Me & this guy are talking about dinner and a movie. Should I expect that he'll pay for me or what?
2007-11-15 14:02:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-11-15 14:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Never expect anyone to pay for your meal or entertainment, unless they directly ask you out on a date. If you two just hanging out as friends, then bring money to go dutch. But if you have asked him out, again have money to pay for the both of you or just tell him you would pay for the dinner and he can pay for the movie. But that is that. Unrealistic expectations on dates and with friends, causes issues.
2007-11-15 22:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I think thats actually rather rude when a girl expects that & I wouldn't want to go anywhere near a girl who expected me to pay for her on a date.
I#'d pay for her becuase i WANTED to , not becuase I was EXPECTED to if you get what I mean.
It's 2007 now & I believe it's 50/50 in regards to everything, just how a girl can say a guy is being sexist saying a mnechanic & football is only for men, then in the same breath say they expect a man to pay on their date cause it's what men do, is very patronising.
Infact, football or a mechanic is just as equal to women as is paying on a date, you want the 50/50 thing in life IE women are equal then you ask these Q's about expecting a guy to pay on a date.
The mechanic thing is just an example, because it is seen mainly as a male dominated job (cause mainly men do it), but my point is, women can do it just as good too, if they of course chose to, they should have the right just as a man does, they could do the job just as good, or better, it doesn;t matter.
Personally, I believe women ARE equal & i think with that should come the thing in ALL ways, including dates, maybe before our time in the 40's, 50's, 60's or whatever era's that was the case, but it's 2007 & expecting a guy to pay on a date is wrong.
Personally I WOULD pay for a girl on a date, becuase I'd WANT to & I'd feel it's nice / right (I wanna treat my girl the best I possibly can), but I'd find it quite rude if I found out she EXPECTED me to pay, then i'd tell her to get on her bike.
If he pays for you, then thats lovely & it's nice bnut please don't EXPECT it, cause thats wrong.
50/50 ya know ... ya want it, you gotta give it too, not just in whats an advantage to you.
2007-11-15 22:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I always offer. If he pays, then I pay the tip and we would kind of switch if we went out more often. I would pay one and he would pay the next one.
My boyfriend and I now are usually alternating with the food and the tip.
On my first date with my boyfriend I actually said, You pay for yours and I will pay for mine because you are not getting anything after wards.
We have been dating for a year now. :)
2007-11-15 22:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my day, We,Guys, always paid..its the proper way for a gentleman to behave,of course we did stuff like opening doors, holding coats, pulling out chairs, and in formal settings rising when women entered or exitted. I think if a guy takes a girl out on a date he should pay, if they go out to do something as friends, then its acceptable for them to split the expenses if she wants, However its not good form to allow a woman to buy a man drinks or a meal those things he should pay..should the date go real well he should pay for the hotel also.
2007-11-15 22:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by little_whipped_mousey 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I always leave it to the girl myself. Whatever she is cool about doing. I always go into a date expecting to pay, but if she offers and after I tell her I’ll take care of it and she still persists we will either split the bill or find another arrangement to pay.
2007-11-15 22:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Casey Pieper 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pay 1/2 and he pays 1/2 that way its equal
2007-11-15 22:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by ~♥JJ♥~ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never expect anything, always take enough money to pay for yourself and a cab home, just in case.
If he offers to pay it is up to you whether or not to accept, but you should never assume unless he tells you directly.
2007-11-15 22:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by paganmom 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Offer to pay, but chances are he won't ask you to. Especially if its a first date. Don't expect it, that's rude. Come prepared just in case. :) Have fun!
2007-11-15 22:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by Patti 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think who ever thought about it should pay or you can just ask him if you guys are paying for yourself or one of you can pay for dinner and the other pays for the movie
2007-11-15 22:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you should just tease him a little bit like buy something big and expensive but not way over the top and offer to pay and see if he pays if he doesnt pay he is a cheap guy who wouldnt pay for you so tell him next
2007-11-15 22:06:57 · answer #11 · answered by Jennifer I 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋