So im 20 years old and my boyfriend is 18. Im not really into sex and he wants to very Very often. We've been dating for 15 months and i really do love him. I Love him very very much. This morning he really wanted to and i Really didnt want to, he was complaining and going on about it for an hour this morning and i finally said Fine! just so he would shut up. Ive been angry all day and when he got home he's expeting everything to be fine and that when he says sorry it will all be better. Its not the first time that this has happened either.
Am i justified in being upset? If anybody has any thoughts on this please help me.
Im so lost and i really dont know what to do.
Help
2007-11-15 13:29:04 · 17 answers · asked by stephanie j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should mention that i live with him and it isnt the first time that we've had sex. We used to when we first started going out pretty often but i havent been wanting to lately
2007-11-15 13:39:39 · update #1
Yes, you are justified in being angry, but you should be more angry at yourself for doing something you don't want to do. If you have to make so many changes to be with him then you are cheating yourself and will have to change all the time to "make him happy". You ought to think your compatibility through, and ask yourself what changes he is making to make you happy? Everything is give and take, you are giving way too much and fooling yourself if you think that by "giving in" is true love.
2007-11-15 13:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by banger_sisster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to resepct the fact that you dont want to have sex all the time.and you need to sit downand make sure he knows that becuse he cant make you feel bad for not wanting sex. but at the same time you have to remember that guys think about sex 24/7 and its not just an excuse for them to have sex they really do so holding off sex from a guy for to long is almost like punishing them so you could maybe offer something else instead of sex when your not in the mood for sex such as hand jobs or head. sit down and talk to him about all this becuase this could be a big probley with you two in the future.
2007-11-15 13:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by bebe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe youre not into sex that much cause you have it too often with him, i mean, if hes 18 than he must be a horndog, but just because of that you shouldnt give in to his desires so you get him off your back, hes no child and youre not candy!!! like today you ended up mad all day and im pretty sure hes very happy, that shouldnt be the case, tell him you want to build up your desire again by waiting a week or so to have sex again.
good luck
2007-11-15 13:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by suehellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-24 07:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by novielli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't expect [or force] you to do anything you don't want to do. Hopefully he's considerate and concerned about your feelings and is willing to discuss the issue.
Generally If 2 have a different libido [sex drive] there may be a strain on the relationship.
Also, if you have a low libido, you may have a physiological problem. If so, discuss this with your doctor.
2007-11-15 14:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by THX1138 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just cheated yourself, how can you just say fine becuase he wants it but you dont? he shouldnt have to pressure you to do something you didnt want to do, that is NOT love that is called selfish and greed, why are you still with him, if youre not ready youre just NOT ready, he should have respected that.
if you had sex with him becuase he wanted it then you will regret this for the rest of your life, you should saved your purity for the right guy, not some guy who couldnt wait, acting as though it was a matter of life and death if he did get any
EDIT: just becuase youre not into sex doesnt make you unnormal, there are plenty of people who are not sex hungry freaks,
2007-11-15 13:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guy should ever force a girl into having sex, even if they're in a relationship like you are. If you dont want sex, then dont have it. He should respect it. He kinda sounds like an ***
Though, is it just sex you dont want? What about going down on him? Or is that included in not wanting sex.
2007-11-15 13:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever had sex? If you have had sex then why do you not like it? Did you have a bad experience or something? If you were not ready to have sex with him then you shouldn't have had sex with him. It sounds like he is just using you for sex. He is just going to tell all of his friends that he got a older gurl. If you didn't want to have sex with him then that probably means he doesn't turn you on and you should look for someone older and more mature who is willing to wait for you to be ready. Im 18 and my gurl is 18 and she wants to have sex with me just as much as i want to with her. So maybe you just don't find him attractive as much as you first did.
2007-11-15 13:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't compromise yourself to satisfy him, you'll only end up hurting yourself. Tell him how you feel about the situation and his behavior. If he cant see your point of view then maybe you need a new man, one more considerate. Next time you say no mean it and stick with it, that's the only way he will learn that you won't tolerate his behavior.
2007-11-15 13:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes pressuring u about it than confront him about it
it u dont want to have sex than dont give in...
now if he keeps pressuring u than break up with him even tho u love him ull find some one better that respects u and when or when not u want to have sex.. every thing will work out sooner or later just wait for what the future has to hold for u..=)
2007-11-15 13:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋