OK I have a crush and he's smart, funny, nice and cute. But he already has a girlfriend! And he doesn't even like her! She said she hated him and so he broke up with her and she started balling her eyes out! But over the weekend they got back together and she kissed him on the lips when they were walking home and it broke my heart(and we're WAY too young to kiss!)! Him and I are alot alike, we're both smart, weird and well.... weird. We say random things all the time and we even look alike! I wish he liked me but I really don't know! What should I do? =C P.S The girl he's dtating is WAY too obsessive! And he doesn't like obsessibve girls and I'm not obsessive.
2007-11-15 15:32:35 · 30 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should flirt with him when noone is around call him in restricted so if she checks i dont knwo y she would do that! and just talk to him as much as you can if hims gf asks u whats u are doing just tell her you have been friends for sometime now !
2007-11-15 15:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by babe 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're way too young to kiss, you're way too young to be obsessing over relationships. If you really like this boy, be his friend. Get to know him and spend time with him. Eventually he'll see you as being right for him, or he truly isn't. Don't spend your time with him talking about this other girl. And certainly don't try to get him to stop seeing her. If she is obsessive and mean and controlling, and you're not, he'll eventually dump her, or again, he's not the guy you think he is and you don't want him.
The big thing in all relationships is that you enjoy spending time together. If you can be friends, you can be more. If you can't be friends, there is no hope. Don't rush into things. And don't become like this other girl (obsessing and controlling), because if he leaves her for you, he'll eventually leave you, too.
I know it is difficult to resist the temptation to give into to your feelings, but if you wallow, you won't like where you wind up.
Do non threatening things together. Play nintendo (or xbox or whatever), do things you enjoy doing together. Is there anything you enjoy doing together? If not, that's not a good sign. So what are your common interests? That's a place to start. Are you in band? See if there's a free concert at the local college. Are you in sports? Go to a local sporting event together. Find something you have in common and invite him to do it. Trust me. If he's a teenage boy, if he's normal, it won't take him long to see you in a different light. And if he doesn't, then as much as it may hurt, it's better to find out early than later.
And it also doesn't hurt to get to know other boys. Don't "date" anyone. Just get to know people. When your friend sees you circulating (provided you don't "date" per se), he'll think about what, if anything you mean to him. Again, if he likes you, he'll do something about it if he's normal. And if he doesn't, well, it's best to get that heartbreak out of the way the easy way.
that's the gist of it, anyway
2007-11-15 23:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Libertarian T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him and explain the way you feel before you decide what to do. Find out if he really likes you or not! If he went back with the other girlfriend over the weekend there must be some reason--he must like something about her. If after you tell him how you feel and he states whether he likes you or not--then you have a good start! If after you tell him how you feel and he continues to see the other girl then you will know that hes a loser and just likes having two girls that like him and my advice then is to forget him and find someone else who likes you and wants to be with you! Because if this guy likes having two girls like him then he may do the same thing to you once you get together with him!
You sound young so if you are- play the field until you find the right one for you--someone who will love to be with you and love to only be with you!
2007-11-15 23:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by Karen K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they fight and break up often then get back together again, I'd just wait it out. Eventually their relationship will implode. They'll get tired of each other. There's no rush. I'm positive they won't stay together. Couples generally will say during an argument that they hate the other and so on. I'm married and 42 years old and my wife still does that to me and we've been together 10 years. They're young and eventually it'll really end and you'll be the sweet, pretty, friendly, soft hearted girl that will put your arm around him and say everything'll be alright and next thing you know . . . .Bam! You and him will be together. Pretty sneaky huh? I thought so too! lol So do that. Just sit back and watch for them to get to that point. You aren't going anywhere and neither is he. There's no rush.
2007-11-15 23:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by Johnnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you in your teens - then i totally get where you are coming from.
Crushes are a normal part of a teenagers life and if it blossoms into love - nothing like it. But, don't let it affect your studies. Study while you study, play while you play! Make more girl friends whom you can trust and be friends with more guys. It might just turn out that you will find an even smarter funnier nicer and cuter guy! You with me?!
If you are not a teen - snap out of it girl! There are lots of guys around! Chilax - don't invest your time in someone who doesn't know your worth! Just be friends with him and i am sure it will be the best for all the three of you!
Good Luck!
2007-11-15 23:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by beauty_m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if there are all these bad things about her why is he dating her???? Weird. But anyways hes already in a relationship so u need to move on. Forget this dude and just be his friend. Apparently he dates girls he hates. U need to distract urslef from this dude by focusing on school and ur friends and ur hobbies. go do something fub and dont even think about this guy. Hes not worth ur sadness. U cant make him like u.
2007-11-15 23:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by InuKag4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know if you really like this guy, you should try to initiate it. By asking him out on a casual outing or something like that. After going out a few times, you'll know better..
In the meanwhile, do not let the crush feelings gets in your way. Keep your eyes on the prize.. But if he doesn't respond to you, well, he's probably not intrested and you're better off with another target..
2007-11-15 23:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by 27% Best Answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so glad to hear that you realize you're WAY too young to kiss! It shows you have a lot of common sense.
Just bide you're time. If he gets smart and dumps the girl, he might just turn to you.
But stay smart, and don't do anything stupid. The way you write shows me that you're very intelligent, and you admit you're very young. Just be patient, you have a long, wonderful life in front of you. And I have a feeling the guys will be lining up to knock at your door!
2007-11-15 23:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by Rick K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you are obsessive bc you are asking yahoo answers for help...how old are you anyways? also let him know that you like him so he knows he has options and if he really does not like her then it will all work out...however if he stays with her then back off because you don't want to become the annoying girl that keeps bothering him. also its kinda weird that you look alike and also maybe you are too much alike. just talk to him!
2007-11-15 23:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by bananachik422 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like you trying to make everyone think that you are way better than her. Which you probably are.
Go for it.
Tell him how you really feel. If he feels the same way or wants to give you a chance, he will break up with her and go with you. trust me. i've seen it done before. If she kissed him on the lips and yall are too young to be kissing, then she's just a SLUT. sorry to say it, but she is. He deserves someone that actual likes him for who he is (meaning you) rather than someone who thinks he just another hot guy who'd she dump if a hotter guy walker past her (meaning the slutty girl)
GOOD LUCK!!
:)
2007-11-15 23:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by $$brittany[rawr] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, well, use subtle hints to let him know you like him. such as, use LOTS of compliments but don't overdo it.
cuddle up to him.
talk about how you don't really like the girl either (but use reasonable answers, not just 'cuz shes dating you')
show you are NOT a drama queen
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i'm probably ur age cuz i'm in JH and i have the same problem, or type of problem.
P.S. tell him he's cheating on his grrlfriend by being in your head so much. hooks 'em every time
2007-11-15 23:39:43 · answer #11 · answered by mangobubblegum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋