i have been asked to be God Mother...?

Question

i care for the baby everyday, from 7am to 5 or 6pm, NO CHARGE, since she was 2 months old, and i do for her as if she were my own, but i was asked to be her God Mother, but I dont wanna!!!!!!, how can i express it to the parents?baby is now 5 months old, i even cared for her brother since he was 4 months old, now he is 5, he already has God Parents, but they dont do a thing and live up to their duties, and now their parents want me to make decision.....? help

Answer 1

Just say "Sorry, I'd rather not." Why do you feel you have to explain yourself? If they give you a very disapointed look with the raised eyebrows, add "It's a big responcibility and I'm not ready for it."

Answer 2

Traditionally a god parent is the person who goes with the family to the baptism and then if the child is orphaned to make sure that the child is raised in the family's religion. If this is what they are asking for then you should probably be a member of their church and believe strongly in their religion because you would be making a promise to raise this child religiously if they died. There is no legal implication. I think that just telling them that this is something you believe is really important and they should choose someone who would give their child the best religious attention or something like that.

However, the term 'god parent' has become a much broader term and sometimes it means 'guardian' if both parents die and the parents make a will to make sure this is legal. If this is what they are asking then I think telling them that you love their child but that would be an enormous responsibility for your family to take on and you feel that the baby would be better off with grandparents or family who wouldn't already have the burden of other children to raise and put through college etc.

Answer 3

That is a huge decision to make. And you opt out for your own reasons. My question is why free of charge?? Anyway, I would tell them that " I am flattered" however I do not feel that I am the right person for this huge responsibility for (child's name_____). I am more than willing to look after her for you but can not at this time take on the duty as god mother, I hope that you understand. If at all tactful they will not ask questions but if they do give them the real reason that you are unwilling. Some people take this lightly and I applaud you for being honest, I my self thought that It could be "fun" until I realized that if something were to happen to the parents I would be in charge.

Answer 4

From an outsiders view it sounds as though you have some resentment for the fact that you watch these children daily at no cost to them and perhaps you feel if you became the god parent the burden of caring for these children would be more and you don't want that.
Why don't you just say "listen it was very thoughtful of you to consider me and ask me to be the godparent to your child but i don't think iam ready for that kind of comittment right now" end of story no further explanation needed.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

I understand where you are coming from...taking care of the child day in and day out, but they are asking that if anything happens to them if You would take care of that child and raise her because they Trust you that much..The parents obviously know you would be a great Godmother. To me that is such a great honor, but also a huge responsibility. I think you already know what you want to do here It's just telling them politely you just can't and that's ok do it soon so they can find someone else.

Answer 6

Accepting the role of God Parent is to accept responsibility to see that the child has religious training. It is not a acception of guardianship. That must be done in a will.
Please just tell them that you don't think you could be responsible for her religious upbringing. People have kind of splattered the original intent of the godparents thing. From expecting them to take the child if something happens, to just providing gifts at appropriate times. good luck to you!

Answer 7

Why wouldn't you be happy about that? If you care for them so much, then there shouldn't be a problem. Being a godparent is a wonderful gift anyone could ever ask you to do. If you don't think you can care for children 24/7, then it's best to just tell them straight up. but my sister helps her fiance raise his four kids. She's planning on having kids herself when they get married. AND she's Godmother to her best friend's little girl.

I would be excited if anyone came up to me and wanted me to be their children's godparent.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Just say that you can't be the Godmother, simple as that. You are touched, but you really need to say no.

I'm curious. What religion are they? If they're Catholic, being a Godparent doesn't mean that you would be taking them in should something happen to the parents, that is not the role that we Catholics take as Godparents. We are Godparents merely to make sure that the child follows the Catholic faith. :) I'm a Godparent to a niece. It doesn't mean that I am to take her to live with me if my sister and BIL die.

Answer 9

Just tell them that you can't be a God Mother right now.

Answer 10

Why dont you want to?? I think if you were that close to a child that you would jump at the chance. Guess you have to be honest with them