What can I do for my neighbor who I really don’t know well. Their house is on fire as I write this. The fire department is on scene they have it under control and it is far enough from my house. I feel so helpless for them. I want to go our there and hug them. I too had a house fire last November 2, 2006. I saw the flames and those feelings of helplessness and hopelessness came back again. I pulled up on my street and saw it. I sat in my car and wept when I pulled in the drive. My Next door neighbor is down there but I cant bring myself to go. I’m afraid I would break down right there on the spot being as I have walked that mile in their shoes. Is it wrong for me not to show support and walk down there? Am I being selfish?
2007-11-15 14:01:36 · 6 answers · asked by momof3 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You're not selfish. Triggers of feelings can be overwhelming. Take time to yourself to settle down with emotion and then you can show support to them. They are probably going nuts right now, so they might need time to calm down as well. Best of luck! :)
2007-11-15 14:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by cammy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it was a fire in my neighborhood, I would go regardless of how well I knew the owners and offer my support and anything else they might need. You lived through such a ghastly experience and understand how much those people need to know people are there for them. And it's all right to break down. It's a terrible thing but your having experienced what they are now going through could be so helpful for them to know how to get through it. Do what you can and you might also be able to move past your own nightmare by doing a good deed for someone else.
2007-11-15 14:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What can I do for my neighbor? Her house is on fire.....I would go over there (be strong..) and if possible when the fire is over...see if you can help salvage anything...mostly photographs, You could bring them home lay them on a big blanket ,in an out of the way place, so they can dry off or whatever. Go to Wal-mart get a few photo albums and after you have inspected them, put them in the photo album. When you see them out there, sometime after you've accomplished this, present it to them. If you have walked a mile in their shoes, you should be the expert in this situation, ask yourself what would I like my neighbors to do?
2007-11-15 14:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by mj 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you experienced the same trauma proves you are not selfish. Your emotions were stimulated by seeing something similar to the same trauma you experienced. Relax and calm down as well as giving your unfortunate neighbors time to calm down. Then perhaps inviting them for coffee and a place to sit and gather their thoughts about what to do next will be considerable support to them.
2007-11-15 15:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by Emissary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Offer them a place to wait; they may not want to stand out and watch, and it may not be any good for them to do so. A cup of coffee or tea and a seat in your kitchen may be what they need.
2007-11-15 14:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by bonitakale 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should go down and give them a hug and tell them you're there for them. i hope they didn't lose everything...
2007-11-15 14:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋