i have a very low self-esteem?

Question

i hate myself.. sometimes i wish i were someone else... im 16. and have a "perfect life".. i just want to feel better.. i feel like killing myself everytime i look in a mirror.. i have been like this for awhile but these thoughts of how ugly i really am.. have gotton so much worse.. im sleep all the time.. because in the dark im happy.. well sleeping... i always havent had the want to eat anything.. sometimes i even wonder why in still here.. theres nothing here for me...

Answer 1

KEEP YOUR HEAD UP...
i understand..
dont kill yourself or do anything stupid.. life is hard.. we all have to find are own way to deal with it.. i like to talk to friends because they listen when i need help.. and i do the same for them.. just remember it might take some time but you WILL find your place in life

btw..
dont be so depressed keep your head up kidd

Answer 2

I have the same issue and I'm really self conscious but sometimes I block it out. Instead of focusing on your flaws why don't you find something you like about yourself. I know this is typical to say but looks really don't matter that much...to want to kill youself. There are better things in life don't let your looks stop you from being able to enjoy life. If you have a perfect life then it shouldn't be a problem. There are a lot of ugly (not trying to be mean..) girls that go out with good looking guys and visa versa. Sometimes, I think personality really does effect how you look. All the guys/girls that aren't always pretty are really outgoing and people tend to like them, people like confidence. You're still young, just focus on school. Even though I have a low self esteem I try not to let it interfere with my whole life. Almost everyone has something they hate about themselves. If people are making fun of your looks forget about them (I know it's hard) you probably won't remember them once you leave highschool. Focus on things that you enjoy to do. Think about this, if you get good grades now you can get a good job and get plastic surgery. But why would you want artificial beauty? Maybe you could change your looks like your hair or make up style?

Answer 3

What you are describing is depression. I know, I've been there. Since I have gotten older I go easier on myself. I don't worry so much about what other people think of me. I don't stress about it anymore. Sometimes I fall short of reaching my goals but I don't beat myself up over it. I just tell myself I'm doing the best I can. Also I try to look for a little joy in the simple things in life. It can be as simple as spotting a rainbow. Maybe these things sound silly to you but you have to change your frame of mind to feel better. From now on when you look in the mirror say to yourself, "somewhere along the way I was wounded but from here on out I'm going to start being a little kinder to myself". Put yourself in a position where you can be of service to others. You're really helping yourself when you do that because it takes the focus off of you.

Answer 4

*sigh* I really don't know what to say, but the crap I had shoved down my thought by therapist after therapist and groups and in patient hospitalizations. some stuff is true, that you have to take a look at what is positive about yourself. You have to have some sort of skills. Like me, I love to sing, and listen to music *why isn't my music playing* (hold on.... )



Okay... that is better.... have to have the tunes aflowing... Okay... I am also okay at computers, playing games online, chatting, doing crafts, knitting, and I am working on building new skills.

I feel ugly at times, I am 33. I think about death too. But I know right now that I can't do it. There are so many reasons why I can't, and that is what you should do... list reasons why you should live.... even if it is for someone else, like friends, family, or whatever....

I also go with the believe in God, and that God has a plan for you. Pray. We don't always hear what he says because it comes in the form of a whisper and in this noisy world we live in... It is hard to hear what he is saying.

Describe what the perfect life is..why is it perfect. It doesn't sound so perfect to me, if you are feeling this way.

talk to your parents, and see a doctor.... ASAP. these thoughts of death and killing yourself.... you need to get help soon.... if nothing else get yourself to the ER and get admitted to a psych unit.... you need to talk about these things and get them out.... journal.... express yourself with art....

I know where you are at feeling wise.... sorta of, best that i can since not one feels EXACTLY the same way.... but I make it this far.... I have been depressed and thought I was ugly and just horrible trash thoughts. But I have made it this far....
He has a plan.... don't know what His plan is for me, or for you.... but just keep going day to day....

email me or IM me if you want..... my info is in my profile.

Answer 5

I bet if you asked a few of your friends who are honest with you, they would say you are beautiful! what you are going through is very common at your age so don't feel as though you are odd or strange. I have quite a few friends that feel the same and what you say is almost a mirror image of them. I know that it's difficult but if you haven't, talk to your mum & dad about it and go along with what they recommend to see if it helps. I'm dam sure there would be groups on the internet that address the same problems and it wont hurt to chat to them and see what they do. I'm getting over the death of a son and I'm finding that the computer is a wealth of info and you can find out anything your heart desires. Mix with more friends and find a hobby or part time job to occupy yourself because to much time on your own dosen't help your situation, overall I commend you for dealing with this situation thus far and you will do just fine because even posting this message is a start to you wanting to do somthing about it. Good luck sweetpea. Marty

Answer 6

I will give you a site for self esteem but as far as ugly or not, it is what is inside that counts. you are only 16 so you may not know the name but Jimmy Durante - you can look him up online - was really ugly - big nose, fairly bald, raspy voice, and yet inside he was beautiful, and I could not begin to tell you haw many great and beautiful actresses tell stories of feeling ugly just as you are now. read the site I will give you a link for - I will give you two sites as a matter of fact, and a quote from Illusions, by Richard Bach that I love: "Here is a test to find whether your mission on earth is finished: If you are alive, it isn't. As you grow older you will find your mission in life and be happy but between then and now you have to get past all that you are feeling now. It will be worth it but just have faith in yourself until then. Good Luck to you!!

Answer 7

Sometimes I feel that way 2. Try this, think about someone else. Stop thinking about you for a while... This happens when you have nothing else on your mind and start looking at all the deffects you have. Also, try remembering the things that make you happy. Everyday write things that make you feel happy, that way when you have bad thoughts about yourself you will feel better. Remember you were born to do something on this life. Hope this helps, God Loves You.

Answer 8

See self esteem, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 38, and depression, in section 2. No-one is a good judge of their own looks: if still unsatisfied in several years, consider cosmetic surgery. Volunteer, even from home, at first, as a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: see page 47. Only use a small, hand mirror to check your appearance, and don't look in full length ones, until much better. It's important to eat healthily, or your brain won't be able to produce the biochemicals it needs to perform properly, but minimise sugar and simple carbohydrates, like white bread, cake, donuts, etc.

Answer 9

Just don't think about how ugly you are. Think about how good you are and how better you are at something than almost everyone. It doesn't matter if you're ugly or not. If people like you because you are hot, they're not really your friends, they want something out of you. But if you have friends that like you for who you are, they're your real friends. Just think: You possibly can't be the most ugliest person out there. Even if you are, you at least have your physical features. Some people don't even have proper physical features. If you have that, consider your self lucky. Think about Donatella Versace. Look up her picture. Everytime you feel down, just think of that picture.

Answer 10

You need professional help. Tell your parents or a school
counselor. What you think most of the time is a
negative perception of reality caused by the depression.
There are chat sited for depression. At this stage medication may help, except a lot of medication has the opposite effect, especially for teenagers.