She gets boyfriends almost as soon as she dumps or is dumped by the last one. We both have feelings for each other (she is the sweetest woman) but I'm too affraid to make a move less I alienate her and I also can't seem to compete with the guys who are after her (they have muscles and sexual experience and I have very little of that). I also think she might think she is not good enough for me, she has had a hard life and I always seem to come across as some overgrown child (looking innocent that is) even though I'm 8 years older than her. It's kind of the girl from the wrong side of the tracks meets the guy who lived a overly sheltered life (well, more like a hermit really). Should I pursue her or is this doomed?
2007-11-15 16:32:25 · 17 answers · asked by InvicibleStar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, you need to just continue being her friend, and if it develops into more, then it was meant to be. Why not ask her to do things with you, but don't make it sexual, just as friends and if things develop, then great. Take it from a person who has been married for 26 years, and I am a real romantic, so just take it slow. Good luck!
2007-11-15 16:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by windylindee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd persue it. If you don't you might miss out on the most amazing thing of your life. If you do and she's not interested I don't think you'll lose her. I'm sure she's adult enough to realize that you care very much about her and you won't give that up and if she does walk away then it's pretty much her loss. Just don't get all jealous on her and stuff if she says no. You're always going to be her friend and if she gets with other guys you can't show that jealousy or then for sure you'll lose her. Just be happy that she's happy no matter what the situation. Good luck!!
2007-11-16 00:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's worth a shot...
I felt the same way about a girl, and I could not
stop thinking about her, we always hung out and
did stuff, even though she had some boyfriends
during this time... Eventually I couldn't take it anymore
I couldn't keep it inside anymore and I had to tell her
She told me she felt the same way, and now 2 years
later we are married and living in our own house, happier
than we've ever been. We still spend all our free time
together...
-So I would say go for it.
It she isn't interested, at least you'll find out
but if you think that she has the same feelings
for you, then you have nothing to lose...
2007-11-16 00:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally support you. I think the best intimate relationships are the ones that start as the couple just being great friends. Don't spill your heart out in the beginning, try to see if your feelings are mutual first. I'm sure you don't want to let her know how special she is to you and then get rejected. So hope for the best and expect the worse!
P.s: she seems like she's into the bad boy phase of her life!
p.s.s: good luck!
2007-11-16 00:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by suggabebe99 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever think that maybe she might be thinking the same thing as you? I'm not clear when you say that you both have feelings for each other. Like is it a friendship type feeling or like something that might take you further? Hey, I think that if you don't take chances in life, then you might regret it someday when someone decides to tie her down. Why not sit down and ask how she perceives you? Ask her what she thinks of you or if she would consider a guy like you dateable material for her?
2007-11-16 00:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by LB 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah Joseph has a pretty good point
I think you need to go with LONG TERM feelings
in other words,....look ahead..
This is what imagination and critical thinking comes to a human's advantage!
Picture the two different synopsis and the outcomes
What ever out weighs the outcomes
1.) If it works out fine/or not!
2.) not doing it all! expedite any risk or regrets...
2007-11-16 03:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by The King 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
now if u know her type that she dumps boys with the pace she changes clothes it is better u never date this girl and play with ur own emotions but if u cant resist the temptation just be mentally prepared that whenu dumb her u will forget her and also loose a friend u have also u can wait for her to come up with something
2007-11-16 00:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by niss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good question! Maybe you should tell her how you feel and why you're worried about it. Honesty is the best policy. That way things won't feel awkward because you've talked about why it can/can't work. Good luck!
2007-11-16 00:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by la-la-lauren 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, don't let her get away. You don't want to look back on your life and wonder "What if" ... Go for her. Ask her out; spend time with her; make sure she is really as amazing as you think she is.
Live life to the fullest... you only get one ...
Good luck!
2007-11-16 00:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you like her go for it. I guess it's better you ask her out and know where you stand. If it's positive it's good for you. If it's negative it's good too coz you won't be expecting things to happen and can go ahead in life.
2007-11-16 01:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anju 11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋