Winterball's coming up, and I want to ask him. I don't know if he likes me or not (I have no reason to think he does, and no reason to think he doesn't!) If I asked, it would just be my way of letting him know I'm interested. The problem is, when we were discussing another dance with some friends, he said dances weren't really his thing.
If I already know that, should I bother asking him anyway, just to let him know I like him? If he says no, how do I react?
2007-11-15 16:44:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anita 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should just give it a try.
maybe he was saying that its not his thing so none of your friends would ask him out. maybe he wants to go to the dance with you and both of you are just worrying about the same thing.
and if they guy says no, dont let your feelings show that you are hurt. you gotta stay strong. show him that just because he said no it doesnt mean your gonna cry over that no.
hopefully i helped.
2007-11-15 16:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by adorable_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... First, you have an advantage because you know your ABC's. Second, you should definitely ask him out. But how?
In your EXACT situation I would give the following advice (narrowly speaking). He already made a comment about not enjoying dances. So you have a great "hook" to bring the topic back up again. (And it really doesn't matter if you asked this before already).
Bring that back up again in conversation and ask him "WHY?" Then, no matter what he says, you can say suggestively. "Naw, you just haven't tried going to a dance wth the .... RIGHT... girl...." The trouble with all of those other dances you went to is that you didn't have the right girl with you to make it interesting."
And keep repeating this theme, teasing sort of, until it is overwhelmingly obvious that YOU are the right girl. Listen: Do not be shy. When women are whispering, they think they are shouting. Guys miss 90% of the signals women give out, because the girls are whispering (afraid to stand up for themselves) and the guys are not listening for such subtle signals. So you can (must) be a lot more obvious than you think before he has the slightest hope of actually noticing what you are trying to say.
Perhaps -- as if you are still asking the question -- talk about all the fun parts of the dance, including some playful things like "Are you sure you don't want to make fun of everyone all dressed up? You know stiff and formal" (maybe act it out). "I mean how could you miss that???"
Then -- if he has not already taken the bait -- if you are saying something fun in a teasing mood -- you can say flirtatiously "If you ask me, I might say yes." (Note that "might" -- meaning you might still say no -- is obviously teasing / playful because of course you are going to say yes, or you wouldn't bring it up. However, it does give you some distance in case he doesn't ask.)
Anyway, I'd say it's a 90% chance that the reason he did not like those dances in the past is that he did not have a date and he had to go hunting for a girl to dance with or talk to, and it wasn't fun. So, the fact that he said he didn't like it in the past probably DOES NOT mean he would not enjoy going with you.
You can ask: "I know why you didn't like it before." (This will get his interest to see if you really know what he is feeling.) "What if you had someone to dance with and talk to all evening, and you didn't have to feel lonely or go looking for someone?"
If he is not brain dead (er... well... being a guy often means being half brain dead, but let's hope)... by that time he will get the clue and OFFICIALLY ASK YOU...
2007-11-16 01:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he hates to dance and its already a given. try to be imaginative, figure out what he likes most and then pretend asking him if he know someone who could spend sometime with you doing the activity. if he volunteers, then hes for you. and if she recommends somebody, then forget him. goodluck
2007-11-16 00:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Rory D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him would he like to dance with?If yes make him also partner in pro-gramme and develop nearness but don't show eagerness.
2007-11-16 00:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" Would you like to go to the Winterball with me?"
" I'm sorry I just thought you might like to go....."
2007-11-16 00:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him, but say do you want to go to the dance with me, i kinda like you and want to do something, but if you dont want to go to the dance, would you like to go play miniature golf/go to the movies/go bowling? (something you think he might be interested in, if not dances)
2007-11-16 00:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by ditzydory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.
usually the guy asks the girl.
but i mean if you want to ask him the its fine.
but i mean maybe give it a shot.
if he does like you he would go with you.
maybe you could tell him you like him before you ask him then see his reaction and decide based on it.
2007-11-16 00:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Ari(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk up to him, say "Hi, want to go to blah blah with me?" (replace blah blah with event).
2007-11-16 00:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just said " IM WAITING FOR UR CALL" and went off
2007-11-16 00:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by jack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋