Busy people who can afford to hire help in various areas, I need your help!!!!?

Question

Although I help my husband manage a small business, balance a husband, family and homelife, volunteer countless hours and efforts to a worthy and honorable cause, navigate and lead several projects, all while trying to keep myself together, I have trouble knowing when to delegate or what to get help with. As a result, my life has a snowball effect. I can do many things well and I try to do everything. How do I prioritize and gain better balance. How do I find honest helpers and what part of my life should I delegate to them and which part should I never delegate? I don't know where to start? I already know that I need to decrease my load and I have begun to do that.

Answer 1

Well since I am a huge fan of lists I would recommend that you first make a list of your priorities. List out every single of one your duties in your life and then go through and rank them.

Today's culture has told women a lie, that in order to be a "modern woman" we have to be able to balance a family, a career, hobbies, and charity and still have time to stay in shape and make delicious homemade meals every night.

It's a lie, and it's impossible.

Your top 5 priorities you keep, everything else you dump. If you don't, you'll spread your life out so thin that nothing will be getting your best effort. Your marriage will be strained, your children will sense they are not important to you, work will suffer, and you will begin to resent your charity work rather than relish it.

Just from reading what you've written here, if it were me I would choose my husband first, children second. Your husband can easily hire someone to help him with his business. You can hire housekeepers. You can reduce your time with charity work by transitioning to tasks that don't take as much time. (For example, instead of giving up an entire Saturday at the homeless shelter, volunteer there for two hours and then make a small donation to them instead of more time.)
For me personally I would have my spirituality and relationship with God in top three priorities as well. What does it profit someone if they gain the whole world but lose their soul?
If you're not spiritual, I would still recommend that you dedicate some of your time to maintaining your physical and mental well-being. If you're sick and tired all the time, you'll be of no use to anyone.

Answer 2

It sounds like you need to meet some people more like me who are retired and there fore take some of the burden off of you. To much only hurts what you are trying to achieve, try to find some people who can help spend more time in the community. Maybe some of the people you help would like to get more involved in what you are doing, maybe even some in your own family. Maybe someone in your local church if you go there. As far a delegating obviously no one wants to give to something which includes myself unless I know that the money is being well spent so you will have to be careful on that subject. If you have away of doing finances and it works I would stay with that one myself. Good luck and God Bless, Pray for some Helpers, you never know what life may bring!!