I was cut off from family, now cousins wife called, what do i do?
To make a long story short my extended family on my Mom side have verbally abused me, my mom, and sister for years.
4 years ago my Mom only became assertive and would not allowed to be bullied.
My 50 yr old cousin (Rob) his wife left a message cutting us off- saying "dont call us again".
Ever since no one has called, not even my Mom sister or brother.
Only person that has made contact is the wife of another cousin(Chris), She makes believe she doesnt know anything and calls around holidays for gossip.
Now another cousins wife has called, Jen). She left a message saying to call her. We havent heard from her in 4 years. Kinda strange since thanksgiving is next week, she used to verbally abuse me when i was a child, telling me i have no personality and should drink at age 11.
Then every x-mas she would start a fight with me for no reason, i had to stop attendting because of her. One time she called me a whore in front of everyone at xmas, i cried and left.
Should me ot my Mom call her
2007-11-15 13:08:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what does she want,?
2007-11-15 13:09:15 · update #1
sacred i agree, i think the wives just want to have fun and gossip, my cousins prob dont care
2007-11-15 13:26:10 · update #2
first of all im really sorry. that must be aweful not having your mom or bro or sister to support u and be on your side. anyways i think that she wants to invite u. i might be wrong though. i think that you should talk to her but remeber what she used to do to u. love the people that love u equally and dotn care for the people that dont care about you...even though she is family...she hurt u..so dont trust her a lot. i hope everyhting goes good! good luck
2007-11-15 13:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by dreamer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all,why are the wives calling instead of the cousins?It really is none of their business.I would just let her be and make her wonder what she can do to make things right,and if you want to go to the family things,then go and dont worry about it.After all,they are your family too.Why should you give them up because one or two members don't want you there?
2007-11-15 13:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Either talk to them with a really bright attitude, overflowing with joy and say how great your life is. Maybe embellish a little (or a lot). Make them jealous and wonder.....then forget about them. Creeps.
Or change your number.
2007-11-15 13:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't get drawn back into this. If they have important news or information, they will get in touch again (and leave more info). Stay strong, and you and your mom can support each other.
2007-11-15 13:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't. Why put yourself through that if you don't have to. You have moved on and don't need any toxic family messing with you now. Stay strong.
2007-11-15 13:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by April First 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Forget about them. They don't deserve squat.
2007-11-15 13:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
forgetthem find somone special and become part of there fam
2007-11-15 13:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by renee b 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on forward with your life and forget them, you don't need dead weights holding you back!!!!! I know your pain!!!!!!!
2007-11-15 13:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
F U C K them. You don't need their crap.
2007-11-15 13:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋