I was at the library and I overheard something going on. A guy just walked up to this girl and says (and I'm paraphrasing) "Excuse me, I saw and wanted to know what was your name?" After she gave him her name (and so readily, I might add) he complimented her freckles saying they were cute and left..So the question I guess you could say is it really that quick and easy to get a conversation started with a girl and get her name? Especially one you've never met before?.... obviously, as you might tell, I have no luck with women, so this little episode fascinated me.
2007-11-15 17:08:53 · 20 answers · asked by Sammy S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Confidence is an extremely attractive trait. If a man confidently walked up to me and introduced himself and asked me my name, I would tell him my first name. Girls are not as mean as you think. Find the girls that are smiling and laughing and , in general look open to conversation with people, IE: friendly and go up and introduce yourself! I have the feeling that you have tried this with girls who are not open to talking with anyone, and there are those girls out there, this would lead you to believe that girls are hard to talk to. Don't despair! There are girls out there that are friendly and will talk with people, you just must look for them. Watch them a little first, not like a stalker, just watch people in the Mall. You will soon see that there are obvious things that open, friendly people do. Like they smile at people walking by, they laugh alot, they look up when they walk, they leave there arms open, not folded or closed. They don't have to be with others to be friendly, they can be alone and exhibit this behavior as well. Most of us women don't bite, give us a try.
Good luck!
2007-11-15 17:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Wolf's Mate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it actually is! That's why I am always amazed at the number of questions on here about how to ask out a girl or initiate a conversation with her.
If you are polite, and the woman doesn't view you as a threat, having a guy walk up and pay them a compliment is something most women would view as a wonderful thing! If she's someone you have a crush on, chances are she's picked up on that and is waiting for you to make a move.
So get moving, guys! :)
2007-11-15 17:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by Nonny0928 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, apparently you have no clue.
To be genuine is the best thing. As a male, it is your duty to start a conversation. Don't expect a response initially. Shy girls often defer to their friends. They will ask each other if they think you are cute.
Wait a day or so. Approach the target when she is alone. DON'T STALK. Tell her you like her and want her to call you. Give her your phone #. She will confer with her friends.
At that point you will get an answer.
It may take months, even years. Hopefully you will run into each other before then, and you two will have a real conversation.
Good luck!
2007-11-15 17:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jerkwithhotsauce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's that easy. Asking her name shows interest. Complimenting her shows your considerate, kind and attentive. Leaving shows your not too dangerous or overbearing. However, make sure you can get back to her and have another, even longer conversation. Being in a community of some kind helps, like at school where your paths will cross again. If you don't think you can get back to her, after the compliment and her response, ask if you can buy her a cup of coffee, and continue the conversation from there.
Best bet, relax and just talk. Don't put pressure on her. And be yourself. Plus girls think its kind of cute if your a little nervous. She's nervous too.
2007-11-15 17:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by James W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. It's that easy. And it works BETTER that way. Women enjoy a man's boldness and strength. It is not what you say. It is HOW you say it. And hesitating DRAINS the experience of the positive emotions that women enjoy in that situation. It is a thrill to have a guy like her enough to come up and talk to her. It makes her feel desired, and desirable, worthwhile, and important. So you get BETTER results by being that straight up about it then if you beat aroud the bush.
The best pick-up line in the world is "Hi. My name is Chuck. What's yours?" unless of course your name is not Chuck.
Then you can say something like "Hey, you look thirsty. I think I ought to buy you a soda.." or maybe "I was planning to go get a burger and I'd rather not eat alone. Would you like to talk?" Notice how the image of you eating alone will make her feel a little guilty for not joining you.
To laduron7: I agree that sincerity is very important. If you can fake that, you've got it made... :)
2007-11-15 19:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking to someone you've never met is only awkward when you act like youve never met her before. if you start interviewing her (where'ed you grow up? are going to college now? etc) the conversation will end pretty fast.
all that guy did was ask her her name and compliment her. there's nothing fancy about that. girls aren't intimidated by it; they like the attention.
so yes it really is that easy
2007-11-15 17:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by swiniusmaximus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it is easy, dont be shy , the only way your gonna learn how to talk to women is being shut down a couple of times, live and learn , get out der and start conversatingg!
2007-11-15 17:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude u re forgetting to mention one thing and it is the most important - how did they look. was a girl pretty? was a boy pretty? or they were both equally repulsive? if a girl was all right (not stunningly beautiful, but all right - nice looking) and if a guy was all right (again, not stunningly handsome, just nice looking) they were both interested in each other. so yes, it was easy. how do u look? if u look all right (again, nice looking, not stunningly handsome or stunningly ugly) it should be as easy for u as it was for him. show me your picture i will tell u whether u may as well just walk to a girl and just ask her name. it is your appearance, nothing esle, that plays the main part here
2007-11-15 17:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, it really is that easy. The trick is to be sincere and smooth about it without being creepy.
2007-11-15 17:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 11:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋