Were you spanked as a child? Would you spank your own children?

Question

I was spanked as a child and I still have such unpleasant memories of it as an adult. I would never spank my own children, there are better ways of teaching them lessons like negative reinforcement: taking away priviledges like toys or time-outs.
What are you experiences?

Answer 1

Yes and Yes

Answer 2

Really, can people not get over this idea that spanking is a form of abuse? Why bring up the topic when you know that it's plastered everywhere over here. LOL.

A mere spanking is a swat or two on the bottom. If you are effected by something like that, then you do have a problem. If, however, you were actually ABUSED, then yes, there would be long lasting psychological and physical affects. Spankings don't leave emotional scars.
Please seek therapy if you have been abused. I know many people who were spanked and they are totally fine, they haven't been affected in any way. I was spanked, my siblings were spanked, we are well adjusted adults.

We spank our children when they have done something very wrong. They are being raised in a nurturing and loving environment. If you think that taking away privileges and time outs are 100% effective, you have a lot to learn about parenting.

How many more seconds til someone else goes off on a spanking rant? LOL.

Answer 3

Have been, and probably will.

Of course spanking is unpleasant!!
But as long as parents don't go overboard, as long as they let us know they do not think WE are bad, just that we do some "bad" things; and if they show us in many pleasant ways that they do love us ... then the spankings are (or should be) such a VERY SMALL part of our childhood.

Yeah, spankings are unpleasant, They HURT!! OUCH!!!!
But maybe your parents stretched out the unpleasantness as long as they could ... after-spanking corner time, restrictions, etc. so you would think and think and think about the spanking, rather than "lesson learned" and allowed to get on with life.
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Answer 4

I was aspanked as a child, but only a handful of times. I only got spanked when nothing else worked, such as time outs and taking away privelges and toys and what not. I was not affected at all. I guess it depends on the situation really. I wasn't beat, and would never beat my son and future children. I will spank them however, but only if, as with me, nothing else works. Its a last resort measure. Make sure you warn the child that if they keep up with the attitude or behaviour that they will receive a spanking. If it leaves a bruise, then thats excessive, and if its every day, all the time, then thats excessive. But every once in a while won't hurt, in my opinion anyway.

Answer 5

I was spanked one time by my mother(she'll never admitt to it...lol). My father never laid a hand on me. The Deep,stern tone of his voice was more than terrifying enough for me. I'm a juvenile detention officer and use this method more than once a day as well as timeouts. I have spanked the bottom of my own child as a last resort a few times, I guess my point is if your not scaring your child straight at home there will be plenty of detention officer who love the big bad attitudes juveniles bring into their mods. Trust me I'd rather see the hand of a parent on their own child then that of an officers elbow to the child's face during a restraint. Get my drift?

Answer 6

I was a little more than spanked as a child. But my parents were disciplined worse than I was. It is a progression of ignorance. I did spank for a few years but I felt I was doing so much better than my parents because I only used my hand. I went to Parents Anonymous to learn other ways of disciplining and they were fantastic! Be careful because you say you would never, but that is how you were raised and it might become automatic when you are frustrated with your child's behavior.

Answer 7

Yes and yes.

I remember each time I was spanked, and the reason for each spank. After I got spanked I never did those things again.

Positive reinforcement, taking away privileges, and time outs, all have their places as well. But as each "crime" is different, they all need a different punishment.

A child running out into the street needs a swift smack in the butt. A child hitting their brother with a toy gets that toy taken away. A kid who won't stop running in the house gets a time out.

The punishments are changed to fit the crime.

Answer 8

I was rarely "spanked" as a young child. I was beaten and/or used as target practice. The times I was spanked though I can honestly say I learned not to do what I was doing. Once I moved to my dad's though, my step-mom took it upon herself to "spank" me on a regular basis. These "spankings" qualified as beatings. I never learned anything really positive from them, the only thing I learned was to be aggressive and one day I finally hit her back (it was the last time she ever hit me too).

I cannot say honestly 100% that I will never spank my child, but I do believe that there are other ways to deal with misbehavior. Seeing what "spanking" can do to a child on a regular basis, I don't want that to happen to my child. I want her to learn from her mistakes, not resent me and/or become agressive like I did. I can however say that spanking will always come as a last resort. I don't like raising my hand to children because it makes me feel like a monster, and that I'm taking advantage of my superiority and belittling them.

Answer 9

Dear Sir Are Miss

Yes I was Spanked as a child and if I had any children yes I

Do Believe in spanking 100 percent OK Just as a last resort

OK

Answer 10

I was spanked too, back then my parents thought of spanking as the main punishment. They punished us always when we deserved it but sometimes too harsh (I have bad memories from some beltings).

Maybe I'll spank my kids but I will punish them with grounding or time-outs too. And just hand spankings of course.

Answer 11

yes and yes I will. My parents knew the balance of spankings were never taken to far. looking back now I realize I deserved every bit of it, and I didn't get them very often. I think paired with your negative reinforcements and as long as its not going to far its fine.