she doesn't want to feel "constricted" but she has feelings for me...she doesn't want to hurt me...
i've heard these things from this girl i'm CRAZY about for awhile. how do i get her to get over it?
2007-11-15 14:14:26 · 16 answers · asked by jokerman759 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't give age...but I'm guessing you both are young.
I know when I was younger and dating when I said I don't want to be constricted....I meant it. And I meant I wanted to keep my options open and I might meet someone I click with and I'm not going to feel obligated to THIS relationship...so don't blame me if you get hurt.
To paraphrase a popular book a few years ago..."she's just not that into you."
Make yourself less available and less commitment-oriented. You want her to desire you in the same way you desire her. She didn't do anything except exist to get you there, so why would you think YOU could do something to get her there.
Stay cool and focus on other things in your life. If she is that into you, she'll come around on her own.
2007-11-15 14:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by ironjag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. This is something she has to decide. She may not have any "fear of commitment", rather wants her space to live her life. So, provide that for her, maybe you are too possessive. I suggest you ask yourself what you are doing.
2007-11-15 22:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't get her to get over it...she has to get over it herself...and she's not over it yet
She needs time and space to heal
And that may mean not being with anyone at the moment
she may muck you about otherwise
and the least it will be is unfair to you
if you are ready for a relationship and she's not - then move on and find someone who is
you don't want her to mess with your feelings do you?
whether its intentional or not - you will be the one getting hurt
2007-11-15 22:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by chandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Patience and stability. Show her that you are commited and able to meet her needs. If you have been in a relationship for a long time (years) then it is time to move on.
2007-11-15 22:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by Russell K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn tail and run. This is just an excuse. Cut ties. Heal. And spend your time instead being crazy about someone who HAS NO EXCUSES. Now wouldn't that be HEAVEN????
2007-11-15 22:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cold war is over, but many of us still fear of communism. Just try to reassure her.
2007-11-15 22:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont know what to tell u because I myself acted that way a year ago.. and now I have lost him and I dont know what to do with out him... I hope that she realizes before its too late that she really does want to be with you.... GOOD LUCK sweetheart and i hope that everything turns out that she does want to be commited to you...
2007-11-15 22:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell to commit let the chips fall where they may, sounds like your in for a fall,... just trying to cushion the blow.
2007-11-15 22:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to? Fear is your emotions looking out for you.
2007-11-15 22:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can try all you want to me it sounds she dosent want to be commited to you move on to the next stop wasting your time.
2007-11-15 22:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by aneil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋