i have a boyfriend, who i care about deeply; but i talk to my best guy friend every single night for hours at a time. me and my best guy friend have only known each other for six months, but it feels like i've known him forever. we've even both agreed on the fact that we WOULD be dating if it weren't for him living 815 miles away. i do have deep feelings for him, and every time we say goodbye to each other (whether it's on the phone, or on IM) we always say 'i love you' to each other. he gets jealous and starts talking about my boyfriend every time i bring up his name, saying i deserve better than him. i have strong feelings for both of them, but i'm starting to think i love my best guy friend more than my boyfriend. what should i do? it's not like i can break up with my boyfriend for my best guy friend because i couldn't date him if i wanted to since he lives in another state. but is this considered cheating? saying 'i love you' and talking to him more than i talk to my boyfriend?
2007-11-15 13:17:13 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well my best guy friend actually knows my boyfriend, that's why he's saying i deserve better. my guy friend just recently moved about a few months ago. however, he is saying he's possibly going to move back down here sometime next year if he can get the money. either that, or he said he is willing to drive the 815 miles to see me on the weekends. it's just that my best guy friend, even though he is so far away, i can still talk to him about anything...but i have not yet developed that level of trust in my boyfriend. me and my boyfriend have a new relationship, so there's no telling that in time i could develop stronger feelings for him than my best guy friend.
2007-11-15 13:26:26 · update #1
Would you say it if your boyfriend was standing there listening?
That is my gage...if I wouldn't say or do something with him standing there then it is wrong.
2007-11-15 13:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by msnoname7 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes that is cheating.If your b/f is not your best friend then marriage is DEFINITELY out of the question.
What happens when things aren't going good and some guy is hanging in the shadows waiting for your relationship to bite the dust so he can have a shot at you?
No b/f or husband will ever share you with some "guy friend" that you are more intimate with than you are with him.
I bet if he was spending that much time with some other chick and was closer to her than you and felt that if she was within arms reach you would be history, you'd be plenty upset.
The fact is the attention is what you like and the companionship.Maybe you should stop dating your b/f just because he is available and concentrate on closing the distance between you and this other guy, or finding a guy like him.
2007-11-15 13:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you are cheating and you should do the right thing and break up with your boyfriend, even if you don't start seeing this other guy. Also this other guy doesn't sound too flash if he is telling you that you deserve better, what would he know? And if he is the jealous type then your life with him will be hell especially considering you live far away your conversations will be all about explaining where you have been and who you were with
2007-11-15 13:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by chocolateman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you feel kinda guilty / sneaky? then yes
Would your boyfriend be happy to know the above details?
Let him go - its not fair on him to be second best
Or make the decision to stick with your boyfriend because you can't be with your other 'friend'...who you like more than a friend....and then be loyal to your boyfiend
Or dump boyfriend and be with 'friend'
Or just carry on as you are
Either way - its up to you...whatever makes you happy at the moment
But if you can't be with your friend - then whats the point?....you would be frustrated with the situation even if you were single!!!
2007-11-15 13:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you love your guy friend. you just don't want to admitt it yet.
if you care about someone else other than your boyfriend, be fair to everyone and break it off with him. the longer you put it off, the harder it is, and the more it hurts. for both of you.
good luck!
2007-11-15 13:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by Alyssa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between physical cheating and emotional cheating...
Yes, you are emotionally cheating on your boyfriend.
2007-11-15 13:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
emotional cheating
2007-11-15 13:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no
2007-11-15 13:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by mrmojorisin102863 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋