was hurting me with all his flirty ways and lies..he always wanted to drink all the time and when he drank would chat up other girls and hurt me more..and he had so many girl mates! he was alwys talking to girls and one being a girl he kissed when he was with his ex!! I was with him for 2years and I moved to another country for him but moved back alittle under 2weeks ago because i was an emotional wreck and just didnt know who i was anymore! ahhh i just want to get over him.. now that i have moved back home all i can think of is all the good things i dont have anymore and miss him so much! there were good things but with all his lieing i couldnt trust anymore and was so hurt i didnt no what else to do.I just want to no how to move on.please can anyone help my heart is broken it was the hardest thing ever getting on that plane and now im so hurt!!! Did i do the right thing!
2007-11-15 19:02:36 · 18 answers · asked by hello 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you did what you had to do to make yourself happy and survive that's more important then some bad relationship you should not suffer at all when you are in a relationship there are better guys out there for you it just takes a little time to find another one ,never lose yourself again your the most important one not him. this guy showed no respect to you ,you can only expect more of the same from him. so don't go back move on to a better life its that easy
2007-11-15 19:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by jp patches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to you on so many levels but what you have to understand is of course he cared about you for giving up so much. That is so much to ask to move to another country yes you will learn many new things, but you have to understand how different cultures interact with each other even though the same drama will happen in the states,in Europe or where ever. You knew what you were doing to give up not being in your native land. If you thought he was a dirt bag you would never have done it. Two weeks is nothing I'm sure to the way you thought he was hurting you but you have to understand you will look and not touch he's not touching..and he obviously knows he's coming home to you and doing you instead of them. Cuz me as I women who is in a relationship I like to flirt with a good looking man but I will not do anything besides that. If you don't trust that he cares or loves you than forget him, there are still many guys who won't take you for granted and you are the only person to really know , cuz I'm not there to see it but within your text and regardless if he kissing another girl... obviously they are not together anymore he didn't love her. Be strong don't let your gut get you down even if the truth hurts, but you are in a within a different culture and you should take him home and show him you are the best lover he will ever have.
2007-11-15 19:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by moonshine057 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop doubting yourself, girl...it took a lot of guts to get on that plane and leave the way you did, so good for you! i know it's hard right now because you have to adjust to being back home and your life is totally different, but it will get better. i dated a guy for 2 years and one night he got really drunk and just hit me out of the blue (he had never hit me before or acted like he would do that). i packed my stuff and left and never looked back. it was hard, but it was worth it. you said you didn't trust your boyfriend and my thing is - if you don't have trust in a relationship, you don't have anything because trust is everything. the best thing you can do is stay busy and try to keep your mind off of it. you know you did the right thing so stop beating yourself up and celebrate because you could have lost a lot by staying with him...
2007-11-15 19:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by becca311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love pursuit by a girl, often ends like this. You did the right thing, though a bit late. Now you gather confidence and courage but DO NOT pursue anyone. You are destined to get a better partner that's why you got rid of that 'liar' cheat.
2007-11-15 19:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you did the right thing and you really dont need any of us to tell you this but if it makes you feel better then I will say it again, you were definitely caught up in a no win situation and there is nothing wrong with taking your toys and going home when others do not play fair. Hang in there sweety, he just wasnt your cup of tea :)-Rachel.
2007-11-15 19:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. GET ANGRY for how he disrespected you by his actions!! GET ANGRY because while you're sitting on the computer typing with a broken heart he's out somewhere hitting some other chick up for sex.
Now that you're properly pissed off instead of sad, get over him and move forward and someone really nice who deserves a good woman like you will come into your life.. :)
2007-11-15 19:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. I know that it is hard to forget all of the good times, but be sure to remember what he did that made you leave. Eventually, you will be able to move on a much wiser person for having experienced all of this.
2007-11-15 19:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Sometimes, it helps to think like a selfish person. Do what is best for you and yourself only. If you are alone, consider volunteering. It's a great way to meet other nice people!
2007-11-15 19:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. The feelings you are having right now will subside with time. Hang in there....there IS someone truly wonderful out there for you.
2007-11-15 19:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by James Bond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong or right with ur problem. u did whatever u felt was right and thats god. plus i feel hes not that right 4 u he probably just wants you for dating or stuff. but maybe you have a lot of feelings 4 u and he doesnt, but it doesnt mean u should break up.....
well im not an expert, as u can c!!! so GoD LuCk
2007-11-15 19:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋