My nephew wants a playstation for a wedding gift?

Question

My 19 year old nephew is getting married next month to his 19year old fiance.
I feel as though they are too young to be marrying.
One of the gifts they want is a Sony playstation.
Do you think this is a necessary gift?

I think it shows they are still kids.
It's one of the high list priority gifts too.

Should I try and encouarge him to wait until they are older to marry or keep my nose out of it?
They are spending $50,000 on the wedding.(sigh)

Answer 1

Hey, everyone needs a little fun in their life!
If you feel that gift is inappropriate, just get them something else.

As far as trying to talk him into waiting, I'd say it's fruitless.
I'm sure that his parents, her parents, their grandparents, their other aunts and uncles, and any other adult with good sense have already talked their ears off about how they ought to wait.
They don't care, they're young and they think they know better.
Ultimately, putting them through that conversation again will probably piss them off.

My fiance and I almost got married when I turned 18. I seriously almost tackled my cousin when she was the umpteenth person to tell me that I would be making a horrible mistake. The only reason we didn't get married then was because he did something that totally broke my trust in him, and I needed time to heal. I'm glad that it happened though, 24 is a much more suitable age to get married.

My point is, they have to figure things out for themselves.
You can list good reason to wait a few years until you're blue in the face, and they won't hear one word of it.
The best thing you can do is give him good advice on how to have a long, happy marriage.

EDIT: $50,000!? Am I the only person in the world who thinks it's insane to spend that kind of money on one day?

Answer 2

My parents got married on my mom's 19th birthday and my dad was almost 21. They have been married 27 and show no signs of ever getting a divorce. At the time of their marriage they were both just starting their lives and it allowed them to grow together more easily. They were definitely a little immature (my dad still is at 48) Some people never grow up!

As to a play station as wedding gift : if you think it is inapproiate don't get it for him. I don't think it is a necessary gift but why should every gift be necessary? If they are spending $50, 000 (which I agree is a little much) on the wedding it can't be that small so they will probably get more necessary gifts than they know what to do with.

What is your idea of an appropriate gift. If you would have been okay with them asking for a board game or a deck of cards than you should be okay with a playstation.

Also, if you were really concerned that they were too young you shouldn't have waited until a month before the wedding to say something.

Answer 3

I think that is cute in a way that they like video games but my friend who got married asked for as part of her shower gifts cames like trouble and sorry and checkers to take with her on her honeymoon and to have recreation. No I dont think the gift is practical or neccessary.

If you feel they are too young to be married you should lovingly talk to them 19 is young these days but years ago My mom was enagaged at 17 married at 18 and had her first child at 19 9 months and 5 days after her honeymoon.
I know a couple who married at 19 and they are very happy and have 4 sons.

I would encourage you to talk to your nephew and his intended and 50,000 dollars for a wedding is not a very wise choice of how to spend money. I did not even spend half of that when I got married. They need to be told about real life and that the wedding is for one day the marriage is forever

They should have used the money to buy a home or a nice condo or use some of the money on a nice honeymoon.

Encourage them to get some sort of marraige counseling, it is not the age that is young in this case (many marry young in the sourthern states) it is the mentality they both have that makes them very young.

I am married 14 years and I had a lot of growing up to do in the fantasy world marriage is the solution for everything however in the real world even the best marriages have problems and conflict_What smart woman know (its a book)

Pray for wisdom and guidance when you speak with them someone needs to bring the blissfully engaged couple back to earth to the real world. e4g

Answer 4

Well, I can't see spending 50,000 on a wedding. No wondering you are having problems, they apparently don't have the concept of money down. If my parents gave me that instead of the 5,000 I am getting I would be taking the 5,000 for the wedding and the rest for a nice down payment on a house in the future. As for the playstation that is not a gift for a marriage or wedding. Wedding gift are suppose to help you set up your future home or apartment. This is a fun gift not something to help with the start of there future. I agree with you that if this is a gift that it just shows they are still kids also. I also believe with many on here that he not going to listen, even if you are close about marrying at such a young age. There are many that have gotten married young and survived for many years or for a lifetime, but it all depends on matureness of the couple. Good Luck!

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with a man of any age wanting a playstation. Boys like Toys!!! Regardless of their age.

However, I think he has his priorities wrong. While a playstation is an OK gift for a birthday or Christmas, it's not for a wedding.

Since he can't understand what a marriage is really about (setting up a life and a household) then he's way to young to be getting married.

Answer 6

Well if you look at it this way, what's the worse that could happen? they will end up divorced and in $50,000 debt... that's the worse thing... as for the play station... you're right, that's SO childish... i would split the cost of that gift with like 4 other people... lol... that's the only fair thing to do. But $50,000 is a lot for people that young... but if they have the $, let them blow it i guess... as for giving them advice, don't, just stay out of it, they have to learn from their own mistakes... good luck!

Answer 7

The reason that some couples register for items such as a playstation, is that they can go to the store after the wedding and buy anything that was not purchased as gifts at a discount.

If you do not support this marriage, then do not attend the shower or the wedding.

Answer 8

By all means express your opinion about them getting married young. Perhaps start with the parents of your nephew and see if they share your concern. As for the playstation it sounds like it is on a gift registry. If you don't want to buy a luxury item for them don't. Get something more practical. I agree the choice does show their age, however it may be the only time they ever get to have this sort of wish list. Try to support them the best you can. We are all a bit impulsive, selfish and prone to foolishness when young!

Answer 9

My goodness, wanting a playstation for a wedding gift is definitely a good indication that there too young to be getting married. You probably wont be able to talk them out of the marriage but I'd say you should have a talk with him, so that if it doesnt work you'll be excluded from the "Nobody Told Me" list.

Answer 10

I agree with you. The fact that he wants a Playstation proves that he is too immature to get married. No, of course, it's not a necessary gift.

I wouldn't say anything to him. He may be immature, but he is an adult and will get married whather you approve or not. Sometimes, people need to make their own mistakes.