Why he did that with me ?

Question

I really love my bf sooo much .
And we were serious about our relationship but he did something that i really cant take it .
A month ago he had sex with 2girl at wore's place .
And he told me he was honest with me .
But its really hard to take him back
I cant even stay without him a second , i am in love with him so much , but i am helpless .
I want him but whenever those things come in my head i get upset and just think about not to be with him .
I want him so badly but it really hurt to take him back
We had relationship for 2years . He used to love me so much but why he did that with me ?
After he told me about those I brokeup with him 2weeks ago.And he still text me how 's everything ?how's my study going etc . it seems i really cant stay without him luv him so much
Can anyone help me what should i do ?
should i leave him or just try to adjust and give him one more chance
plz answer this
thank u

Answer 1

Well, it's great that you guys are close enough that he told you, that's really good. But I don't think there is ever a justifiable reason to cheat on someone, espically someone you love.

Me personally, I have morals and if my boyfriend cheated on me, I would leave, because I would want a man to respect me more then that. I also would never be able to trust him again.

A relationship is built on trust, and right now, he has no trust. If you do choose to take him back, in order to make the relationship work, you WILL HAVE TO move on, forget the pass, and forgive and forget. If you continue to think about it, then you will never be able to move on. If you don't think you can forget it and forgive him, then don't get back with him. Because you won't be able to ever trust him.

Answer 2

Talk about it first and then make a decision. If you really love him and if he really loves you, then you guys can work it out. Generally I despise cheaters, but if he came out and told you then he probably felt bad, and that means that he still feels for you. Talk to him and see why he cheated, and if need be, sit back and scope him for a couple of weeks to see how he handles being alone and if he's moving on too quickly (If it was love, then you can tell; also if you take this advice then please, for the love of everything holy, dont go too far and spy on him or anything like that). You may be suprised with what you find, and you may even be able to forgive him. But if you do go for an explanation, watch to see if he tries to make it seem like it's your fault; thats something that says he doesn't care enough to take responsibility. And above all go with your heart. No one can tell you the best route to take in a situation like this because, despite the stereotype of men being pigs, not all men are the same; you have to use your judgement about what you know about him. Best wishes

Answer 3

Break up with him and don't take him back. I know it's easier said than done, but it's harder to stay with him and have him break your heart again. if he loved you back, he wouldn't hurt you like that. he wouldn't seek something in anyone else because you would be everything he's looking for. he doesn't love you and he doesn't deserve you. ignore his texts. you need space to get over someone. how are you supposed to fall out of love with him if he won't give you the chance to. explain to him "I need space away from you. just because you were honest about it and said sorry doesn't mean it's okay. you don't get to break my heart and put it back together too. "

if you step on a snake and get bit, why step on it again

Answer 4

Don't take this the wrong way, but you need to Shove your feelings and use your head.
What he did is a deal breaker and what if one or both of those girls turn up pregnant?
What if he got something from them like herpes?
Will he do it again?
All you have is what he has done up to the present to go by.
Hurt heal and move on.

Answer 5

If it still bothers you and he still wants to talk to you all the time, try talking to him about it. Tell him what's bothering you. Tell him that you still care about him but it still hurts you. If he gets mad when you ask it usually means he's still thinking about/regreting what he did. sometimes guys do things that hurt people they love and they don't realize how bad they screwed up until its too late. if that happens try telling him that he can come to you when he's ready to set everything straight. (i tried this with a guy once.) hope everything works out hon.

Answer 6

Hunny you can do so much better.

He cheated on you! he has no respect for you or what you stand for! there are guys out there that will crave you every minute of every day, and they'll respect you for who you are.

dump this dude. NOW. or walk away. hes not worth it. You seem like such a smart girl, follow your heart and dump this D*uche.

Answer 7

Like the other two answerers says are very correct. Sooner or later he's gonna abuse his authority and go out with more w.hores.

Answer 8

You so such not! Find some eles live life duhh. will that what i did expect me an him were you know!!
but now we are best friends and i hav the best bf ever so just live life!!!!!! GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

WHAT!!! HE CHEATED ON YOU! IF HE THINKS HE CAN TREAT YOU LIKE DIRT,THATS ALL YOU WILL EVER GET FROM HIM. LOVE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING WHEN YOU FIND THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE WHO TRULY LOVES YOU. WHAT HE DID IS NOT LOVE,DID YOU EVER THINK HE WAS BANKING ON YOU LOVING HIM ENOUGH TO TAKE HIM BACK....SO HE WENT ON AND ACTED LIKE YOU WERE NOT NOTHING.

Answer 10

i'd leave. respect is honesty for telling you but that is foul but if you think you can trust him go for it but be prepared for round 2. "lets get ready to rumble."