My boss was so rude today....what should I do?

Question

I work at a bank an my immediate supervisor was being so snappy today. From the second I go t to work she was complaining, she was in a bad mood towards me, snapping at me and just being overall unfriendly and unapproachable.

I usually have an upbeat personality and am generally smiley and happy at work but today it was just so hard because her attitude was dragging me down. She wasn't acting like this to anyone else.

How can I deal with her? To be honest, she's intimidating and I don't want to confront her about it. Even HER boss (the branch manager) is intimidated by her and won't confront her about anything. I just want to know what to do in the future. She's a very loud, speak her mind kind of person and very fakey. She can switch from nice to B*tch in an instant, so I'm worried about confronting her. What should I do?

Answer 1

ASK HER IF YOU HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG, AND WHEN SHE SAYS NO, SAY, WELL I DONT APPRECIATE YOU TALKING TO ME IN THAT TONE, SEE, SHE TREATS YOU LIKE THAT BECAUSE SHE CAN AND AS SOON AS YOU STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND SHUT HER DOWN, YOU WILL NO LONGER BE HER PERSONAL PUNCHING BAG!!!

Answer 2

What does it really matter if your boss is unpleasant? She's not breaking any law. Maybe she doesn't like you. You get on her last nerve. She doesn't want you to be upbeat and smiley. She doesn't like upbeat and smiley. If she did, that's how she would be and she's not. She's very fakey. Maybe she's mentally ill. Maybe her life sucks lemons. Who knows.

Bottom line, she wants the work done. Do that. As well as you possibly can, focussing on her priorities and not on your own. It is the only thing you can do that will earn even the slightest appreciation.

I would not waste time reporting this to anyone. Not unless you think she's breaking a law, and there is not law against generally being a bad manager. It just adds to the already busy "to do" list of whomever gets your complaint. Moreover, they could very well solve the problem by getting rid of you. (People in your position are almost always less valuable than people in hers.)

Look for a job somewhere else. There are a lot of banks out there. Maybe the managers there are nicer. I think your odds of finding a nicer manager are a lot higher than changing this manager.

In the mean time, try to train yourself to be less sensative to her. Every time she is unpleasant to you give yourself a point, and an extra point for ignoring her. Reward yourself for every 50 points or something like that. Make tolerating her BS into a game for yourself. Perhaps you'll get to the point that you're really hoping she'll have a bad day so that you can earn your last 6 points. (And no fair goading her into anything.) And then, when you're away from work, stop thinking about her. You're letting her rob you of your free time and not just the time the company is paying you to let them ruin.

A high tolerance for unpleasant managers is an excellent job skill. How lucky that you get so much practice.

Answer 3

What should you do about your rude boss?....It sounds like she is controlling this bank. I feel you must go over her head and report her. Obviously, the branch manager isn't the solution. You have to go higher in rank....How about the President....Just be prepared with everything written down, dates, times etc., copy what you have written on your question page, but without any swear words.....I'm sorry for you a person like this can just ruin a persons outlook on life....She has no right doing this, if she's having a bad day, she has to learn to leave her problems outside of the bank door....

Answer 4

I would not put up with that. unless well..i didnt fancy getting fired. You could ask her..why are you snapping at me? I do not appreciate being treated this way and nor do I deserve it. She is a *****. Poor you.
Once my branch manager was rude to me so I went into major overtime ( i got some chips!) and she had to pay me time and a half. Little passive aggressive of me but sometimes that is very satisfying.
Or actually yes..like that other person said. You should go thru to human resources..bypass your branch manager but tell her you are going to hr to keep her in the loop so she doesn't get pissed at you. Then have a nice long talk with the hr lady. Also start researching something called a Personal Grievance..you can take these out against a manager harassing you. Keep a log of the incidences with a time and date and brief description and mention to hr that you will start doing this. Also talk to your union. Ooooo you go!!! Stand up for number one!

Answer 5

Speaking from experience, I know how you feel. This is how I handled my situation. Once your boss settles in from her morning tantrum, ask to speak to her in private (no, you're not going to strangle her ;}). Once you are both sitting down face to face, let her know how her actions as a professional are having an impact on your job. My scenerio: ME-May I speak to you for a moment. BOSS-Sure. ME-I would like to make you aware of your attitude that has been going on for about two wks now. I have personally notice that you have been very snappy lately and I would like to know if everything is OK. BOSS-Yeah! (with attitude again) everything is fine. ME-This morning, I didn't like the way you responded when I tried to ask you a question. You looked as though I was getting on your last nerve and responded coldly WHAT DO YOU WANT??? BOSS-[looking puzzled as though I should not be speaking to her about her attitude] ME-They way you came in this morning, if I was in the same mood, we would have had some complications at work. Too many times have you snapped and no one has said anything. I think you need to sit back and listen before you speak to your team. Something is going to be said that will cause someone their job. BOSS-You're not the first person who has bought this to my attention, my husband and son has also. ME-I think they're right. Because for me I was very hurt this morning by your response that I walked away in disgust and became upset and angry, I had to go and talk to someone before I confronted you about this. Not to mean any disrespect, I believe you need to learn how to talk to other adults. We are all humans and I'm sure you would not allow me to snap at you. BOSS-Thank you for bringing this to my attention and I appreciate your honesty and being a woman to come and talk to me face to face. ME-No problem. I have to tell you, at first my supervisor didn't want to speak to me, not even a Good Morning. But she finally came around and there was no more attitude, just a little distant when she was feeling herself. I would definitely say step up to the plate and take a bat. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

Answer 6

You don't happen to work for the "fraction" do you? It's common in banking to have a bad boss. I spent some time there myself, and went into an entire different industry. Banking is a haven for bad managers. Why? Because it's simple work and most of it is labor intensive. Most of the managers in banking are kiss-asses and have no morals themselves. Look at the sub-prime mess. Look at the bad loans written. Enough said. My suggestion... get the hell out of banking!

Good Luck!

Answer 7

...report her, and make sure you document all events with dates and times...show them that there is a pattern here.

and, whatever you do, don't snap back at her, and don't discuss this issue with any other employee; and don't comment on the issue with anyone else, should they bring the subject up to you

After you complain, if nothing changes, do yourself a big favor and leave and get another job. You don't need to be subject to anyone's mood swings, theres a mental problem somewhere here.

Answer 8

Most cities have inexpensive Roses for a few dollars.
If you can find 1/2 dozen inexpensive roses and say, I hope these brighten your day.

Answer 9

Shes a Bully ( they do come in the female form you knoe , tacfully ask infrount of all the staff if she was a DFB.

A daddy fcuking |Biche , these types usually are they think they can screw any man ( daddy) and bully every woman Mummy .

The problem they have is with gay guys who will tell them are you a DFB

Answer 10

Your supervisor was under a lot of stress and time constraints and noticed that you were goofing off and didn't pick up on the hints to get with the program. Just do your job and do it well and quit blaming stuff on your supervisor.