He does not like any other girls, and his best friend finally told me he moved to Chicago AFTER he already left.
2007-11-15 13:02:48 · 19 answers · asked by Marissa G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry you have to go through this.
There are lots of reasons why people just up and leave people that love them. It's easy to assume that he didn't really care about you, but- honestly- this isn't always the case. People hurt people they love, very badly, all the time.
Just because this may not have been his intention, though, does not mean you should expend your energy and your affection on figuring out his real motivation for leaving. Even if he cared about you, even if he told you he loved you every day, he cared a great deal more about himself in not telling you face to face.
There may have been a reason that, to him, was a legitimate one for leaving without saying goodbye. That reason was stronger for him than the trust you had invested in each other, and the respect he had for you. In other words, no matter how he wants to spin it to himself, he treated you cheaply.
I don't know the details of your relationship, but anyone deserves a more substantial bond than the one he is prepared to commit to you.
Take the time you need to find out what happened, but even if things do turn out so that he had a good reason, he needs to prove that he is a man before you take one more step in a relationship with him. He is not one now, and he will need to do a lot of taking care of you to prove he is capable of being one.
If things do not work out, it will hurt.
I have been abandoned before, too- and very suddenly. It took me five years to get into another relationship, and all I can say for that is that the previous relationship, which had me crying for days on end, does not even compare to the one I am in now.
Things don't always happen for a reason, but they can be built upon later.
Take care of yourself.
2007-11-15 13:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dang, that's f'ed up!! He sounds like a complete a**! You're better off without him if he did that.
But I must say, he might have been scared, or sad and didn't want to tell you because he was concerned about your feelings, but I don't think that's likely.
How far is Chicago from where you live? He might have thought it was close enough that you wouldn't notice. Again, I don't think that's likely.
Most likely he's a buttmunch and just wanted to get away from you, and wasn't concerned about your feelings at all.
That doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, that just mean he's a complete donkey butt.
2007-11-15 21:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by I ♥ men in uniform 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because honey he is no longer your boyfriend. Is he still talking to you? If not he didn't have the guts to end it with you face to face he just left town. What a coward!
How do you know he doesn't like any other girls? Time to move on even if he contacts you he has shown you a total lack of respect and you can do better than that! Good luck! :)
2007-11-15 21:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow ur dumb lol he either a) left because he had to family wise... b) is in the witness protection plan... or c) didnt care enough to tell you and just wanted out...in my opinion i dont think a and b are too much of an option unless he is a thug or 13 so best bet move on plain and simple he didnt care so you should not either...
2007-11-15 21:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by MissingLove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well wow. im so sorry that you hab such a dumb *** for a boyfren.... not to be mean but how did you not know he was moving... i mean do you not talk to him everyday?!??!
not to be harsh but maybe he didnt tell you he was moving because he didnt wanna hurt you and he didnt wanna make a BIG dilemma bfore he moved bcuz maybe he knew you would hab gotten mad.. i honestly think that you should begin to moved on.. he is a sshole for doing that and you should thank him bcuz now it would be easier for you to let him go. soon he will realize what he has done and how stupid he is and how much he needs you. then he will come bck to your *** and that when you laugh at his face and tell him you dont need him or want him/
2007-11-15 21:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by kaycee says; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't have the heart to tell you he was moving. Maybe he thought avoiding the subject would be better than the possibility of getting in a fight or causing a breakup pre-move. Not the most mature thing, but I can see his reasoning.
2007-11-15 21:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ro 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he needed some time away from you and wanted to distance hisself from you. Or he's decided to just move on and didn't want to take his past with him.
2007-11-15 21:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by Laura P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wanted to dump you and was to scared to do it in person.
2007-11-15 21:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didnt want to hurt you by saying goodbye, so he thought it would be a better idea to just going without saying bye
2007-11-15 21:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow. what a great boyfriend.
has he ever treated you like crap?
he probably didn't think you would care,
and didn't want to be your boyfriend anymore.
2007-11-15 21:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋