ugg my dad?

Question

my dad sucks.
ok so i wanted to stay after school to get extra credit on this english thing. what we had to do was go watch a movie after school and answer some questions about it.
but when me and my friends has already been in line for 15mins to the classroom they told us it was full and we'd have to leave
i didnt wanna tell my dad cuz i thought he'd get mad so i waited awhile before i called him
sso when he came to pick me up my friend asked " does he want to see the note" (it was a note the english teacher wrote explaining our situation) and my dad got all pissed and said that i was staying after school doing drugs and having sex and because my friend asked him is he wanted to see it he said thast i was going around telling all my friends how horrible he is

he accuses me of evey little thing!!!! like he thinks he knows whats going on with me when thts not it at all!! i try to tell him that but he just yells at me more

what should i do?

i did tell my dad about what had happened he just didnt believe me and yelled
and i dont have a mom

Answer 1

This is a common problems with dads.Their children start growing up,and they don't know how to handle it.Had you of called your father when you found out that you could not do the project,he probably would not have been as mad.I would ask the teacher in charge to please call your father and explain what happened.If you have an adult verifying what went on,it is harder for your dad to disbelieve it.Teenagers are well known for forging notes either to or from a teacher.If that teacher speaks one on one with the parent,the parent can not deny it.Your father's accusations are probably brought on by how he behaved as a kid.Ask him to tell you what it was like when he was growing up.Try to get him to open up about what was acceptable at his school and what wasnt,or what his parents expectations were.As my kids are getting into high school,I see a big difference in what is expected of them compared to what was expected of us.Your dad cant understand you if he does not know what the school guidelines are.In the same sense,you can't understand your dad unless you know what his past was.

Answer 2

Well it's obvious that you would need "extra credit" in your English because you don't seem to be able to form a sentence or even express a complete thought. I would bet that you need more "extra credit" in spelling and all your other courses too. Next, I'm sure that the reason that you are not trusted is because you simply aren't trustworthy. You said "he accuses me of evey little thing" like "telling all my friends how horrible he is", well didn't you? The first thing that you told us was "my dad sucks". I'm sure that when you told us your story, there was a lot that you didn't tell as well. You are the typical teenager, you are selfish, hateful, conceded, a liar, and you believe the world revolves around you. You aren't capable of learning or taking advise from anyone because you believe that you already know it all. What you "should do" is grow up, but I doubt that will happen any time soon. What do you "deserve", well I don't believe that you could physically stand that.
What you "should know", is that there's a world of difference between what you think that you know and what you do know. I hope that you will realize that one day, until then, you will remain an ignorant bytch.

Answer 3

Well it seems that you are feeling a bit upset because your dad got all over your face; can you blame him? The situation makes your father think about what some teenagers are doing behind the parent's backs and although you gave him the note he was blinded by his own ideas of what you could have been doing. You did not call him were you trying to not get him upset by calling him? Still, he should talk to your teacher and see what happen before jumping to conclusions; he just "knows" what teenagers are doing however if you have never given him any reason to think that way about you he should be more attentive to his own ideas about what teenagers are doing---most teenagers do tell their parents that they will be staying after school for school work but do in fact are doing something they should not---gangs, drugs, sex, etc.and trust you. However, you have to understand him and understand where he is coming from---it is in the news---teenagers having sex, doing drugs, getting kidnapped, getting drunk, etc. so help him to trust you by showing him that you can be trusted and that you are the kid that will not get into trouble. Trust comes from showing responsibility. Just do what is right and he should see that you are not running with the crowd but are your own thinker that knows right from wrong. He is just being a father and this is based on his own upbringing.

Answer 4

I think that you should just leave your dad alone for a while. He is just confused cuz he doesn't know how to handle the situation. Alot of dads are like that. My dad is. But him being angry about what you do after school probably means that he is just worried about what you REALLY ARE doing. After he calms down, sit down and explain everything to him. If that's hard to do, then write a letter about it. Your dad is just coping with this situation his way. It might not seem right, but that's how he does it. If it continues for a really long time, and things get worse, I would suggest talking to family counsiling. For now, leave him be, and let him calm down.

Answer 5

Try this, don't talk to him for a few days like the silent treatment. After a few days when he asking whats wrong, say dad i'll tell you whats wrong if you promise to listen, no yelling just let me talk. Then explain what really happened.

Answer 6

whoa....overprotective dad!! try to have a sit-down convo with him at a time when things are more calm. I guess u could try to put in extra effort by lettin him know what ur doing and what ur up too.....i know that kinda sucks, but i feel like u might need to build up the trust btw. u and ur father, b/c ur only gonna get older and if he trusts u more, he shoudl be able to not accuse u of every lil thing!

Answer 7

ok, i've got like the same problem (but dif story)

why not talk to ur mum about it?

orrrrr if there is sometihng you could go to like acounsellor, sometimes they can set up things between parents and kids.

don't let your dad get you down
he either has trust issues or just doesn't like you hanging around when you don't know what you are up to...


alls i can say is best of luck!

Answer 8

omg....that is messed up but i know what you are going threw. one day at school i was late for choir and i had to saty outside and wait because he didnt let my friend and i in. and it had been a couple of min. and i my friend and i had to go to the bathroom so we went accross the hall to the bathroom and while we were gong to the bathroom he had come out to let us in and since we werent there he acused us of cheating and so i got accused of drugs too. but i just ignored my mom and i stood up for myself because i know what really happend and i think you should do the same dont try to talk to him if all he is going to do is yell its a waste of your time and probably his too. so beleive in whats true ok.. good luck

Answer 9

Not easy for you. This is abuse and your Dad sounds like an asshole! All you can do is grin and bear it - don't argue with him - just walk away when he is mad and soon you can start your own life.

Answer 10

Rofl, seems like your dad is just a bit overprotectice. You really shoulda told him it was full, that way noone of this would have happened.