I like a man 15 years older than me.. help!?

Question

Ok I am a 21 year old female and I like a 35 year old man. He is real sweet and caring it seems and he likes me too. We both play racquetball and I havent seen him at the gym for a couple of days and it has been driving me crazy and so I decided to call him and we ended up talking for 15 mins. on the phone. I told him I liked him and asked him how old he was and I said that age didnt matter to me and he said that life can work in funny ways sometimes. I told him I came up to watch him play but he wasnt there today which was true, and he said that he wanted to give me not only ONE ON ONE racquetball training, but one on one in other areas too and asked me if I wore something hot for him today. This isnt perverted b.c we both like each other. He tells other ppl about me and I cant stop thinking about him. If this turns out bad I want to find out myself, so plz no bad comments. Even if it is only sexual that is fine with me... I just want to experience someone older I really like him.

Answer 1

go for it, but he is just using u

Answer 2

Ok, from the beginning. How come you had his phone number, but didn't know his age? How can you know he is so sweet and caring from playing racquetball? There is a part of the story missing here.
Second and most important: Any man, and I mean any, would love a woman to ring him up, and all the more if she is a lot younger and if there is so much confidence already that he can ask you what you are wearing...and not feel unconfortable (either of you).
One last thing... he is very very lucky, hehehe. Greetings from Madrid. Alberto

Answer 3

Before you close your mind at least consider a few things k?
And if you end up pregnant and dumped?
You wont be the ONLY one hurting.
Before you go jumping into bed with him and then later calling the law to do something about him, why dont you try getting to KNOW him FIRST?
I mean there may be a really REALLY GOOD reason he isnt married yet?
To stick your head in the sand and hope for a fantasy ending while disregarding all commonsense is like sticking your hand in a meat grinder where people operate the power swith from another room.Once that switch is turned on, its all over but the crying and regrets.

Answer 4

you are 21 and can do what you want, so go for it. you already have something in common - racquetball. But do you know anything else about him? Is he married? Just be careful with your heart before you jump in. Sometimes older men are just looking for a young woman to boost their ego. But why not give it a chance. If nothing else, you will get some life experience. Have fun.

Answer 5

So, what’s your question? It seems like you’ve made up your mind to do this. You’re an adult and you have that right.

But do I think anything will become of this other than sex? It’s highly unlikely. In this situation, age is much more than a number. It represents a huge difference in maturity, life experience, goals, etc. And no matter how mature you may think that you are, you guys are not at the same place. But, it’s a stroke to his ego that someone so young and (obviously) eager to please is interested in him. While you might enjoy each other for a time, it’s likely going to be relatively short-lived/won’t lead to anything serious. And don’t expect that others are going to think there is anything to this relationship beyond the physical. But, if that’s what you want (and if so, there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with that), then go for it. But if you end up with your heart broken, remember that you were warned.


EDITED TO ADD THIS:

Oh, for Christ’s sake, I just realized who you are because I’ve answered question from you under your numerous other accounts. And THIS MAN IS MARRIED--that’s a rather important piece of information to leave out, don’t you think?. So, here we go with the REST of the story:

The man’s wife was supposedly your ‘friend’ although she really wasn’t, she was your former college teacher who you became obsessed with. You harassed her incessantly and asked HUNDREDS of questions about her under your other accounts--why won’t she return my phone calls, why won’t she respond to my emails, do you think she likes me, is it okay if I take her newborn baby a present, is it okay if I give her a birthday present, etc, etc, etc. And at one point you even claimed that you ‘loved’ her (no, I don’t think it was ‘romantic’ love but still…). And then you went and got a job where her husband works (at this gym) so you could stalk him too. And now you want to scr*w him? That’s how you treat friends who you love? Grow some morals, and for the love of God, GET SOME PROFESSIONAL HELP, because you desperately need it.

Your other accounts:

As blue_star12111
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=AgWxkQACBUWXeQDfxF0hvb2_7BR.;_ylv=3?show=I9iB66G4aa

As sagittarius_girl806
http://ph.answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=An.VprM2_AeuD8SA6QaG9y6PcRV.;_ylv=3?show=OpHHY1Ypaa

As pink_flamingo1211
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/qa/index;_ylt=Ar.QKZQWuo59AuJCN8eg4lfsy6IX;_ylv=3?link=question&more=y&show=awHVRisBaa

As greenturtle
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=AhiXu9ffAIkKCnMzM_NOXlK_7BR.;_ylv=3?show=twibrGkraa

And God only knows how many other accounts you have (a violation of community guidelines, by the way).

Answer 6

Tell her to use protection so she won't end up prego and tell her that no matter what happens, you'll be there for her. Most likely, (not to be mean or anything), the guy will end up dumping her after he's tired of her or cheating on her, so the last thing she wants is to have a baby so young.

Answer 7

Number one.Stop wright there!Men don't like to be chased.Let them to the running.Don't call him anymore than what you did.Know let him make the move to you.I know it's going to be heard but sit back and relax and find something you like to do best to keep your mind off the man.I know I'm 35 and I have been down the road a bit.Good luck and I wish the best.

Answer 8

I’m not sure what you are thinking. This man is MARRIED. He works with you. He is your Teacher! His wife was your teacher before she had THEIR CHILD a few months ago. You pursued this woman as your friend and asked hundreds of questions about her. When she finds out, and she will, she’s going to go off on you. She can get you kicked out of college with all the e-mails you have sent to her. She could even come on here and see these posts and use those. Do you think she will care that her hus loses his job(s) once she finds out? I promise, she won’t. She’ll do whatever it takes to protect her family.

Get back together with your bf and stop all this silliness.

You never ask questions that include anything about your family. Do you have one? Go see them.

Please, stop posting the same questions in your other IDs:

Sagittarius_girl806-
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=AlmlHo11U9LMd8YC5IbLKiTC7BR.;_ylv=3?show=OpHHY1Ypaa

Black_panda12-
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArUDFHI9lHn9LDyGXnJ_jQrsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071115201931AA30RUe

blue_star12111-
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=AlkSXFLkCMgR3Hsdi7m5v_Dsy6IX;_ylv=3?show=I9iB66G4aa

Pink_flamingo1211-
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=Auxs5aepTPQg1dhfl_gk8wvsy6IX;_ylv=3?show=awHVRisBaa

Green_virgo098-
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=AjXKgLoQ5AwxB44IrnYVIFvsy6IX;_ylv=3?show=cEvi6GUlaa

Yello_star166-
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=AlCdtvTjo_jq098Nz.lqdTnsy6IX;_ylv=3?show=MQm8QtL9aa

Green_smiley23-
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=Avt5kPjQkZ7v4d0NVLzqNnrsy6IX;_ylv=3?show=mgswOmiEaa

You are sabotaging yourself. Stop before you do something that will permanently damage your reputation and life!

Answer 9

So what was the part that you needed help with? You already know he is a player and a user and you don't mind if it turns out bad. You want to find out for yourself which you will. If it gets sexual, use protection !

Answer 10

He's already told you that it's sexual and that's probably all it is. If you can deal with that, get ready for the roller coaster ride he'll put you through and the pain that will come since you've revealed your feelings to him.

Answer 11

Sounds like you have already made up your mind and you have requested no bad comments. So I guess I have nothing to say.