how do u ask out a guy with out looking stupid if he says no and what do you do if he says no like how do you cover you tracs from the rumors
2007-11-15 15:10:31 · 14 answers · asked by ellie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ask him streight foward during class changes and rumors always hapen dont let that drag you down
2007-11-15 15:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by The Doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the greatest issue every person must consider before asking the other person that same question; asking the person make you vulnerable but if you play it too safe then yo will not meet the right person. When you do ask be ready to smile or just walk away downhearted, and yes the rumors will come up; so are you ready because if you do not take the chance you will not know.
2007-11-15 23:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lifeline 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rumors will happen no matter what, but the more friends you have at school, and the more likable and confident you are, it is less likely that they will go very far. If you are really worried about rumors, you could always call him, but most guys admire girls confident enough to ask them face to face.
I would reccomend getting to know him well first.
2007-11-16 12:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by sunnydog_d13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Hey, would you like to go out and get lunch sometime?" He should say yes to this. Most guys will. If he says no, then just say, "I meant it as friends..." (I'm assuming that you know the guy somewhat or as a friend). Tease him for thinking that you wanted to date him. This will cut off any awkwardness in his mind if he doesn't want to date you.
Only jerks spread rumors. Don't think anything of them. Most guys won't say anything about it.
2007-11-15 23:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by oceanpotion™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the fun part about High School. Risks. Don't expect to ask someone out and not expect rumors.
2007-11-15 23:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to do it is stuff a bunch of pillows in the back of your pants and then go up to him, pat him on the shoulder and play real loud out of the stereo that song that says "I like big butts and I cannot lie!" and then dance to it.
He'll be so impressed with your creativity he'll ask you out.
2007-11-15 23:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a situation most guys have to deal with, the answer 'no', you can't help looking 'stupid', but if you don't try, you'll never know and never find out.
as far as the rumours go, ignore any that do surface, only jerks spread them.(sometime jealous ones at that)
2007-11-15 23:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by fyzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you want to ask out somebody, you should not shy away because of a fear of rejection or of a rumor.
You should spend a little time talking with somebody, either just politely or even flirting, to gauge their attitude toward you and send signals of interest so when you do ask him out, he will not be in total shock.
Also, when you want to ask him out, be specific about where and what day (i.e. movies Friday night). This allows him to be excited and think "Of course, I'd love to go!" and to consider if there are any conflicting arrangements like a basketball game or a cousin's birthday party. If he spits out "Yeah sure, what time?" Be ready to spit out an answer. He is definitely interested in going with you and trying to commit to a day and time so you would not want to slow down his interest something wishy-washy like "Oh, I don't know, what time is good for you." The same goes with the movie. If you want to ask him to see a movie, check to see what is playing ahead of time so you can be prepared with a response. If he says he has something else that night and asks what time, then he is definitely interested in going with you and you should say you will be flexible and can work around his prior arrangements. If he asks what time without saying why, then be ready to spit out an answer like "7, but we can make it sooner or later if you need to work around something else."
Notice you did not ask if he would go to the movies WITH YOU. That is assumed, so he understands that. If he asks "With you?" say "Yeah, (short pause) with me" and smile. Don't say "Duh" or laugh at him because either will be insulting. If when you asked him out, you ended the sentence with those two words "with you" then he will focus on that, look you over, think through all his lifetime encounters with you, grade you quickly on all 12 categories of compatibleness, and come up with a final answer to compare to the minimum score for acceptance. That is a stressful moment for him which will lead to a higher probability of rejecting you.
If he says no with an excuse then suggest another day or time. If he just says "No." Say something like "Okay, but I was looking forward to it. I will see if David wants to go." That says to him that you like him, but you won't be pouting because his loss is David's gain. Of course, that means you have to have a backup idea of somebody you can ask out. As you turn around as if to head in David's direction, don't be surprised if he changes his mind and would suddenly like to go out with you.
2007-11-16 07:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Frank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rumors always happen, who cares, as long as you know what really happened. We all face rejection its life, but we move on so dont worry about it
2007-11-15 23:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Alex B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try hey what do you have planned this weekend? Wanna go out?? I'd say yes!
2007-11-15 23:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by M J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋